Duvet days are lazy...discuss!

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I said I would kill for a pyjama day but DH says they're a waste of a day and lazy. Who is unreasonable?

At the moment DH has COVID so I'm having to do all the school runs/shopping/work etc and sleep on the sofa so I don't catch it. I'm exhausted but have to keep going. Hence saying I'd love a duvet day. But DH practically sneered at me for saying it.

Isn’t that the whole point?

Yep. Very lazy. Couldn't think of anything worse!

And where is DH recovering?

Utter rubbish, you go for it!

Well, it’s up to the individual to decide. I don’t like them because they make me feel depressed, I like to keep active all of the time. Drives my DH mad sometimes because even our holidays are jam packed with activities. Everyone’s different and neither of you are BU.

Sleeping is lazy?

Well I've heard it all now...

I don't get not getting dressed, I shower and dress even if I'm not going out. Nothing wrong with staying at home though

Yes it’s lazy, but we’re all allowed to be lazy once in a while. And it’s not a waste of time if you’re enjoying it.

Of course it’s a lazy day. That doesn’t make it wrong in the slightest. It’s the whole point.

Your dh is an arse.

Being lazy now and then is great, and very good for your health in my view. What’s the point in doing stuff all the time? No-one’s handing out prizes for running yourself ragged.

Of course they are lazy, that's the whole point! And nothing wrong with that at all.

Yes they are. That is the whole point!

Your DH is unreasonable.

Massively so.

I'd divorce him immediately (and make sure you get the bed and duvet).

Weirdest question ever. Yes duvet days are lazy. They are supposed to be.

Yes, gloriously wonderfully lazy, his point is.....?

Yes, they are but being lazy is not a morally reprehensible state of being.

I find it so hard to have a duvet day. My mum brain doesn't allow it anymore. But I'd love one.

With the current pace of modern life, duvet days (or something akin to it!) are good for mental health if that's your thing.

Exactly what grand life changing things is he achieving every single day that would change our society if he didn't do it a a day when you just want to relax and ignore your own wellbeing?

I bet he’s got a hobby..,

A duvet day would make me feel unwell unless I was actually ill to start with
I can cope with a short lie in but after that I start getting headachey and feel sluggish even with a book or iPad

I would love it.

Nothing wrong with being 'lazy' it's not a waste of time if you enjoy it! Nothing that makes you happy is a waste of time. I find myself more productive if I take adequate time to rest and do what I need for myself anyway. If that's laziness then I don't care.

The day I have myself permission to have lazy days (most weekends I’ll have one unless there’s something specific planned) was an enlightening one. I times dh “I’m doing nothing today other than sitting here, drinking coffee… then more coffee and might read a book”. I think it took a little time for dh to grasp it but dc are old enough to entertain themselves and I need it. I’m not lazy - have 3 dc and work full time in a stressful job, volunteer as a school governor etc but a lazy day a week is not a bad thing. We don’t have to constantly be busy. Stopping and switching off from the constant demands of life is a skill.

You don't need his permission, sneers or not! If a relaxed day at home doing not much is something you find enjoyable and restorative then great.

For some people it would be their idea of hell and fair enough, but they don't get to dicate what others enjoy!

It might be different if the "duvet day" partner was spending every Saturday and Sunday not lifting a finger and opting out of a share of chores and family time but that does not seem to be the situation here!

I have very long busy weeks at work, two children, house renovation ongoing and no cleaner (we do share the chores) but damn right I enjoy lazing in bed or slobbing on the sofa for a fair chunk of the weekend if I get the chance.