Aibu to ask what you got for Valentines day?

[3Daddy31982]

I got a lobster biscuits and multicoloured rose, bunch of red roses in a vase, a valentines day balloon, a balloon that's red and says love. Also Indian tea x

I disagree - obviously. Saying you didn’t get anything because you think it’s commercialised nonsense is perfectly reasonable. There seems to be a few posters who are quite unsettled by that view, as if one person’s opinion of a day has somehow undermined their enjoyment of it. I find that very strange - just enjoy it (or don’t) and don’t worry what anyone else thinks about it. It’s an odd thing to get defensive about.

@SirChenjins

I disagree - obviously. Saying you didn’t get anything because you think it’s commercialised nonsense is perfectly reasonable. There seems to be a few posters who are quite unsettled by that view, as if one person’s opinion of a day has somehow undermined their enjoyment of it. I find that very strange - just enjoy it (or don’t) and don’t worry what anyone else thinks about it. It’s an odd thing to get defensive about.

It hasn’t undermined anyone’s day from what I’ve seen. It certainly didn’t mar my enjoyment, personally. Nor have I seen any defensiveness. The people who seem ‘unsettled’ are very much the ones who came to what could have been a perfectly pleasant thread to grind their unpleasant axes. And when adults rude for no reason, their rudeness is remarked upon.

You’ve now repeated yourself thrice, that I can see. You’re not engaging with what’s being said to you in any way and are just saying the same things, over and over again. I find it rather odd that you’re so invested in defending people’s right to be rude, to be honest. There’s clearly no point to this conversation, so I’ll leave you to it.

A card, first time I got card for wife, which makes me really happy, because we got married in September :)

As you wish.

@catscatscatseverywhere

A card, first time I got card for wife, which makes me really happy, because we got married in September :)

Awww, how lovely.

@worriedatthemoment yes I don’t think there should be sneering on any side however, those kind of responses were obviously to the people who had came on a Valentines thread to suck the joy out and be condescending. So I get it. Even saying we don’t celebrate it, think it’s commercialised, is fair enough, but women have come to say I don’t celebrate, I’m not 15/it’s only for teenagers/my husband doesn’t need a special day to show me he loves me. It’s all blatantly insinuating anybody who does celebrate it has a lesser relationship to them and/or is pathetic. Why even come on the thread if that’s your angle on it? You see the title, you don’t celebrate, you think I know, I’ll go on it and prove I’m superior by pissing on their parade! That is the childish thing here, giving your partner a card and chocolates isn’t. It’s just like when someone takes their time to go on a forum about a tv show/ celebrity and states they don’t understand How people have time to care about this nonsense, have they nothing better to do - completely ignorant of the fact they have nothing better to do than go on and give their time to something they don’t care about just to make others feel lesser.

Nothing but we did share a family size chocolate torte from Aldi once the kids were asleep...

[quote Sweetlikejollof]@TracyMosby Yup. Not sure why the aggressively miserable can’t just be quiet about it. They seem to really thrive on spreading the misery about.[/quote]
Misery loves company, as they say.

Besides, it's nice to huddle together and convince themselves that the reason it's not celebrated in their house is because it's all commercial shite. Who can blame them really. I'm sure I'd do the same if I was ignored on Valentine's Day too by a partner who wouldn't spend a £1 on a card for me!

I do wonder though how many of their DP's would celebrate it if they found themselves with someone new!

Don't be put off celebrating Valentine's Day by some miserable lemons who would secretly be delighted if they got a card. I'm sure that those of us who celebrated the day share love throughout the year. We do!

Anyway, some would say they are more to be pitied than laughed at in their desperate need to come onto a thread like this and piss on it in order to make themselves feel a tiny bit better for having been ignored.

Flowers, Hotel Chocolat chocolate (which are surprisingly really not nice) and a ring, which is a little bit too small for my swollen fingers, but very pretty.

Besides, it's nice to huddle together and convince themselves that the reason it's not celebrated in their house is because it's all commercial shite. Who can blame them really. I'm sure I'd do the same if I was ignored on Valentine's Day too by a partner who wouldn't spend a £1 on a card for me!
I do wonder though how many of their DP's would celebrate it if they found themselves with someone new

And yet the ‘commercial nonsense’ is the thing that gets jumped on…

@MistOverTheDowns but your just as bad your comment is implying people who don't celebrate are lesser than you , how ironic

@Iwannabewherethepeopleare but its a public forum and aibu so expect it
Why are you worried by what everyone else thinks if you are comfortable with your reasons
There are many saying those who don't celebrate are lacking something so its the same thing an insult is an insult

Covid 😂

You have misunderstood, @worriedatthemoment

Their need to piss on a thread in which people want to celebrate a little happiness makes them miserable lemons...not necessarily lesser than people who don't do that.

It is perfectly acceptable to question the motivation of any poster who would do that because for many of them, the tone is trying-not succeeding-but trying to make people feel foolish.

Do you think that is the action of a pleasant person?

I question their motivation and, in many case, it is motivated by sour grapes. Do I expect them to admit to that? Of course not!

They bang on about shite, a few more come on to agree and then they can all collectively reassure themselves.

Some people don't celebrate it but don't feel the need to take the piss out of others who do. They are genuine.

Alas, anyone with common sense can see the sour grapes behind the motivation behind those who want to drag others down and pop up on a thread like this.

We see them in all walks of life and here they are on this thread. Sad and Sour...no wonder they're ignored!

Sad, sour, sleeping in separate beds, low self esteem, obviously in unhappy marriages, and with partners that wouldn’t hesitate to celebrate the day with another woman if the relationship ended.

Yes, those are all such pleasant sentiments.

But, alas, in some cases true!

I’m not worried for me @worriedatthemoment I am so fed up with joy vacuums who go out of their way to make others feel shit. I have a couple of family members who do this to people all the time. I wonder what it is that they are so unhappy about in their lives that makes them want to bring others down with them. AIBU is good for more straight talking than other boards, but on the flip side they are a magnet for the bitter and twisted. And I’m trying to point out, the insults back aren’t needed but you can see clearly which side of this argument is on the attack vs defence!

As, alas, they are for some who celebrate Valentine’s Day. Never judge a relationship by the sexy nighties and chocolates.

I’m single so I got myself some Krispy Kreme doughnuts , my favourite cake and tickets to a take that tribute band . Don’t need anyone else to spoil me when I can do it myself 🥰

Zero

Nowt. I had to leave before 6am for a work. On days where I leave early I put my clothes in the kitchen the night before and in the morning get dressed down there so as not to wake DH and the DC (tiny house). In amongst the folded clothes I found a homemade card from him. Meant more than some soppy tat bought from a card shop! We’ve been together 20 years, not really arsed with valentines to be honest… however we were totally into it in the early years and I loved eating lots of chocolate in bed after a good shag 🤣

@NutsaremyNemesis

Nowt. I had to leave before 6am for a work. On days where I leave early I put my clothes in the kitchen the night before and in the morning get dressed down there so as not to wake DH and the DC (tiny house). In amongst the folded clothes I found a homemade card from him. Meant more than some soppy tat bought from a card shop! We’ve been together 20 years, not really arsed with valentines to be honest… however we were totally into it in the early years and I loved eating lots of chocolate in bed after a good shag 🤣

Hahaha! :)

[quote Iwannabewherethepeopleare]@worriedatthemoment yes I don’t think there should be sneering on any side however, those kind of responses were obviously to the people who had came on a Valentines thread to suck the joy out and be condescending. So I get it. Even saying we don’t celebrate it, think it’s commercialised, is fair enough, but women have come to say I don’t celebrate, I’m not 15/it’s only for teenagers/my husband doesn’t need a special day to show me he loves me. It’s all blatantly insinuating anybody who does celebrate it has a lesser relationship to them and/or is pathetic. Why even come on the thread if that’s your angle on it? You see the title, you don’t celebrate, you think I know, I’ll go on it and prove I’m superior by pissing on their parade! That is the childish thing here, giving your partner a card and chocolates isn’t. It’s just like when someone takes their time to go on a forum about a tv show/ celebrity and states they don’t understand How people have time to care about this nonsense, have they nothing better to do - completely ignorant of the fact they have nothing better to do than go on and give their time to something they don’t care about just to make others feel lesser.[/quote]
@Iwannabewherethepeopleare - I totally agree!

Yes, because that is all it's about 'sexy nighties'. Maybe we (husband and I) are lacking something as I'm not sure he would sketch the riverside he proposed to me on for just any day as we are incredibly busy people. Having that day to think about our relationship and just us, not just me on my birthday or the kids or Christmas is a good focus.

My favourite flowers (not roses thankfully) and a lovely meal at a restaurant I’ve been wanting to try for ages.