‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

[Laughingstock91]

Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Rmka I actually think some colours suit some babies more than others, but I'd never be so rude as to say what the pp's friend said! I've had stuff bought that I hated (Disney etc), it gets worn a few times so the person can see it on, then used as pjs, or donated when grown out!

@Laughingstock91

Does anyone really care that the colour doesn’t suit a 3 month old? Maybe it’s just me!

Sounds like a non-gender thing tbh. Really a horrible thing to say.

Not the non-gender thing, just the comment considering it was a gift. How entitled.

@MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake

Well that was very remiss of you, *@grey12*, not to bring them to a colour consultant who could have determined their most flattering shades.

I know 😔

(You're joking, but occasionally the thought crosses my mind to figure out their season I obviously don't care enough to do it.....)

People have different taste and it’s not a sin to want your PFB wearing something you think is adorable. The issue is the Etiquette in these situations. If a gift receipt is included you have been given the green light to return them saying something like ‘oh we got so many clothes she couldn’t wear them all’ if it is brought up. If a receipt is not included you can’t ask for it! Especially not by insulting the givers taste in the process. Unbelievably rude and grabby.

Bloody hell that’s rude! What did you say when she complained? Told her not to be so fucking rude hopefully.

DD1 looks very good in that fashionable mustard yellow and DD3 in pale blue based pink. DD2 only likes darker blue 🤷🏻‍♀️

My sister in law is really fussy about the clothes her child wears. Baby is dressed like a miniature hipster - only wears grey/brown/beige clothes, plain patterns, oversized sweatshirts and leggings. She’s 6 months old. The clothes are comfy and perfectly suited to a baby but soooooo expensive. Had no idea she’d adopt this sense of style before baby was born so none of the clothes bought by family before baby was born have been worn. At least though she had the tact never to complain about them or ask for something different!

Your friend has definitely been rude. Agree you should ask for the items back and say no more about it.

@Fairylightsongs

I think it’s a polite way of saying she doesn’t like the colours so wants to change them.

Polite?

As others have said, ask them to return the gift so you can get a refund. I don't think it would ever occur to me to say that to someone kind enough to give a gift.

We received gifts that we wouldn’t dress our baby in because of personal taste or awkward fastenings etc but the etiquette is to simply say thank you.

It's so rude

But I'm presuming your friend simply doesn't like the clothes and has blamed it on them not suiting the baby to spare some feelings.

Although it's definitely not hit the mark, I have often said something doesn't fit or suit when I actually mean it's fucking hideous but don't want to insult someone's taste

@EmmaH2022 Agree. A friend was very insistent that there be no gendered colours and no plastic rubbish. For her kid’s 1st birthday, I bought a gorgeous wooden pale grey carousel toy that had pieces to be assembled. Took me ages to find it and it wasn’t cheap. Didn’t get a thank you. Next time we met up, friend complained that child had been given too many toys and she’d given most of them away. Said she’d rather have had people do chores around the house to give her and her husband a break!

Rude.

I think I’d get a refund and distance myself from said ‘friend’.

I think your friend is a self important and rude.

[quote Laughingstock91]@betwixtlives yes! ‘We got your parcel today. Sorry the colour doesn’t suit little xxxx. Could we change them please’[/quote]
Fuck! I hope you replied No

Shocking. I'll admit, I've been gifted things for mine that weren't necessarily things I'd ever have personally bought. But I was still very grateful and she wore them anyway, half the time i had to truthfully admit I liked them once they were actually on her too 🤦‍♀️😂 the height of ungrateful.

Many people get no gifts or can't afford to buy new clothes for their children, perhaps she should pass them on to someone who'll actually appreciate your kind gesture! And I wouldn't send her anything again!

A couple of weeks ago on here someone got a outfit they didn't like and wanted to return it. Many said you should return it. I was taught to accept a gift, smile, and say thank you. Some have no manners.

@Laughingstock91

Thing is- it wasn’t even a horrible set- the closest I can find is this pic from next which is similar

I actually think that's gorgeous! I would have been chuffed to receive something like that!

@Laughingstock91

Does anyone really care that the colour doesn’t suit a 3 month old? Maybe it’s just me!

To me,.clothes are clothes, although I'm learning more about fashion and starting to realise, it's a whole new world, but that aside, as long as they keep the littlen, warm and clothed, then that's all that matters.

@BonnesVacances

Reply "yes that's fine, I'll exchange them if you give them back". Then return them to the shop for a refund or donate them and don't mention it again. If they chase up the replacement just be vague and non-commital.

Exactly this.

Babies look gorgeous in anything.
How shallow and superficial.

Maybe the baby is pale yellow and this emphasises it

Let's go against the flow here :)

Did you wanted to gift her something because it makes you feel good (and for feeling good you need some prescribed reaction from her) or because you wanted your friend to be happy?

If the first one, it sounds a bit selfish and a lot about you. If the later, now you know that she isn't really that pleased and you can together do something about it. The choice is yours.