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Would you leave your kids poop at someone else's house?

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cheesytoast666 · 21/02/2022 00:46

AIBU to think it's ill mannered to leave your child's dirty/poo nappy in someone's house or bin?

I just had a event in my home with a few families and someone threw their child's nappy full of poo in my bedroom bin without it being in a nappy bag and I felt abit annoyed by it. The nappy was folded but still.

Personally, I wouldn't throw my child's poop nappy in someone's bedroom especially withou a nappy bag and in a bin that has no lid. If I had to get rid of it I would put it in a nappy bag and either take it with me or throw it in a kitchen bin or something with a lid.

Do you guys think I'm being unreasonable here?

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A580Hojas · 21/02/2022 08:45

@AlwaysLatte

That's grim. I never put nappies in indoor bins in my own house, never mind any one else's.
Agreed. And unless absolutely impossible (hardly ever) poo went where it belongs - in the loo and flushed.
RedCandyApple · 21/02/2022 08:45

I use to go to my mums house when mine were babies and she wouldn’t let me put their nappies in her bin, and by that I mean outside bin! I wasn’t allowed to put them in there she said I had to bag them up put them outside her front door and take them with me when I left 😐 so some people won’t even let you use the outside bin!

WouldIwasShookspeared · 21/02/2022 08:48

If they left it in a bin I wouldn't care. Bins are for rubbish. I've raised 2 kids so am well used to nappies. Shit is shit. 🤷‍♀️

If they'd left it to ripen on the kitchen worktop I'd be a bit pissed off.

DarkCorner · 21/02/2022 08:50

That’s grim. I’d always bag it and ask if ok to put in the outside bin or otherwise take it (although would rather not drive home with it!).

CatherinedeBourgh · 21/02/2022 08:53

This thread reminds me of an interaction I had with a friend well before I had dc.

She had changed her dc's nappy, and asked me what she should do with the dirty one. It was clearly disposable, so somewhat confused I said 'er, bin it?'.

She happily nodded and said 'where?', while standing next to a bin.

I answered 'erm, in the bin?'

She happily nodded again and put it in the bin.

I had never until this moment understood what the hell that conversation was about. I cannot believe that someone would be unhappy that a disposable item should go in a bin. That's what bins are for! Just empty them regularly, what's the big deal?

I used reusable nappies, so never had to face this dilemma myself.

Clymene · 21/02/2022 08:53

Leaving a shitty nappy in someone else's bedroom is a revolting thing to do.

I can't believe anyone is defending it.

SoItWas · 21/02/2022 09:03

I always asked where the outside bin was (and used a bag)

haikyew · 21/02/2022 09:07

How unhygienic
Their house must be full of germs
If that’s how they act

Flickflak · 21/02/2022 09:07

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Synchrony · 21/02/2022 09:12

@greenteafiend

This is why people need to flush poo and have proper sealed bags for nappies inside the nappy bag. I used cloth, so would have flushed the poo, then put the bag into the a sealed bag and then into the nappy bag.

If I had used disposables and had not had a sealed bag with me, I would have flushed the poo and then asked my friend what to do with the mucky disposable--most likely she would suggest the outside bin.

This. Yanbu.
Lulu1919 · 21/02/2022 09:15

I'd use a nappy bag....if I knew friend really well I might bin it....but just as easy to pop in bag and take home ...wouldn't offend me if someone did it here..as long as it was in a tightly tied nappy bag

Whelmed · 21/02/2022 09:17

I'd expect a dirty nappy to be put in a bin. Any bin. I asked my friends when visiting and they'd always say the bin as well. Not an outside bin, just closest one.

burnthur5t · 21/02/2022 09:21

Revolting

Why is somebody sneaking around in your bedroom let alone dumping shitty nappies in the bin whilst in there

If only there was a bag to put a shitty nappy in, it could be called a nappy bag. Dragon's Den here I come

EmpressSuiko · 21/02/2022 09:22

I think the unreasonable aspect of this is that your friend/visitor didn’t inform you or ask what to do with it.
When mine were small no one was ever bothered about changing nappies at each other’s home and we were all happy for nappies to go in the bin/nappy bin etc but despite knowing this we’d always ask out of politeness, I was always prepared to take nappies home with me but it was never an issue, even amongst friends/family without children.

WrongWayApricot · 21/02/2022 09:22

I'd assume the guest had gotten flustered or put it there for a moment and forgot about it, I wouldn't be offended unless it happened again.

KosherDill · 21/02/2022 09:23

I am annoyed when people leave it, especially in summer. Should be wrapped, set outdoors and taken with.

Putting in bedroom bin is unspeakable.

KosherDill · 21/02/2022 09:27

@SnowyPetals

When my children were in nappies I would bag the nappy and if my host also had children in nappies, bin it at their house, but if not, I would take it away with me. I would expect the same of my visitors now that we don't use nappies in our house. Shitty nappies are really unpleasant and my bins only get collected once a fortnight. I don't want them in my bin potentially for two weeks.

Exactly.

SlashBeef · 21/02/2022 09:28

Nappy sack and into wheelie bin. I don't have a bedroom bin though 😷 doesn't feel like a nice environment with a bin in.

Sweetleftfood · 21/02/2022 09:30

Obviously bins are for putting rubbish in and the person probably just assumed you put nappies in that bin, but no I would have asked for a plastic bag and then asked where to put it. I would definitely not be annoyed if it went in the outside bin but I also wouldn't expect to go home with a pooey nappy if there are sufficient refuse collection and facilities.

dottymac · 21/02/2022 09:32

It'd be last time I'd invite those people over - you can guarantee they will be the ones that when the kids are older, that will happily come to yours and sit on their arses while you make the tea, run about after them and their kids, and then leave a pile of destruction for you to clean up as they swan off home to their nice clean homes - guaranteed! Been there, done that.

Clarefromwork · 21/02/2022 09:35

Ahh I see! Both our general rubbish and recycling just go out in plastic bags only our garden waste goes into a wheelie bin. Sounds a lot better to have wheelie bins!

CreamFirstThenJamOnTop · 21/02/2022 09:37

I would ask which bin I could put a nappy in and if someone was changing a nappy at my house I’d ask for it so I could put it in the bin.

Bedroom bin isn’t great as can stink out the room but I’d not be massively upset, I’d just move it.

Kinsters · 21/02/2022 09:39

Definitely rude to leave it in a bedroom bin. I'd always ask the host what I should do with it but normally they tell me unprompted when I ask where I can change the baby.

Teaforme123 · 21/02/2022 09:42

No that's just rude. I wouldn't put a soiled nappy (even in a nappy bag) in anyone's indoor bin, especially a bedroom or bathroom bin. They stink. I'd probably take it home to my outdoor Wheely bin or ask to use theirs.

pradavilla · 21/02/2022 10:23

I think it's fine to leave it in an actual bin (outside bin). It would be so weird to take it home and disgusting.

No one should have put it in your bedroom bin that is rude and disgusting and even worse no nappy bag. I wld be appalled if someone did that at my house. In a nappy bag in the kitchen bin I cld just about cope with but I usually put it straight outside and wld hope someone else wld or at least ask me what to do with it.