‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

[Laughingstock91]

Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have a 4 month old baby and was given all sorts of clothes despite my many pleas that I didn't need any (my 3rd baby, second girl). Lots were not to my taste but I just thanked people and was glad they left the tags on. Most stores will exchange without a recept, any that don't I have kept to donate or regift. I wouldn't say to the person who gave them that I didn't like the. That is rude. I'd give her the receipt of you have it and let her do the legwork to change them. The only thing I did ask bil to change was a playmat as we already had one and we were given another by the Scottish government in our baby box. He spent quite a bit of money on it and I thought it was a waste as we just wouldn't use it. Dh offered to go exchange it for something else once he had the receipt do bil didn't have to do anything.

I got plenty of clothes I didn’t like when my LO was born. I just said thank you and popped them on for a photo (and after the third outfit change of the day I couldn’t have cared less what clothes I was putting him in. Anything clean would do ).

Everyone has different tastes but she was rude to tell you.

@TyrannosaurusRights

When I buy a gift it’s because I want to give the recipient something they will like and enjoy using. So I include a gift receipt in case it isn’t to their taste.

Obviously that isn’t the case for many on this thread including the OP.

And the picture example outfit is absolutely not to my taste. It wouldn’t get used here, so would be a complete waste of money. And no I wouldn’t be posting it back to you. She’s got a tiny baby. She doesn’t need extra errands from someone who is meant to be a friend.

Go and collect it. Apologise for not including a gift receipt. Gift a voucher/cash instead while you’re there.

Jesus Christ. This is the definition of 'no good deed goes unpunished', isn't it. Spend some money on someone and then have to drive over, apologise for having the temerity to buy a gift, throw money at them and then leave before they get too exhausted with your selfish presence.

[quote Laughingstock91]@PartyOnKale it’s just leggings and a top essentially though! That’s the kind of stuff my daughter used to wear all the time![/quote]
Yes and so easy to put on and soft material.
I am just saying it looks useful regardless of specifics of favourite colours or styles.

[quote Laughingstock91]@betwixtlives yes! ‘We got your parcel today. Sorry the colour doesn’t suit little xxxx. Could we change them please’[/quote]
So they are asking if they can exchange them please, not just, thanks but not the right colour.

Our friends are very honest with each other, if she wants to exchange them for something she prefers, I am really not bothered, I bought the gift as I wanted her to have something she likes, not to make her so appreciative of my friendship and gifts. I just want her to have something nice she likes. I really can't imagine being offended by something so little.

@MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake

Yes I would.

I agree they were rude.

I'd have said something along the lines of I've already lots in those sizes or I've tried it with and it doesn't fit. If I felt close enough to the gifter, if not it would have gone in the charity bag.

That outfit is so lovely, soft and practical

@Needcoffeecoffeecoffee, I hadn't really thought about it until I was looking for a present for a younger friend's baby. I was looking at pretty dresses. Nothing at all like the practical stuff I had for the DC. I gave myself a wobble as it was my friend's baby not y dressing up doll.
I was in M&S and remembered the piles of unworn clothes.

I seemed to be given a lot of 6-9 moths for a newborn. DC were winter babies and it was summer when they would have fitted.

@TyrannosaurusRights

When I buy a gift it’s because I want to give the recipient something they will like and enjoy using. So I include a gift receipt in case it isn’t to their taste.

Obviously that isn’t the case for many on this thread including the OP.

And the picture example outfit is absolutely not to my taste. It wouldn’t get used here, so would be a complete waste of money. And no I wouldn’t be posting it back to you. She’s got a tiny baby. She doesn’t need extra errands from someone who is meant to be a friend.

Go and collect it. Apologise for not including a gift receipt. Gift a voucher/cash instead while you’re there.

"Apologise" My God 🙄

I'd just reply "Wow. You're welcome lol. Send them back and I'll get a refund".

Seriously 😳 that's so rude and not even a thank you in there!

I've often exchanged gifts that weren't to my taste if there was a gift receipt or a ship I knew wld let me exchange without a receipt. If I didn't know where they bought it I'd never dream of asking anyone to return it. Just so embarrassing and entitled!

@Laughingstock91, sorry just seen the photo. If the shop does them in adult sizes, send me a set. I'm a small. I lie them

like. I like. I would have happily dressed my DC in them

When someone gives you a gift, you thank them. End of. Just pick them up and give them to charity. Don't give them anything else!

Incredibly rude. Maybe she's gone a bit mad post baby.

Ha ha silly fool. What has happened to manners? Some people are so rude, ungracious and tacky these days.

I'm another one who thinks they want the money - they've probably clocked the brand

Go and collect it. Apologise for not including a gift receipt. Gift a voucher/cash instead while you’re there.

then kiss her boots and flagellate with some birch twigs

Don't forget to wear your hair shirt and bind your feet as well. Get DH to walk in front of you, ringing a bell ABs shouting 'SHAME'.

@Laughingstock91

Does anyone really care that the colour doesn’t suit a 3 month old? Maybe it’s just me!

My Mum said I looked like a monkey when I wore yellow as a baby as I have very sallow skin .😂

When my dc was born my dh work colleagues gifted us several items for dd, a couple were awful and not to our taste. We thanked them for the gift and I quietly exchanged at the store and got something we did like.

OP, you are a horrible woman, spending your free time going to shops and buying gifts in tiny sizes and sending them to your friends for their babies. Whatever were you thinking?

I think it’s a lovely outfit, I would have been thrilled with such a gift. Is it from Next? If so it wouldn’t have been cheap - sounds like your generosity will be better appreciated elsewhere.

I'd say "No sorry they were from a small boutique that doesn't do returns. Sorry they were a waste of money."

God how ungreatful, honestly i never speak to her again lol

As someone who genuinely looks like a corpse when I wear anything of a yellow hue it would seem reasonable that the same is possible for this baby. It’s not something that I personally would have told the buyer of the gift, but I guess it’s better to have something you will use, than something you won’t.