AIBU that you don't post this on even a private group in Facebook?

[NatashaBedwouldbenice]

DP is a member of a Facebook group for people trying to find biological family via DNA (usually birth parents and usually via hobby DNA sites such as Ancestry or 23andMe).

One woman has had a terrible time. She traced her dad a couple of years. They arranged to meet but he never turned up and his wife messaged her to drop it. She only lives six blocks away. This is horribly unfair and unkind, but unfortunately very common.

Yesterday she said that she'd finally been able to meet him. He was in hospital, unconscious and dying from Covid. She has posted a selfie with his head in the background and all sorts of tubes and things on his face. In the photo he is either dying or dead.

AIBU that as tragic as this is for her, she is horribly misguided in posting such a photo on social media?
It is a private group but has about 180 000 members.

YABU to write a post about it here - just report the post on Facebook!

I'm in that group and saw the post. I don't think she ought to have posted the photo of him.

Perhaps people are picturing a slightly 'nicer' photo than the one we can see @Hydrate?

The thread is still going strong, almost 350 responses and 2k reactions. Most of the comments appear to be commiserating with her loss or telling her what a comfort hearing her voice will have been (as hearing is the last sense to go) and that she was his Angel, helping him on his way to G*d and Heaven.

Someone dissented, saying something like, "omg! you took selfies??" but I had to go out and by the time I returned the comment had gone and there's an Admin reminder "~Be Kind. And supportive. ❤" (although their heart is red).

I assume the purpose of the FB group is to be supportive and kind to people who are searching for biological relatives. You can't be surprised they are sticking to that.🤷‍♀️

This. Her biological father should have done the right thing. She's full of grief and what if's. Plus she shared to a private group, misguided perhaps but everyone seems to be on the side of the biological father and his family, who are also her family regardless. This man is her relative, one of her closest and this is her only photo. They have been dealt a horrible set of cards. She's been shown no grace and very little compassion. Feeling for her.

I think she had every right to take the photo. The real problem is the father not seeing her sooner and giving her the chance to take a happy smiley photo together.

It is disgusting what that woman did.

To take selfies of someone in their deathbed and post it without his consent on social media to thousands of other people is appalling behaviour.

The fb page moderators have lost their sense of decency if they think that is in any way acceptable. He isn't just "her biological dad" he's a human being with the right to have dignity and privacy at his most vulnerable time at the end of his life. If this was U.K., it would get reported to ward who would take steps to ensure it didn't occur again

Is this type of research accurate? Can she actually be sure that he is her biological father just through hobby research?