To not let DC go to this party. Trigger warning DV

[peacelikeariver]

Sorry I don't know if trigger warning for DV is the done thing, so thought I'd better put it in. Haven't been on Mumsnet for a while.
DC has told me today that her friend had disclosed to her that her mum's partner had strangled her mum in front of her. DC didn't know when this had happened and also said she thought her friend hadn't told anyone else in school.
I decided to call the school, got a call back from the head(it's a very small school). They were already aware of it and have involved all the necessary people. It seems to have happened a few days ago.
My dilemma is this: DC is invited to a party at this friend's place this weekend. I don't know the mum other than seeing her at the school gates. Kids are around 9.
I am now reluctant to send DC to the party. Between the lines, I think the partner was thrown out but who knows. Obviously the school can't tell me anything.
I feel awful for the mum and child but also feel it is a risk to my child.
I was thinking to say DC is sick and then invite friend to our house at a later time and DC can give the friend her present in school next week.

Would that be unreasonable?

Absolutely not.

My child’s safety comes first. Ahead of the feelings of another child who may or may not be disappointed that a friend could not make it to their party.

You done the right thing op.

OP
"I decided to call the school, got a call back from the head(it's a very small school). They were already aware of it and have involved all the necessary people. It seems to have happened a few days ago"...

Wow! The head should not have told you anything. That's really unprofessional that they did. They should have taken details, thanked you for the information and that's it.

@FunnyGoingsOn

OP "I decided to call the school, got a call back from the head(it's a very small school). They were already aware of it and have involved all the necessary people. It seems to have happened a few days ago"...

Wow! The head should not have told you anything. That's really unprofessional that they did. They should have taken details, thanked you for the information and that's it.

Possibly. Different countries I guess. Don't think what she did was considered over the line here.

@FunnyGoingsOn

OP "I decided to call the school, got a call back from the head(it's a very small school). They were already aware of it and have involved all the necessary people. It seems to have happened a few days ago"...

Wow! The head should not have told you anything. That's really unprofessional that they did. They should have taken details, thanked you for the information and that's it.

Maybe not in UK but definitely happens in other countries.

There are ways to communicate without divulging all.

Let your child go, if you're worried stay with them.
The birthday kid might need some friends right now, I grew up with DV and the thought that parents would keep their children away from my parties breaks my heart.