Wedding gift etiqeutte

[JaffaCake70]

Good Morning

A question that has probably been asked before:

Is is appropriate to ask for cash gifts for my wedding?

I'm 51, my partner is 47, we're getting married in May. We live together and don't need any household goods etc.

We really don't want anyone to waste money on items that we will probably just disgard at a later date due to lack of space.

I feel cheeky asking for money but it would come in very handy for our honeymoon spending money.

Is there a way of tactfully asking my guests for cash gifts? Should I add a little note to the invites or something?

I'm really not sure how to broach this, any advice and opinions would be much appreciated.

YABU - It's rude to ask for cash gifts.

YANBU - It's absolutely fine to ask for cash gifts.

I'd just ask for a donation to a charity in lieu of a present. This makes it clear that you don't want them wasting money on stuff you don't want.

@bonetiredwithtwins would it make a difference if they specified a particular event/restaurant for their honeymoon and wanted cash for that eg Michelin starred restaurant which they couldn’t afford normally but would be a treat? Would you really get annoyed about that and rather buy them a toaster instead!

Honestly? I think this is acceptable for young people starting out. Something feels off about middle aged folks asking for money.

We have friends who are your age range who recently got married, they asked for a donation to charity if anyone was insisting on a gift and gave the charity details.

I think if you need the money then ask people for cash, but if you don’t then honestly I’d go the charity route.

Even vouchers would be more preferable - I don't have an issue with things like B&Q vouchers etc which have been requested at weddings I've been to before because I know they clearly need something but cold hard cash for them to spend on a holiday.....in their 40s and 50s is a totally different matter
How are vouchers different to cash? There's no logic there. What about Thomas Cook vouchers to spend on buying a holiday?

My DM got married at that age and asked for cash, I think it was grabby.
The best way of dealing with the present thing is how a relative did it. She didn’t mention anything about presents in the invite but her DM let it be known that John Lewis vouchers would be welcome
If anybody asked what the couple would like.

Defo ask for cash.