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AIBU?

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To stay upstairs whilst DH gets kids ready for school because I have covid?

123 replies

waitinginthecar · 02/02/2022 08:12

DH is fuming at me because I've stayed in bedroom whilst he has been getting kids ready for school. I'm asymptomatic but snotty in the mornings. My reasoning is that I don't want to breathe covid over the kids. He's just called me a dick for not coming down to help, asking "are you ill?" My response is "no, but as I have covid I don't want to breathe it on the kids".
I haven't been able to isolate fully so have been around after school and teatime but I haven't been in their rooms so DH has been putting them to bed. AIBU to not go down and help this morning?

OP posts:
PrivateHall · 02/02/2022 08:13

Well yes it does seem a little silly if you are around them the rest of the day! However no doubt there is a lot of backstory here you are not including so who knows!

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 02/02/2022 08:15

YABU!!
Unless you're actually isolating from them get up and help!

shouldistop · 02/02/2022 08:15

If you're around them at other times then tbh I'm afraid I'd see this as a bit of an excuse

PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2022 08:15

It seems a bit pointless doing half and half isolation from them.
If you’re around at teatime, how is it different being around at breakfast?

PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2022 08:15

Is this a reverse?

jamaisjedors · 02/02/2022 08:15

Wear a mask

Aimee1987 · 02/02/2022 08:15

@CloseYourEyesAndSee

YABU!! Unless you're actually isolating from them get up and help!
This
HaveANiceFuckingDay · 02/02/2022 08:16

You're either isolating from them or not
Pick one

Blackbird2020 · 02/02/2022 08:16

If you don’t want to ‘breath over them’ then wear a mask Hmm.

It does seem strange that you’re ok with ‘breathing over them’ at other times of the day.

Hoardasurass · 02/02/2022 08:19

Who normally gets them ready? Also how old are your dc

MrsTimRiggins · 02/02/2022 08:21

YABU given you are clearly picking and choosing when to be around them when it does or doesn’t suit you.

Stormtropper5000 · 02/02/2022 08:21

I'm not sure how an adult isn't capable of getting two children ready for school on his own. Why does he need help?

WTF475878237NC · 02/02/2022 08:23

Lots of people I know have avoided in-house transmission by limiting contact with children to what's essential, which this isn't as he should be able to do it alone, so YANBU.

Theunamedcat · 02/02/2022 08:24

It's two children not a pack of raptors

who normally does it?

ISmellBurnings · 02/02/2022 08:27

Yabu, you can’t half isolate when you feel like it.

toomuchlaundry · 02/02/2022 08:27

Is it normally a joint effort in the morning?

2catsandhappy · 02/02/2022 08:30

Is he getting narky as you usually do it all? Perhaps he is having a sharp shock at the realities. No permanent harm done. Put on a mask and be around. No reason you can't do the task together.

CloneAViralMess · 02/02/2022 08:30

Is it because you're worried about getting germs on their clothes etc that when they then go into school they'll put your germs all over the classroom?

I feel YABU but I can see how you might be trying to protect their classmates/teachers.

I agree wear a mask.

Sirzy · 02/02/2022 08:32

You can’t pick and choose when your contagious!

20week · 02/02/2022 08:32

I have covid and have been symptomatic, I'v still been helping get the DC ready. If you're happy to be around them at other times it makes sense to help.

DownWhichOfLate · 02/02/2022 08:32

Grin - pack of raptors! Depends on your children. Mine are almost impossible to get ready so it takes full parental involvement.

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Gabbiadini · 02/02/2022 08:35

I’m guessing this is a reverse but either way it’s totally pointless isolating while they get ready for school if you’ll be in close contact with them later on. I think surely both you and your husband know that.

DistrictCommissioner · 02/02/2022 08:35

It sounds a bit inconsistent. Is it normally a 2 person job getting the kids ready for school?

Me & DH both have Covid at the moment, so making no attempt at isolating from the kids - pointless anyway as school is a hotbed of Covid!

DoItAfraid · 02/02/2022 08:38

@Theunamedcat

It's two children not a pack of raptors

who normally does it?

This comment has made me Grin