To want to buy my own Engagement ring with the money we'll save by not paying Council Tax in Feb and March

[LoveMyGirls]

We've been together about 6 years, we have 2 children everything is perfect, I'd like to put the icing on the cake by getting engaged for our anniverary.

Dp says we will do it but he wants to be the one to ask me when i'm least expecting it - I expect it almost daily because I think he must be ready any day now, if hes not ready after 6 yrs when will be. I want some stability for our children, I want to be his wife, it doesn't have to be expensive.

Should I just buy the ring so all he has to do is ask me!?!

It's not the way i'd like things done but otoh I'd actually like it to happen........

Sorry to hijack thread but what exactly are the arguments AGAINST getting married? I've never really understood them or had anyone who claims to be "against" or not to "believe in" marriage articulate them properly. Just seems grumpy to me but can anyone enlighten me?

lalalonglegs, as I said earlier, I have a few friends who just don't agree with marriage.

They feel it is an outdated religious ceremony and that promising things in front of God is ridiculous, taking away the religious side of things and doing it in a registry office is, to them, pointless.

They say that being together in a monogomas relationship is enough promise that they will treat each other with respect and not stray.

On top of that, there is a huge consumer market in weddings, something else they don't go in for.

To them spending large amounts of money on weddings is tantamount to madness and when I have mentioned before I want to hire a castle or manor house or something to get married in laughed their heads off, even without the money side of it though (because as others have said it can be done relatively cheaply) they just don't see the point.

I absolutely can understand not wanting to have the whole eight-pageboys-and-Cinderella-carriage business of a wedding but marriage isn't just about a wedding and, even if it was, it doesn't have to be one of those bridezilla creations. And I'm not sure I understand your friends' argument that religious ceremonies are ridiculous but not having a religious element is pointless...

Still not convinced that anti-marrieds are anything other than grumpy

You are in exactly the same position as me. 2 kids (one his and same situation that he is the only dad she has), want the family to share the same name etc etc. I have been told, never ask cos its a no as its not tradition. I have hinted and hinted but his excuse is that once everyone stops asking then he will consider it when he is ready and when i least expect it... i feel like i sulk about this on a daily basis. I am glad i am not the only one, not that it helps you! But i wont propose under any circumstance now as i cant face the rejection, i think it will sour the relationship completely when in fact we are just perfect minus the engagement/marriage!

It's leap year so you can propose!

I wouldn't do it, save the money instead for a holiday or a special night out, meal in.
I am married and dh never proposed to me! I don't have an engagement ring. We just decided after 8 years together to tie the knot and booked a small affair at local registry office.
It isn't all about rings or 'things'.

Have you tried reverse psychology? I don't mean going so far as saying you don't want to get married, but maybe cool down the talking and asking about it. May take a while but if he thinks you're losing interest in marrying him perhaps it will kick him up the butt?