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Husband kicked dog

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Chickencuddle · 20/02/2022 09:26

My dog had some food my husband didn't want him to have so he kicked it away from the dog and the dog bit his toe. It all happened so fast I don't know if the dog meant to bite him or was trying to get the food. But my husband got very angry kept saying angrily " he f*cking bit me" and kicked the dog around 3 times so it wasn't just a reactive kick if that makes sense. He kicked him the first time.. The dog backed away then he had to walk towards the dog and kicked him twice more.
He is normally such an animal lover so I was shocked and I told him not to kick him.
He just kept saying "well he bit my fucking toe" I asked to see his toe and his toe wasn't even red. I don't know what to say.
In my head I feel appalled I know I would never do that ever. But I know I can overthink and react. The dog isn't hurt didn't whimper or anything but was obviously not liking it and backing away.

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liveforsummer · 20/02/2022 11:07

Leave or insist on immediate anger management/therapy to get to the bottom of this. This would be advice if it was totally out of character only though - I've read a couple of PP's posts and perhaps it's not in which case it's a very big and easy final straw. I might understand a reflex reaction kick out of shock if it was really sore ( though sounds like it wasn't) but this was intentional and cruel and as someone else pointed out you or dc will be next

allgreythings · 20/02/2022 11:07

Your husband is a vile twat
Had he been remorseful I could perhaps consider staying with him if it was so incredibly out of character

To be honest my dh wouldn’t have got anywhere near a second attempt at kicking a dog because I’d loose my shit and he’d be out the house. The fact you didn’t intervene makes me think you are worried about the outcome of that more than you are about him hurting your dog

liveforsummer · 20/02/2022 11:08

@Chickencuddle

He is actually vegan and very into animal rights etc
If anything that makes it worse ....
MondayYogurt · 20/02/2022 11:10

Please tell me you're not having kids.

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Chickencuddle · 20/02/2022 11:11

I would have intervened but I was across the room and it happened so fast probably 3 seconds in total. I did shout his name and shouted don't.

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Scianel · 20/02/2022 11:12

This man sexually abuses you while you are very ill with children present. He's a terrible, terrible person.

Frazzled50yrold · 20/02/2022 11:12

His justification is entirely incorrect. You don't tap a dog on the nose or kick them if they misbehave.The dog didn't actually misbehave anyway, he put food in the dogs territory then invaded his space and kept invading his space.
I'd honestly feel ill about sharing a bed or having any form of intimacy with him.

gamerchick · 20/02/2022 11:12

He's done it in front of you, you don't know how many times it's happened before OP.

Scianel · 20/02/2022 11:12

Please tell me you're not having kids

There are children in the home yes, if you look at OP's previous posts.

HTH1 · 20/02/2022 11:13

He obviously lost his temper and became violent, whatever he says to try to excuse his behaviour. If he can do it to the dog, he can do it to you and his (future) DC…

Maves · 20/02/2022 11:13

Ahh he's a vegan so it's fine! He is sick! Let's not forget the recent footballer and cat thing and all the shot he's getting only as it was publicised. This is no different your oh is a twat. There's a dog that needs rehoming ASAP...and it ain't the one with 4 legs.

HTH1 · 20/02/2022 11:14

Also he clearly doesn’t know how to behave around dogs, there was good reason for the dog to have reacted that way.

Excited101 · 20/02/2022 11:15

This is disgusting op, he’s showing you his true self at least. Get out of there

HTH1 · 20/02/2022 11:15

@Scianel

This man sexually abuses you while you are very ill with children present. He's a terrible, terrible person.
If this is true, then this is a very clear LTB.
billy1966 · 20/02/2022 11:16

@Scianel

This man sexually abuses you while you are very ill with children present. He's a terrible, terrible person.
Really?

And he kicked you dog?

OP, what are you doing with him?

Hiddenvoice · 20/02/2022 11:16

My dog has had something in her mouth before that she shouldn’t of had. I panicked and tried to take it out but did so calmly so she wouldn’t be frightened. Your dog had food, it did not understand why it couldn’t have it so it instinctively went to get the food again and may have hurt your dh in the process.
Your dh scared the dog, no idea if he kicked it once but clearly the dog was frightened and moved away. This was appalling enough, to then go and do it 2 more times is awful.
He is a lot bigger than the dog, he has no idea what could hurt the dog or not. Doesn’t matter if the dog makes a noise or not!
Please take the dog to a vet to get checked over. My sil EX partner did this to her dog and the poor dog had internal injuries. She didn’t hesitate to tell him where to go.
I would not have the husband around my pet anymore. If my husband did that then he’d be out the door.

Butchyrestingface · 20/02/2022 11:16

@Chickencuddle

I just spoke to him about it and I said I can understand a reactive kick but you went back and did it twice more. He said he went back because he missed the dog the first time. He said he only actually kicked him once. He said if a dog does something bad you either tap them on the nose or give them a kick it wasnt ha really hard kick. I felt it was aggressive but he said it was a tap. He just makes me feel like I'm overreacting and told me that if people have dogs they do the same type of things if the dog is bad. I told him it was just because he wanted to eat it and it doesn't matter what other people do I would never kick him. He asked me what I would do and I said I'd step my foot away and raise my voice to the dog. He just laughed at me.
I was wondering what your husband does to the dog when you're not there to witness it. Reckon I've got my answer. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do you have kids together? If not, DON'T.

newbiename · 20/02/2022 11:17

You're always on here detailing this 'mans' abuse. Numerous threads , hundreds of people have told you to leave him.
Now it's the dog. He's just an arsehole, but you're still there.
I don't know what else you want people to say?

WonderfulYou · 20/02/2022 11:18

I really hope you don’t have children!

I judge you both

  • him for kicking an animal and then acting like the dog biting was a bad thing Confused
  • you for not kicking him out of the house there and then.

Honestly OP this is disgusting and I’d never let a man back in my home if he kicked an animal or child so aggressively. As you say this wasn’t a reaction, he went and sought the dog out.
What’s going to happen if a toddler bites him because they do often bite.

notapizzaeater · 20/02/2022 11:18

I'd be kicking him out tbh. The first one could have been reactive, the rest weren't !

Gonnagetgoing · 20/02/2022 11:19

He’s an arsehole doing this more than once. Once out of anger after the dog had bit him yes that’d be understandable but to then attack the dog in a rage is unforgivable and he’d be an ex to me.

I’ve got an uncle who apparently abused his dogs and he’s a sick idiot too thank god not a blood relation.

Hope the dog is ok.

RoseGoldEagle · 20/02/2022 11:20

Kicking a dog is horrendous. If his reaction had been one of complete horror at himself- like he couldn’t believe he’d done it and was so sorry- well even then I’d struggle to be with someone that could do that to a dog even in the heat of the moment. But the fact his response once he’d calmed down was that he was right to have done it?? No way. You say he’s ‘into animal rights’- well, no he really isn’t. Completely disgusting behaviour.

JimmyShoo · 20/02/2022 11:20

I would leave my husband if he did this to our dog. I’m not joking.

It seems from other posters that he abuses you too? You have children in the house, please protect them.

Butchyrestingface · 20/02/2022 11:20

@newbiename

You're always on here detailing this 'mans' abuse. Numerous threads , hundreds of people have told you to leave him. Now it's the dog. He's just an arsehole, but you're still there. I don't know what else you want people to say?
Yes, just realised after I posted that this is someone with a repeat offender husband who's started to embrace equal opportunities violence. First the wife, then the dog - when will the kids be next?
WonderfulYou · 20/02/2022 11:20

There are children in the home yes, if you look at OP's previous posts.

FFS I missed this!

OP if you want to stay with him then fine.

But at least be a decent parent and give up your children and pets so they don’t have to put up with his vile behaviour and think that it’s ok.

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