DH work from home announcement

[fizzypop100]

I have told DH my feelings on him WFH. He's been at home last 2 years and I can't stand it any more. Said there needs to be some compromise, just one or two days a week in the office.
He's just been speaking to his team leader and asked to WFH for the foreseeable future. I have just told him he's being selfish. His answer was "my mental health". I told him it's affecting MY mental health.
This house is totally dominated by his work. He will not move his computer and desk out of the living room. School holidays are miserable as our teenage son can't do anything as dad is working in the living room.
I'm being an adult right now but can feel anger and tears building up.

[ConstancetheGardener]

My DD has been WFH since the pandemic started so I asked her nicely if she was likely to be going back to the office in the near future. She said she liked WFH and wanted to continue to do so. I suggested that maybe 1 or 2 days a week in the office might be good for her socially and work wise but she was adamant that she wanted to WFH forever more . At which point I blurted out well what about me and how I feel about it. She works in the dining room and is out of the way but can still hear what's going on in the rest of the house so I don't have the radio on loudly , I can't have a loud conversation with my partner as walks have ears , I can't tidy and clean the dining room etc. In addition she us benefitting from the tax allowance for WFH and saving money with no us fares or food)drink but I am the one incurring the expense of extra heating , electric for her laptop , and limitless amounts of food and drink . I thought this was for a few months not years , it is driving me bonkers so I feel your pain . My next step is an ultimatum. Put your foot down before you go mad.

[EmbarrassingHadrosaurus]

At which point I blurted out well what about me and how I feel about it.

So many people making these decisions without recognising any basic courtesies of relationships or even negotiating space or resource-sharing such as discussing those decisions with others to see if there are any unintended consequences, compromises, or perspectives to be addressed.