To walk alone for 45mins at 8pm?

[imamumgetmeoutofhere]

Just that really.

Told my DH I would be walking home from work tonight, finish 8pm.

It takes around 40-45mins. There are no busses at this time. He feels I should get a taxi, mainly due to the attacks on women that have been published in the media recently. I've said I can't justify the expense and am more than happy walking, usually do if it's daylight. We live in a holiday resort area but it's along 3 fairly busy main roads so won't be in any isolated areas.

He usually collects me but he has covid so can't collect me and I don't drive.

AIBU to think its fine to walk home at this time of the day in the dark or should I follow his advise and get a taxi and claw the cost back elsewhere?

@nosyupnorth

Unless you're about to drop the detail that were you live is controlled by IS or something why wouldn't you walk.

I can't believe there are people here basically saying women shouldn't go out without male supervision after 5pm.

Who said that?

I'm a walker too.....

[quote RonaLisa]@WindyState But who would actually catch you? The chances of being caught driving a couple of miles in a car to collect your wife from work while having Covid are virtually non existent. Even if you were pulled over for some reason (like you'd downed a bottle of wine before setting off and were veering all over the road), you're not likely to say "Ok, it's a fair cop, and by the way, I've got Covid, too".

Nobody will actually know unless you are in an accident that would involve immediate hospitalisation. In which case Covid would be the least of the problems.[/quote]
Nobody, probably.

It's still pretty irresponsible to encourage people to break the law.

I mean, I could probably get away with stealing my next door neighbour's bike because it's in her shed and I know it's not locked, but I'm not going to.

I'd walk.

I wouldn't think twice about walking at night, but how you feel is what's important.

I’d walk.

Another one here saying I'd walk ( unless I was knackered)

I'd feel safer on my feet than in a taxi, but it wouldn't even occur to me to worry about it at 8pm. I'm out at all hours running, riding, manhandling horses and walking the dog anyway. I wouldn't fancy the chances of any man telling me not to go out after dark

I live in a nice area but I like to run in the early morning as it the best time for me , I have a personal attack alarm and farb gel I take with me both affordable and on amazon maybe order them to put his mind at ease and you will be safer walking alone in future also x

@Xiomara22

10000% taxi

Sorry to be a pedant but 100 is the highest you can ever go 🤓

I live in a mid sized northern town ( and drive throughout the whole of the north ) and see plenty of women out alone at this time.
8pm is fine, after 11pm without a dog or two? Not so much.
Keep to very well lit areas and absolutely no short cuts away from houses.

Yes,I would do it.

Your bigger risk is going to be getting hit by a car.

I'd walk.

Shit like that was why an ex decided I had to be in the house by 4pm in winter. Nothing about being cold or having to walk a couple of miles, he didn't give a shit about that - he just wanted an excuse to stop me leaving the house unsupervised without being exposed as a controlling prick. 'Oh, it's because I love you and it's not safe out after dark'.

This thread is so depressing. So many women afraid to go out alone

I would walk it. I am regularly out running at that time of night and the streets are still pretty busy with other runners, people out walking/shopping/whatever and dog walkers.

Can’t he collect you anyway? He won’t be getting out of the car, unless he’s isolating away from you at home. I’d walk if it’s main roads

8pm seems very early to me but you need to do what you feel comfortable with. None of us know exactly what your area is like.

I see no reason why this needs to be an issue
He can drive to collect you as usual can't he? You live in the same house and he won't be exposing himself to anyone else while in the car
It's no bid deal ( unless he's very unwell of course)

I'd walk, provided I had comfortable shoes and a decent coat

[quote Wendybyrdesmissingconscience]@narcdad
@girlmom21

Don’t be obtuse. My husband doesn’t get to choose. He cares about my safety and I appreciate that. There’s nothing bizarre about that. Other posters can assess their own risk and do as they choose. The poster asked what we thought, hence my answer. I’m more than capable of making my own decisions.[/quote]
We're not being obtuse. You said there's no way he'd let you. You said that before your own opinions/feelings.

The bad people are out in the daytime too, unfortunately. We seem to think the sun goes down and suddenly rapists and murderers are hiding in the bushes

All the shocking local crimes I’ve read recently have happened in broad daylight.

As long as the streets have a bit of traffic I feel fine walking in the dark.

I wonder whether there are variations depending what part of the country someone lives in. I’m in a commuter town that’s 30 mins by train from London. If I’m working slightly late, trains are delayed, or I go for one drink after work 8pm is a pretty unexceptional time for me to arrive back in my town and walk one mile to my house. It wouldn’t even register in my head as ‘late’.

@Wehadabetamax it is indeed depressing that so many people are scared. I'd have considered myself careful, aware, and so on, but was a victim of stranger rape. That changed my personal outlook, and how I behave.

In some ways it is irrational. Stats say 20% of us have been raped, stats say 10% of those rapes are strangers (you can round up/down the estimates as you like, and these are considered lower estimates) which give a about 2% lifetime risk. Then take the chances of that happening on any specific day, the risk is tiny.

As an earlier poster said, I felt totally safe until I wasn't. The risks are indeed tiny.

I was attacked at 4pm on a sunny, bright day. In public.

I don't think it matters when you go out, if someone wants to attack you, they will.

So please just live your life as you feel comfortable, and don't let other people dictate where and when you can go anywhere.

It's still pretty irresponsible to encourage people to break the law

not when womens' safety is at stake. The safest way for the OP to get home is for her partner to collect her.