Who is right?

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Parent A
5 figure salary
Pays own bills & shopping
Works full time
Does drop off and collection of child
Does 99% of things with child due to Partner B's job

Parent B
6 figure salary
Pays own bills & household bills
Works full time (slightly longer hours)

Who should do the general house things such as cleaning, washing etc?

Neither of us are agreeing here.

You should have equal leisure time. FWIW my husband earns several times more than I do, and we still have equal leisure time and broadly equal responsibilities.

I would say equal division. You both live in the House and should share the daily household chores.

Equal

Both, equally divided.

Equal....but on those salaries, both full time I'd get a cleaner and lighten the load for both of you IF you can.

Both of you, but with your salaries I'd hire a cleaner to do most things for you.

Both A and B should do around half the general household chores. I say “around half” because B works longer hours.

B needs to do more time with the child, if the child is also theirs. I don’t view this as a ‘child care’ though as you should want to spend some of your leisure time with your child.

Agree A and B should have equal leisure time (time with child) and equal alone leisure time.

Outsource!!! Why work so hard and tempeh spend your free time arguing over who should scrub the bath!

Both, but like the others I’d outsource lots of the work and buy meal boxes etc

I’d say something like 55% A to 45% B to compensate for the fact that B works slightly longer hours with the aim being for equal down time. I personally think each full time job should be treated equally and that salaries aren’t really relevant when it comes to the daily allocation of tasks.

But yes agree with PP- outsource whatever you can like cleaner, easy food etc

What hours are you each working? Do you both have a commute?

Equal downtime. Also, any child-related chores do not count as free time.

Is parent B's salary actually shared with family or is everything paid 50-50?

If they ar that well paid they can get a cleaner

Both but like everyone else I'd get a cleaner. Me and DH both work full time, I'm 33 hours and he is 50 hours although I earn more - we pay for a cleaner and for our ironing to be done. Although he works more hours I do all the school pick ups etc so we're pretty even.

Both - why isn’t it shared?
My husband works full time and earns a good salary. I work 30 hours a week earn a lot less than him.
He pushed to hire a cleaner (how I wish I did it sooner) he is also goes our twice a week in the evening for his hobbie plus gym etc
He helps pick up kids. Makes dinner most evenings, shares dishwasher duties! I do the washing and general tidying etc and picking up kids etc and everything else needed :)
We’ve never had a discussion around it just naturally shared it. The only time there’s an issue of emergency at same time as both of us have meetings - then we ask which one needs to be there.

Whoever has the most spare time, as stated above, you should both have the same amount of non childcare time.

A 5 figure salary could be £20,000 or £70,000.

It depends on the jobs etc.
If one of you is a brain surgeon and one of you is a librarian the brain surgeon needs more rest.

If one of you is a head teacher and one's a head of department you can easily balance the load between you.

Generally speaking, though, salary shouldn't be relevant. Especially if A is doing most of the childcare to accommodate B's high earning potential.

You are parent A and think B needs to do more?

If you work full time then you should share childcare and housework

Get a cleaner

Five figure / six figure salary is irrelevant and also could mean one of you earns 90,000 and one earns 100,000 which is obviously not a big difference...

Not that it makes a difference but a 5 figure salary could be 10,000 or 99,999.

However it makes no odd's it should all be shared.

5 figure salary and 6 figure salary don't mean anything.

5 figures could mean £99,000

6 figures could mean £100,000

But Parent B needs to step up massively.

both. Both are adults - cleaning washing etc are things adults do because it is part of living. You don't expect a partner to brush your teeth for you because they earn less than you.

But I'd definitely get a cleaner.

@Chocomelon

You are parent A and think B needs to do more?

If you work full time then you should share childcare and housework

Get a cleaner

Five figure / six figure salary is irrelevant and also could mean one of you earns 90,000 and one earns 100,000 which is obviously not a big difference...

This ^^

Equal time.

Parent B should either step up and get involved or pay for outsourcing ie cleaner housekeeper dry cleaning and Landry service etc

Parent B works more hours and pays for ALL the household bills bar shopping. So shouldn't be expected to do as much as Parent A who works less hours and contributes less financially (because of the hours worked, rather than the £ contribution).

With a 6 figure salary, I would agree that outsourcing to a cleaner would be a good plan. Use of online shopping/food boxes and laundry/ironing services would be good too.

Parent A already does school runs, which seems reasonable as they work less hours.

Surely each parent should have roughly equal down time, so sharing of remaining chores should depend on who's around a free to do it, allowing both parents to have leisure time as needed.