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Would you leave your kids poop at someone else's house?

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cheesytoast666 · 21/02/2022 00:46

AIBU to think it's ill mannered to leave your child's dirty/poo nappy in someone's house or bin?

I just had a event in my home with a few families and someone threw their child's nappy full of poo in my bedroom bin without it being in a nappy bag and I felt abit annoyed by it. The nappy was folded but still.

Personally, I wouldn't throw my child's poop nappy in someone's bedroom especially withou a nappy bag and in a bin that has no lid. If I had to get rid of it I would put it in a nappy bag and either take it with me or throw it in a kitchen bin or something with a lid.

Do you guys think I'm being unreasonable here?

OP posts:
Rainallnight · 21/02/2022 07:19

Oh yuck. I have quite low domestic standards but that is gross.

I would have put it in a bag and asked my host where is the best place to put poo nappies.

WhatNoRaisins · 21/02/2022 07:22

I thought the etiquette was outdoor bin

phishy · 21/02/2022 07:22

@GrendelsGrandma

I wouldn't be pleased to find it but I wouldn't be so up in arms that I'd consult mumsnet about my outrage!

I'd put poo in the loo where possible and ask the host where they'd like me to put the nappy. I never used nappy bags, what's the point in wrapping plastic that's sealed up with the tabs in more plastic? It's still a plastic wrapped turd, whichever way you look at it.

If it was an event with a few families, they might not have wanted to bother you or couldn't find you at that moment or whatever. It's not the biggest deal in the world.

OP has used mumsnet for its intended purpose, what’s wrong with that?
GeneLovesJezebel · 21/02/2022 07:23

I’d have used a nappy bag, or asked for a plastic bag if I didn’t have one.
And I’d have put it in the outside bin.

Giraffesandbottoms · 21/02/2022 07:28

what's the point in wrapping plastic that's sealed up with the tabs in more plastic?

The point is it minimises the smell. I don’t know who all these people are who are able to just stroll out casually to the outdoor bin with young children at home but if I did that I would come home 20 seconds later to carnage

Sharrowgirl · 21/02/2022 07:29

Yes, it’s ill-mannered and disgusting. You say a bin without a lid, you mean like a waste paper basket? And the nappy not even in a nappy bag? Yes, absolutely rude and inconsiderate of them.

Jinglebellsoncake · 21/02/2022 07:31

Yes that's gross and must have made your room stink!?
Ata friends house, I would put it outside the back/front door and either throw it in their outside bins (after checking with them), or take it home
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gogohm · 21/02/2022 07:32

I would have put it in a bag but I would have left it, probably in the main outside bin though unless it was a house with a nappy bin

Shoxfordian · 21/02/2022 07:32

It’s pretty disrespectful to have left it in your bedroom; they could have asked to put it outside

skodadoda · 21/02/2022 07:33

@GeraneousGiraffe

I'd put it in a kitchen (if full and nearly ready to go out) or outdoor bin but no, I wouldn't be traipsing home with a handbag full of poo. .
Handbag! Don’t be daft, any parent with a child in nappies carries a baby bag for all the necessary gear.
Lovemydoggie · 21/02/2022 07:35

That is revolting if shitty nappie put straight into indoor bin and even worse if not in a nappie sack !
I think it’s very disrespectful towards you .

Wnkingawalrus · 21/02/2022 07:35

@WhatNoRaisins

I thought the etiquette was outdoor bin
I would always ask and not assume that. Our binmen only take out the big black bags and don’t take anything else out so the bins so they would just get left at ours.

What a cracking start to the week, talking about both nappies and bins before 8am Grin

SnowyPetals · 21/02/2022 07:36

When my children were in nappies I would bag the nappy and if my host also had children in nappies, bin it at their house, but if not, I would take it away with me. I would expect the same of my visitors now that we don't use nappies in our house. Shitty nappies are really unpleasant and my bins only get collected once a fortnight. I don't want them in my bin potentially for two weeks.

GrendelsGrandma · 21/02/2022 07:36

@Giraffesandbottoms

what's the point in wrapping plastic that's sealed up with the tabs in more plastic?

The point is it minimises the smell. I don’t know who all these people are who are able to just stroll out casually to the outdoor bin with young children at home but if I did that I would come home 20 seconds later to carnage

@giraffesandbottoms I always put poo in the loo, so most of the time it wouldn't really smell unless it was a particularly clingy one!
BennieAndBert · 21/02/2022 07:36

I would bag it and ask which was the right bin. I think taking it home with you is a bit odd- it’s not toxic waste.

GrendelsGrandma · 21/02/2022 07:38

@SnowyPetals

When my children were in nappies I would bag the nappy and if my host also had children in nappies, bin it at their house, but if not, I would take it away with me. I would expect the same of my visitors now that we don't use nappies in our house. Shitty nappies are really unpleasant and my bins only get collected once a fortnight. I don't want them in my bin potentially for two weeks.
@snowypetals You'd expect visitors to take shitty nappies home with them? In a hot car? Just so you don't get a whiff when you open your bin? Confused
girlmom21 · 21/02/2022 07:40

They wouldn't be unreasonable if they used a proper bin IMO but the bedroom bin is a bit grim.

SnowyPetals · 21/02/2022 07:45

@GrendelsGrandma Why have you added that weird bit about hot cars? Surely that only applies to visitors arriving by car in high summer? Dramatic effect? I can't stand shitty nappies but fortunately don't know anyone with babies any more so it's rather a moot point anyway. Most likely what I would do is say it's fine for them to put the bagged nappy in my outside bin, then as soon as they've gone, put on my Marigolds and put it in the public bin up the road! 😂

londonrach · 21/02/2022 07:46

When my daughter was younger if she had a poo nappy and I'm at a friend's house my friend allow it in her kitchen bin and likewise I let her pop the nappy bag in our kitchen bin. Never had an issue. Tbh most friends came to my house due to a location so I probably had more friends poo nappies than the other way around. It's not an issue. You ask your friend, usually they with you anyway. It's strange to take it with you.

ThoseFestiveLights · 21/02/2022 07:46

I’d assume my host had thought about it!

JustUseTheDoorSanta · 21/02/2022 07:48

Nappy bag and outside bin. We did that at home regardless for DS nappies, so clearly wouldn't want some random other poo hanging around the house.

DeadButDelicious · 21/02/2022 07:50

I wouldn't put it unbagged in a bedroom bin, that's grim but I also wouldn't expect a guest to cart home a nappy full of poo either. I'd get them to pop it in either the kitchen bin (if it was nearly ready to go out) or in the wheelie bin.

femfemlicious · 21/02/2022 07:51

Wow YaNBU at all!. Poo nappies stink so bad even when folded. I would never put a poop nappy even in someones kitchen bin. I never used to throw poopy nappies in my kitchen bin i used to bag them and throw them into the outside bin. Very unreasonable but what can you doSad

MaryShelley1818 · 21/02/2022 07:52

That's disgusting, the smell must have been awful.
I'd always bag it up and then ask the host if it's OK to use a bin or if I should take it.

woody87 · 21/02/2022 07:53

That's disgusting 🤢

Any reasonable person would put it in a nappy bag (or ask the host for one) and then put it in the outside bin. It's not difficult.

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