I devastated by my 26 yr old daughters tattoos

[Choclover27]

Yup. I hate them. Today she showed me her new ‘sleeve’. It’s big black bold and bloody awful. She already has numerous tattoos and they’re getting bigger each time. She seems addicted. I don’t like tattoos. I don’t have to like them. That’s my choice. I’ve cried over it/her in private ! I’ve read up about parents reactions to our kids tattoos. And we are supposed to be happy that they are expressing themselves. But I’m struggling with that. I was ok with a few, ok with all the piercings… but the sleeve is too far. In my opinion. Does anyone else feel like me or am I the bitch mother from hell?

@MedusasBadHairDay

People who get angry/upset about what other people do to their bodies are really fucking odd

I don't think they are. Not when what they are doing to their bodies is permanent. I am sure there's a lot of people out there that do regret their tattoos. I know of one in their thirties that wishes she hadn't had hers at 19. She's upset about what she did to her own body.

She is 26, not 16, so it really is about respecting her choices.

Privately I would be VERY upset.

I think they look awful too.

You definitely have my sympathy.

Jesus Christ.

Devastated is a word for a disaster.
A horrific accident or a terminal illness.

Not a fucking tattoo

@TamTamChew Oh do piss off with that nonsense.

The most heavily tattooed woman I know is also the most successful career woman I know, late 30s, high-flying, no trail of kids with losers, no addiction problems, no traumas, just bought a house in Chelsea with her financier husband.

I don't think her tattoos have had much of a negative affect on her life....

I get it OP.

I don't give a shit if Joe & Joanna Bloggs get tatted but when it's your child you can't help remembering them as babies with that perfect skin, so it seems in a way like they've willingly disfigured themselves, from a bit of a distance many can look like giant bruises.

Saying that I know I can't express this once they're old enough to decide, so I won't 🤐.

*It's just skin - it doesn't matter in the long run
*
Skin is the largest organ of the body - of course it fucking matters.

And all this talk of ‘I created beautiful skin’ give over 🤣

You haven’t done anything special, you had a baby, something women have been doing for millennia, you haven’t sat and designed her 😂

@Momicrone

Am I allowed to upset if my kids got face tattoos?

No you should be thrilled, and be full of encouragement apparently.

It's okay to be sad. Don't let anyone else tell you different.

YANBU this is one of my worst nightmares.

This craze couldn’t die out any sooner. There are so many young ladies that seem to be showing off their all over body tattoos on Facebook etc maybe thinking it’s cool and edgy.

Gone are the days when people had one or two small, tasteful tattoos - I remember my hairdresser having a scattering of beautiful pastel stars on her foot and ankle. This current trend for sleeves etc is the most unattractive thing ever and more like self-harm than art.

YABU. You don’t have to like the tattoos but you do need to accept that she does.
Tattoos are no longer taboo and they no longer have negative associations.
They are a way to express yourself and can even be classed as an art form. Tattoos also have no reflection on a persons lifestyle or how responsible/irresponsible a person is, some of the opinions on this thread are extremely outdated!

@iwanttobeonleave

She got a tattoo, she didn’t die, and it didn’t ‘happen to’ her. Her daughter as a grown, independent woman, made a (presumably as there’s no mention of mental capacity) informed choice about what to do with her own body. This has nothing to do with her mother other than what the mother chooses to feel because they have some sort of odd idea of ownership of another person.

Some of the views on here are positively puritan!

@NoJaffaCakesAreKeptInThisVan

YANBU this is one of my worst nightmares.

This craze couldn’t die out any sooner. There are so many young ladies that seem to be showing off their all over body tattoos on Facebook etc maybe thinking it’s cool and edgy.

Gone are the days when people had one or two small, tasteful tattoos - I remember my hairdresser having a scattering of beautiful pastel stars on her foot and ankle. This current trend for sleeves etc is the most unattractive thing ever and more like self-harm than art.

Yep. Completely agree about the self-harm aspect. Worrying.

I’m the same age as your DD and my DM said if I got a tattoo she’d disown me! Fortunately I share your opinion - they look bloody awful, especially sleeves.

I’d be the same as you. I think they look ugly.

In my 20s plenty of my mates were getting tattoos, at the time blokes were getting the Celtic knotwork around the upper arms/legs and women were getting the 'tramp stamp' designs on their lower backs. I was tempted a few times but glad I never had the courage. Now in my 40s most of these people now regret their decisions and some have spent thousands getting laser removal treatment. There is a world of difference between some cheeky small design on your ankle and a sleeve tattoo encompassing your entire arm. Many people will judge the latter negatively and associate it (rightly or wrongly) with certain lifestyle choices. I think very few people can 'carry off' tattoos well, a couple of the Maori lads I used to play rugby with looked magnificent with their leg tattoos which carried with them bags of history, culture and to the trained eye identifying information and looked a damn sight better then say 'Chelsea till I die' on your forearm.

All you pearl clutchers know tattoos have been used for thousands of years, it's not a new thing for the sole purpose of identifying single mothers and the unemployed?
They are a way to express yourself, they can be religious, meaningful, healing, art- pick a word! Not all are master pieces and we all have different tastes but it has nothing at all to do with you unless it's your tattoo.

'I created beautiful skin' 😂 my word that's got to be peak MN. You had sex and plopped out a kid. Get over it.

@TamTamChew good lord that was a wild ride! You are 100% incorrect and horribly judgemental but you do you.

Who said they "created beautiful skin'?

@PattyPan

I’m the same age as your DD and my DM said if I got a tattoo she’d disown me! Fortunately I share your opinion - they look bloody awful, especially sleeves.

She wouldn’t be much of a dm if she disowned you for a tattoo.

I've never known anyone in a senior high paying job with visible tattoos. People absolutely are prejudice against tattoos. And mumsnet isn't bloody conservative! What utter rot. Show me all the threads cooing over the Conservative party then.

You feel how you feel. That's not unreasonable.

You are keeping your feelings to yourself because you understand it's not your business. That's what matters.

Having private thoughts that you don't express doesn't make you a bitch.

I don't think you're being unfair provided you keep your disappointment to yourself. Big bold tattoos are awful, I know she's still the same person inside but we all make judgments based on how people look, perhaps we shouldn't but we do, and to me Tattoos are a big turnoff.