He took her to where we went

[PigFaceForever]

I was with ex for ten years. We broke up in 2018 and lost touch. Recently we got talking again and something is possibly rekindling. He dated someone which ended 18 months back for a while and took her to the destination we went every year for ten years. The same accommodation which a member of his family owns. I feel really sad about it that he took her to our special place. I know IABU but I feel so sad.

@AryaStarkWolf I didn't say anywhere that it was his sisters. He doesn't even have one.

[quote PigFaceForever]@AryaStarkWolf I didn't say anywhere that it was his sisters. He doesn't even have one.[/quote]
Sorry, someone else said it on the thread so I assumed you had said that, my apologies!

You did say it was a family members house though so same difference really

Would you have visited every year for 10 years if you didn't get cheap/free accommodation?

Urgh OP. A lot of folk on here are answering this at face value. Logically, it is unreasonable for you to begrudge him using his own family property, and I think you know that, really. To me, you were asking whether its unreasonable to be upset about it. No. Its not unreasonable at all. You obviously have some fond memories from your time at this place with your ex, and him taking his new partner there feels like a betrayal of those memories. I guess its what you do with those feelings that determines whether you are unreasonable or not. If you argue with him over this then i think you'd be unreasonable. You split up after all. He'd have no right to determine where you go with a future partner. But if you shed a tear, tell your trusted friends and close family that it upsets you as a way of dealing with your feelings, no, not unreasonable at all. Just human.

My ex has done the same, except it was me who found the places. But in a way if he was suddenly slashing out on fancier holidays, I'd be a bit pissed off.

i understand ur perspectives op

@chestofdraws @chestofdrawers

Generally, yes. The same way we associate cattiness as being ‘a woman thing’.

[quote Rivering]**@chestofdraws* @chestofdrawers*

Generally, yes. The same way we associate cattiness as being ‘a woman thing’.[/quote]
it isn't of course, just a load of sexist generalisation