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Original poster

Mumsnetters bragging about how rich and important their husbands are

163 replies

RosieGuacamosie · 04/02/2022 16:17

Ready to be flamed Grin

AIBU to find this very cringe? I’ve seen it a couple of times where the OP has asked a job/income question aimed at members of mumsnet (and often clearly wanting answers from women/mums) and within two or three posts there’s women (I assume) rushing on to say “I earn 26p but DH is a top secret VIP and earns £7 million an hour!” Often it really isn’t relevant Confused

Obviously this has no impact on my life but I just find it odd and cringey that instead of being proud of their own achievements (whatever they may be) they’re rushing to boast about what a high roller hubby is.

Only adding this as I know I’ll be accused of being jealous but my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!

OP posts:
emilyintheSE · 04/02/2022 16:20

They're just trying to justify their choice of crappy partner.

"My husband fucks his PA, has a cocaine problem, never helps with the kids, never has sex with me, is a rude cunt, but but but he makes £500,000 a year as a top lawyer"

Grin
FKATondelayo · 04/02/2022 16:22

Actually OP your OH let slip his salary in bed the other afternoon and I was surprised it wasn't higher than my DH's.

TheSpottedZebra · 04/02/2022 16:23

I asked my DH and he thinks it's fine to mention how much husbands earn.

MermaidEyes · 04/02/2022 16:24

I just don't feel the need to constantly mention it

But you just did 😉

RaskolnikovsGarret · 04/02/2022 16:25

Agree, I hate it. No one asked how much your DP earns, so why do people feel it necessary to provide this information?

Original poster
RosieGuacamosie · 04/02/2022 16:25

@TheSpottedZebra

I asked my DH and he thinks it's fine to mention how much husbands earn.
Don’t get me started on those ones Grin
OP posts:
SeeminglyOblivious · 04/02/2022 16:26

Personally I've never seen this.

I mean, I have seen people talk about their DH's job or earnings but only when relevant to the thread as its about household income or something.

Holskey · 04/02/2022 16:26

Only adding this as I know I’ll be accused of being jealous but my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!

There's no way I should have added that in these circumstances 😂

Wandda · 04/02/2022 16:26

But you just mentioned that your own Dh to be is a higher earner!! 😂

Original poster
RosieGuacamosie · 04/02/2022 16:26

@MermaidEyes

I just don't feel the need to constantly mention it

But you just did 😉

It’s because I’m itching to tell someone in real life but that would be very vulgar so I want to mention it online at every possible opportunity Wink
OP posts:
MsTSwift · 04/02/2022 16:26

It’s like to real housewives when one boasts as her husband is a lawyer she has some sort of legal knowledge utter cringe

SeeminglyOblivious · 04/02/2022 16:28

my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!

🙈 Irony at it's best. Zero need to add this...and yet the op did (presumably so we can all cry into our pillow in envy).

SummerHouse · 04/02/2022 16:29

I saw a woman saying "I can press more than most men (assume this means weights not ironing), I have run marathons, I am CEO in my organisation on six figures. People still ask me what my husband does."

I was like Confused who the fuck do you hang out with?

randomiser · 04/02/2022 16:29

“my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!”

So you started a thread instead? Grin Is this for real?

DrSbaitso · 04/02/2022 16:30

The people accusing you of being jealous will assume either that your last paragraph is a lie, or that your idea of a high earner is much less than theirs. Either way, it won't protect you from the accusations... and it's a little out of place, given the complaint you're making!

Wandda · 04/02/2022 16:30

Why mention what your DH earns?

Hawkins001 · 04/02/2022 16:32

@RosieGuacamosie

Ready to be flamed Grin

AIBU to find this very cringe? I’ve seen it a couple of times where the OP has asked a job/income question aimed at members of mumsnet (and often clearly wanting answers from women/mums) and within two or three posts there’s women (I assume) rushing on to say “I earn 26p but DH is a top secret VIP and earns £7 million an hour!” Often it really isn’t relevant Confused

Obviously this has no impact on my life but I just find it odd and cringey that instead of being proud of their own achievements (whatever they may be) they’re rushing to boast about what a high roller hubby is.

Only adding this as I know I’ll be accused of being jealous but my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!

I understand your perspectives, I guess I need to do more research in the area psychology for possible answers, but overall it's a puzzlement
Gettingthereslowly2020 · 04/02/2022 16:32

I get annoyed by that too, OP.

It's usually a woman seeking career advice/support from other women who have successfully juggled work and children. The replies are something like "DH used to do that job but now he's progressed to Top Fancy Pants Job earning £1 million a year. He works 7 days a week". I feel like replying "yes but he could only do that because he had you at home running around after him washing his underpants and looking raising his kids".

Adeleskirts · 04/02/2022 16:33

Think you’ve hit the crowd who do it 😃

I agree, if s thread says how much do you earn it means rhe op is not asking how much your husband earns.

randomiser · 04/02/2022 16:33

I find it cringe when women mention their clothes size. I myself, am a size 0, but would never mention it.

TurretGunner · 04/02/2022 16:34

It's extremely vulgar and I would never mention my own seven figure salary nor that of my husband, which incidentally is higher.

WeirdCatLady · 04/02/2022 16:34

Sorry OP, I’d send you a proper reply but you lost me when you felt the need to mention your husband’s income level FFS.

So, I’m simply cringing on your behalf 🙄

WalkingDownTheOnlyRoad · 04/02/2022 16:34

You’re a legend, OP. So pleased for you that your OP is a high earner. Hmm

MarshaBradyo · 04/02/2022 16:35

Haha at the responses

Maybe a better point without doing the same Grin

TurretGunner · 04/02/2022 16:35

Randomiser, I'm tiny too - don't you find it hard to find clothes? I do.