I devastated by my 26 yr old daughters tattoos

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Yup. I hate them. Today she showed me her new ‘sleeve’. It’s big black bold and bloody awful. She already has numerous tattoos and they’re getting bigger each time. She seems addicted. I don’t like tattoos. I don’t have to like them. That’s my choice. I’ve cried over it/her in private ! I’ve read up about parents reactions to our kids tattoos. And we are supposed to be happy that they are expressing themselves. But I’m struggling with that. I was ok with a few, ok with all the piercings… but the sleeve is too far. In my opinion. Does anyone else feel like me or am I the bitch mother from hell?

The "perfect skin" comments are so weird.

[quote TamTamChew]@Comedycook

So agree about them looking awful on brides. It’s like seeing a bird poop on the wedding cake.[/quote]
Why? Because women are supposed to like like perfect unspoiled virgins on their wedding day?

Not my circus, not my monkeys

My children are most definitely my circus and my monkeys even at 22 and 19. They appreciate my input still, even when it's not what they want to hear.

YANBU to not like them.
I don’t really understand why you are so unhappy about it though? What do you think having tattoos will do to her life?
Your dd is 26, she is obviously happy with them. Body art is very personal and people with lots of tattoos tend to have a sense of pride wearing them, rightly so.

*I hate them. I made children with perfect lovely skin. Luckily mine all hate them too. Would also be sad.

This is how I feel. It would of course be their choice but I would feel sad regardless.

I'd be equally sad if either of my children came home caked in make up hiding their beautiful faces.

Back to the Meghan and. Kate issue...Meghan has no tattoos right?!
Hence the analogy is not only distasteful but inaccurate.

It’s so common these days - lots of my professional friends haven full sleeves - e.g. doctors in A&E. I think perceptions have definitely changed

@Pleasebeafleabite

Career limiting I’m afraid

HCPs OK but no go for climbing the corporate ladder

Hahaaa I can't laugh at this comment enough 😂😂😂😂😂

My dd wanta a dragon tattoo on her back when she's 18. I'm fine with it.

I'd be equally sad if either of my children came home caked in make up hiding their beautiful faces

Not comparable though. Make up comes off with a wipe.

I would feel the same as you, OP. I hate tattoos.

I dont really like any body modification though, I think our bodies are just fine the way they are naturally. clothes to protect us from the elements and keep us comfortable.

I think they look absolutely awful - so unattractive, especially on women.

@Nandakanda, I don't think I've seen such blatant masogyny on here in a long time!

28 year old professional here! Full sleeve, both feet, back, left side and thigh and right ribs.

Partner is also a professional, he's also got a full sleeve.

I work as a project manager and have done for the last 5 years. When I started my career I made sure every tattoo I had was easily covered as they're not everyone's cup of tea and there's still a stigma around them. Fortunately my company embrace individuality and believe the company should represent its staff. Within my close team there are three of us who are heavily tattooed and our clients love it! For new clients I cover up out of respect but once that relationship is maintained then cover ups stop.

There is also a lady who works in finance who has bright red hair, a face full of piercings and is also covered in tattoos.

Not once have they ever hindered my career path.

My partner and I live an alternative lifestyle. We love festivals, gigs, rock music that sounds like the devil when played backwards and sacrificing goats in the street ( ;) ), but we have a heart of gold. We're thoughtful, honest people and we work hard to pay our bills and ensure we can provide ourselves a good life. If I ever have kids then I pray to God they embrace an alternative lifestyle over a chavvy one. When do you ever hear about mini Goths stealing cars and mugging old people? At the end of the day all that will matter is that they're a good person.

OP I know you worry about your daughter and the effect it will have on her life but also remember the world is a changing place and tattoos are more widely accepted now. Like others have said, she's still your daughter - tattoos don't come with personality changing ink - so please don't look at her skin, look at her heart.

I can understand you OP.

Blimey! Reading some of these comments - it’s like some of you have gone back to the dark ages!

Because women are supposed to like like perfect unspoiled virgins on their wedding day?

I don't see any link between tattoos and virginity. Change wedding dress for ball gown...or any event where you wish to look elegant...a inked rose on your shoulder or whatever just ruins the look.

@MangoLipstick

Blimey! Reading some of these comments - it’s like some of you have gone back to the dark ages!

People have had opinions on everything since the Dark Ages presumably.

Most tattoos, in my opinion, look awful. While a few are works of art, even these fade, smudge, and look dreadful as the years wear on. I can't get my head around the mentality of permanently marking yourself when tastes, sentiments, and bodies change as we grow.

I agree. But when you’re young you don’t realise you will not always have firm youthful flesh and skin.

Meanwhile in the fucking twenty first century, most REAL men want a woman who challenges them

I don't claim to speak for all men but I wanted to be with a woman who was my equal, was kind, shared common values and interests and made me laugh. I did not want to be 'challenged' and neither did my wife. I guess I am not a REAL man, whatever the fuck that means.

My eldest DD went through a phase of it... she has one on her leg that's quite large, and one on her back. It wasn't until we went wedding dress shopping that she said "oh god, why did I have this done.........." because it showed through the back of the dress she really wanted, and thankfully she's not had any more. My other 2 DD's haven't got one. And I hope it stays that way.

They look vile. Especially as the ink ages. I can't get my head around anyone disfiguring themselves like that, because that's what it is.

@Comedycook

Because women are supposed to like like perfect unspoiled virgins on their wedding day?

I don't see any link between tattoos and virginity. Change wedding dress for ball gown...or any event where you wish to look elegant...a inked rose on your shoulder or whatever just ruins the look.

In your opinion it ruins the look. Meanwhile back in 2022…

All these women being sad about DDs ruining their perfect skin with tattoos need give their heads a wobble. If you don’t like them don’t get one. Do you get sad about them ruining their perfect hair by colouring it, by ruining their perfect ears by piercing?

Not a bitch mother from hell But shes a grown up!

Do you love your dd for what she looks like or what she's like as a person? Why do you care what she looks like as long as she is happy? Sometimes I find people really don't seem to understand what love is.

Of course, silly me, I didn't realise that tattoos give you 'slappy airs' which may affect how young men 'judge' you. Gosh I'd forgotten that we little women should be sure to act in ways that won't lead to young men realising that we just aren't good enough. I'll pray to god that I can be good enough for men. I'll be sure not to get a tattoo (but it's fine if he does), I'll be sure not to drink alcohol (but it's fine if he does), I'll be sure not to have sex before marriage (but it's fine if he does), hopefully then I'll go some way to be good enough for men.

I did wonder about that @BoodleBug51. is wedding dress shopping one of the times that the tattoo regret surfaces?

Although if a bride loved her tattoos so much wouldn't she want them on show on her big day?