‘Sorry the colour doesn’t suit my baby’

[Laughingstock91]

Sent a friend with a new baby some clothes - one thing was a really pale pink and the other thing was a really pale yellow. It was like a T-shirt and joggers set thing that I got in a small independent shop.

No Thankyou - just a comment that the colours weren’t right. The baby is 3 months old.

Aibu to think I would never have dreamed of making such a comment. I had some really unusual colours but I smiled, said Thankyou & the kids wore them as I was grateful to receive gifts.

I feel really offended- they weren’t cheap either 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not entirely the same but similar. My friends and I clubbed together to get an engagement weekend away for our friends. We all put money in to get them a night at a 5 star hotel including breakfast. All the had to buy was drinks (if drinking) and any extras they wanted such as the spa!

My friend afterwards moaned about the petrol cost and price of booze and the fact they didn’t like the menu. I couldn’t believe it!

Offer to replace it with a personalised baby grow with "I do NOT do pastels, dahhling" on it?

What a dozy mare!

@WonderfulYou

I don't think my little ones did much to make them dirty until way over 6 months. No weaning and breastmilk vomit or poo washes out very easy.

OP you friend is v v rude!

@Djg3334 my friend had similar. Bought an overnight stay in a 4* hotel for her parents as a thank you for some work her father did and afterwards was treated to a 30 min moan about how awful it was from no remote for the TV to how bad dinner was to the fact that they had written a letter of complaint and that their daughter should too, Couldn't just say thanks very much, very kind of you, we had a lovely night!

It’s beyond belief how rude this is. As for you @TyrannosaurusRights, apologise to her? Seriously? I think you’re mixed up as to who deserves an apology.

@Fairylightsongs

I think it’s a polite way of saying she doesn’t like the colours so wants to change them.

except it's hardly "polite"

@BonnesVacances

Reply "yes that's fine, I'll exchange them if you give them back". Then return them to the shop for a refund or donate them and don't mention it again. If they chase up the replacement just be vague and non-commital.

Yes, do this. If she does dare ask, say "Oh, yes they didn't have any colours I think you'd like, though".

@Djg3334

Not entirely the same but similar. My friends and I clubbed together to get an engagement weekend away for our friends. We all put money in to get them a night at a 5 star hotel including breakfast. All the had to buy was drinks (if drinking) and any extras they wanted such as the spa!

My friend afterwards moaned about the petrol cost and price of booze and the fact they didn’t like the menu. I couldn’t believe it!

Arseholes!

[quote Laughingstock91]@betwixtlives yes! ‘We got your parcel today. Sorry the colour doesn’t suit little xxxx. Could we change them please’[/quote]
Thats fine

Thanks for all your replies - it’s made me feel better!! I felt really offended!!

Very rude.

All the posters on here saying they don't like pastels.
It's a baby,they don't care.
The person who went out and bought it did a kind thing.
And it's a very rude response no matter what way you look at it.

I'd take it back,get your money back.
And never buy them anything again.

@Cheekypeach

‘No problem, if you return them I’ll get them refunded’.

This. ^ So rude. YANBU @Laughingstock91

I just read first and last page so please forgive me if I’ve missed an important detail or explanation.

At first reading I agreed with you and the commenters. Then I noticed in your first few posts you referred to your own child as ds but you were careful to only refer to your friend’s child as merely a baby, not son or daughter.

Is is possible your friend has a son and she knows that you know, as a good friend, that she would have preferred traditional colors for her son?

Or, that your friend has a daughter and she knows that you know, as a good friend, that she would have preferred gender neutral or non traditional colors for her daughter?

She may have responded that way for a reason, and not out of plain rudeness.

This is exactly what I was saying - me and my siblings go through family albums and it’s so funny looking at us in some banging 90s clothes and mum going “Aunty Jane got you that god what was she thinking” “grandma knitted that she ran out of wool halfway through and though the lime green would match” hahaha love it!

Go and collect it. Apologise for not including a gift receipt. Gift a voucher/cash instead while you’re there.

You know, it's really not helpful to let people behave like overgrown toddlers. You may tolerate it and pander but no one else will like them.

How rude! Babies grow out of clothes so quickly they're not in them long anyway!

How rude!
I got a questionable jumper for my DS, I thanked them like I did everyone else.
Get it back, get refund then treat yourself to some wine

@BonnesVacances

Reply "yes that's fine, I'll exchange them if you give them back". Then return them to the shop for a refund or donate them and don't mention it again. If they chase up the replacement just be vague and non-commital.

Yep - this.

How very rude of that person. 🌹

My SIL did the same thing with a lovely pair of snow trousers from Olive loves Alfie. They had pink and orange on them and she sent them back saying the colours weren't suitable for a boy. I just kept them and my own child wore them. They didn't get anything else. This kind of rudeness is astonishing...

I don’t know why people are such martyrs keeping clothes they don’t like, it’s wasteful. We just used to say ‘thank you for the lovely gift, we have loads of clothes in this size and We’d hate for it to not be worn, do you mind if we swap it for something in a bigger size.’ I’d much rather someone said that to me that shove my present in a drawer never to be used and money wasted.

@ClassicsBelle

I just read first and last page so please forgive me if I’ve missed an important detail or explanation.

At first reading I agreed with you and the commenters. Then I noticed in your first few posts you referred to your own child as ds but you were careful to only refer to your friend’s child as merely a baby, not son or daughter.

Is is possible your friend has a son and she knows that you know, as a good friend, that she would have preferred traditional colors for her son?

Or, that your friend has a daughter and she knows that you know, as a good friend, that she would have preferred gender neutral or non traditional colors for her daughter?

She may have responded that way for a reason, and not out of plain rudeness.

People have to get over themselves with all this pink and blue nonsense for kids. We are WAY beyond categorising gender in this trite, simplistic and old fashioned way. Christ almighty

@minipie

Think we need a “jaw drop” emoji MNHQ…

I was never fussy. I got given all likely hood of things

I had two tiny tiny children so I got gifted tons of clothes because mine were the smallest.

Ok I didn’t like it. But they are clothes. For a baby. They will most likely vomit or poop over nearly all of it and then food. Milk.

I remember seeing this running £3500 dress for a baby in Harrods and thinking who on earth would put a baby in a dress that was A. That expensive and b. It was white!!!

Have people forgotten what gift giving is all about? Since when was it a thing to reject a gift?

My MIL done this one Christmas. I got her a beautiful photo frame with a photo of DC in it and she handed me the frame back as she didn't like it. I feel like she should have just took the frame and said nothing.

This year for Christmas she bought me a Hello Kitty backpack that would be for a 3-5 year old (I'm 30). I just said thank you and got on with it, I would never dream of rejecting it.