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Horrified at 7month old in pizza express with screen

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MadeinSW3 · 22/01/2022 15:00

I went for lunch today at pizza express, there was a couple giving their ?7month old a bottle with a screen propped up with something Disney to watch. They then plopped baby into high chair and put something else on during whole time at the stable. How can people be so stupid! The baby was looking around elsewhere for something more interesting.

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BABAHOTEL · 23/01/2022 17:06

Read my posts - I went to a session where I witnessed a discussion on this. What do you want a signed affidavit? A part of neglect is failing to give your child adequate attention. I have worked in this field, but it not difficult for a lay person to understand.

Doesn't it always turn out they've worked fine n the field.....

Fhjutftjvddww · 23/01/2022 17:08

@Hospedia

Read my posts - I went to a session where I witnessed a discussion on this. What do you want a signed affidavit? A part of neglect is failing to give your child adequate attention. I have worked in this field, but it not difficult for a lay person to understand.

Take it up with MNHQ, I'm sure they'll happily explain exactly why your post was deleted.

I don’t expect any reasoned decision from MN. This is not a public service it’s a private website. This is an issue that deserves proper discussion from all points of view. A lot of people on here cannot see past their own self-justification.
Fhjutftjvddww · 23/01/2022 17:09

@BABAHOTEL

Read my posts - I went to a session where I witnessed a discussion on this. What do you want a signed affidavit? A part of neglect is failing to give your child adequate attention. I have worked in this field, but it not difficult for a lay person to understand.

Doesn't it always turn out they've worked fine n the field.....

Are you asking for my CV now?
BABAHOTEL · 23/01/2022 17:12

@Fhjutftjvddww you're very defensive aren't you?

Your post was removed because it broke the guidelines, get over it, it was vile and nonsense!

calliecapers · 23/01/2022 17:12

I didn't start this until 2

I used to judge parents who have their kids screens in restaurants but now in one of them. Once you start, there's no going bavk

TimBoothseyes · 23/01/2022 17:13

Doesn't it always turn out they've worked fine n the field

You would have thought that poster would be encouraging parents who actively sought help rather than dismissing them in such a nasty way, seeing as she(?)"work's "in the field"

BABAHOTEL · 23/01/2022 17:16

@TimBoothseyes

Doesn't it always turn out they've worked fine n the field

You would have thought that poster would be encouraging parents who actively sought help rather than dismissing them in such a nasty way, seeing as she(?)"work's "in the field"

100% can you imagine if a parent was struggling, dealing with that judgement!

It's awful, no empathy, just well if you're doing too much screen time you're unfit and probably abusive to your child.

I know because, I once went to a meeting!

Hospedia · 23/01/2022 17:38

Like I said in a previous post, I quite often go on council-run parenting courses. I have two disabled children and the council run the SEND parent education workshops. Next week I'm going on a council-run parenting teens course, it's not aimed specifically at disabled children but my oldest is entering his teens and having trouble adjusting to the varies physical and mental changes so I'm information gathering, the more knowledge I can gain then the more I can help him through it.

In my experience, everyone on these courses is there voluntarily and even if they weren't, they are there. They're present. They're engaging.

Who the fuck are you to judge them for it with the remarks that you made?

Hospedia · 23/01/2022 17:40

Creating shame around seeking parenting support and perpetuating stereotypes about Social Services involvement helps no one, especially children. It puts parents/carers off from seeking support and it makes them fearful of Social Services, why would they seek help if they believe that they'll be thought of in the way you described?

JigglyPiggly · 23/01/2022 17:51

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Sofiegiraffe · 23/01/2022 18:12

This is one of the most depressing threads I've seen on here in a while. Designed only to cast judgement and induce shame in parents who are generally just doing their best with the resources they have in any given moment. Disgusting. And this is a supportive forum for parents? Hmm

WindyState · 23/01/2022 18:21

"This thread is like a written version of Jeremy Kyle"

True, but not for the reason you think.

KurtWilde · 23/01/2022 18:24

"This thread is like a written version of Jeremy Kyle"

If that ^ isn't one of the shittiest comments on this entire thread then I don't know what is.

It's no wonder parents feel like they can't get it right when no matter what they do they're judged. Kid running around, bad. Kid sat quiet on an iPad, bad AND borderline neglect.

Have a word with yourselves.

Sirzy · 23/01/2022 18:25

There is lots of shame about seeking support, this thread shows the levels of judgement sadly.

Most parents are trying their hardest to do the best. We need to make it more acceptable to say “I’m struggling can you help” than it currently is. At the moment parents are expected to just know what to do and how to do it with no help and that’s not realistic.

Support isn’t bad. Support services aren’t bad

JigglyPiggly · 23/01/2022 18:28

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DemelzaandRoss · 23/01/2022 18:31

No one seemed to mind when we had Polly Pocket sets at the table. Pencils & notebooks were ok too. Really can’t see all the fuss. They all grow up to be their own person in the end. Lighten up.

liveforsummer · 23/01/2022 18:32

Race to the bottom? Throwing a kid an iPad for 20 minutes so you can eat food while it's hot and not disturb other diners - really?!

JigglyPiggly · 23/01/2022 18:34

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Sirzy · 23/01/2022 18:37

@liveforsummer

Race to the bottom? Throwing a kid an iPad for 20 minutes so you can eat food while it's hot and not disturb other diners - really?!
Apparently parents (well I’m guessing mums really) are just supposed to accept never being able to eat a hot meal and spend 24 hours a day talking to their children and doing meaningful activities.

It seems at birth any self identity is handed over and you just become Mum

KurtWilde · 23/01/2022 18:41

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 23/01/2022 18:45

@JigglyPiggly do you have any idea how ridiculous you sound? Never read anything so pathetic in my life.

liveforsummer · 23/01/2022 18:46

Christ 🤣. I have all my teeth thanks and my reading comprehension is just fine. Definitely good enough to comprehend that you're really quite an unpleasant person.

Piglet89 · 23/01/2022 18:48

@MNHQ this thread has gone the way of so many BF v FF threads. Still “in the spirit”, do you reckon?

MrsGinnyM · 23/01/2022 18:54

Thankfully most of the worst goady offenders have been deleted @Piglet89

WindyState · 23/01/2022 19:00

"It's just racing to the bottom of parenting"

Nah, it's a bunch of judgemental wankers looking down on other people based on knowing fuck all about their lives or situations.