Mumsnetters bragging about how rich and important their husbands are

[RosieGuacamosie]

Ready to be flamed

AIBU to find this very cringe? I’ve seen it a couple of times where the OP has asked a job/income question aimed at members of mumsnet (and often clearly wanting answers from women/mums) and within two or three posts there’s women (I assume) rushing on to say “I earn 26p but DH is a top secret VIP and earns £7 million an hour!” Often it really isn’t relevant

Obviously this has no impact on my life but I just find it odd and cringey that instead of being proud of their own achievements (whatever they may be) they’re rushing to boast about what a high roller hubby is.

Only adding this as I know I’ll be accused of being jealous but my husband to be is a high earner himself, I just don’t feel the need to constantly mention it!

unici5 Ah. The other place.

It's more annoying when an poster asks "how did you get your high salaried role or how do you balance it with kids" & posters reply well DH does X.

I also find it weird how so many people seem to earn "peanuts" but are with partners who earn 100k plus. That's not reflective of my reality.

Well I'm proud to say I'm just as rich and important as him because we have the same job and actually my salary is slightly higher!

@bindud I suppose it could be relative peanuts. If you earn £80K, that’s a pretty decent salary, but if your DP earns £250K, you might say you earn peanuts? At least, that’s the case with people I know.

Or the posters in question could just be fibbing.

I’ve literally never seen this, except on posts where people are discussing household income.

@MeSanniesareBrannies With every comment, your total lack of self awareness becomes more unbelievable

Yes? That’s ASD

In fairness, you can be way more subtle about it, like 'Our eyes met across a crowded JCR bop, and later he peeled off my commoner's gown in ChCh Meadow.' grin

Isn't that boasting about your own education? A similar but slightly different thing. Much like Oxford and my own university, Cambridge. I never mention it, of course, but was literally forced to because my post would simply make no sense otherwise.

My total lack of self awareness is more unbelievable than that. I have frequently said stuff that I thought was good but was not.

@bindud, it depends on where you live. While there are definitely women earning six- and seven-figures in my town, the reality is that in the main the men are extremely high earners—portfolio managers, BigLaw, CEO/CFOs—while women are maybe doctors, teachers, have their own businesses etc. or are SAHM. I think we still have a really long way to go before there’s true parity.

I’m not quite sure how to put this, but…my husband is kind of a big deal…he's very important. He has many leather-bound books and his office smells of rich mahogany.

I can’t tell which posts are real and which are jokes. Clearly didn’t go to the right university!

I see way more posts where people talk about this happening than it actually happening.

I don’t have a husband. Or a husband to be.

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Its cringey. Oh poor lil me only earns £1k a year. But luckily I have a DH who earns £250k plus.

I can’t tell which posts are real and which are jokes. Clearly didn’t go to the right university! I know me too now.

@MmeD

I don’t have a husband. Or a husband to be.

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‘Husband to be’ does have a certain something extra to it

I usually find when I point out my husband was in jail for 3 years so I did it all myself they usually shut up ;)

@Bushkin

Conversely if women post on those threads about their own high earning they are accused of lying - can’t win

Really? Never seen that

@Chikapu

I’m not quite sure how to put this, but…my husband is kind of a big deal…he's very important. He has many leather-bound books and his office smells of rich mahogany.

Is your husband Russell from New Girl? m.youtube.com/watch?v=AWiZwQv-WEc

Conversely, I am sensing both men and well off men in disguise on threads. They try to hide their identity but their wording and utter lack of comprehension of certain things female/working class is blindingly obvious. I spotted two on the Bank of England threads. To be fair, they could “just” have been Daily Mail journos.

@MeSanniesareBrannies normally they say I earn peanuts & give an example eg 10k but you're correct that perspectives can be different.

@GarlandsinGreece Im in London & maybe it's an age/location thing but I don't know any high earning men with partners who work in a job on NMW. Similarly to you the ones I know are married to doctors, teachers or stay at home.

But you ARE mentioning it. You’ve started an entire thread about it to stealth boast