To tell DH "I need to be alone for a bit"?

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Firstly we have a large-ish house with two storeys and a big garden. We're in Australia though so it's not like a traditional UK house in that all the living area is upstairs...kitchen, bedrooms, sitting room etc...balcony...downstairs is a room that's been converted into a bar and a big garage-like space plus a laundry and another bathroom.

Basically, I work in the bar during the day as I'm self employed...in the evening I spend time with the family upstairs, eat dinner, go with DH to walk the dogs etc.

But now and then I just want to be alone for a bit. I am quite introverted and I've spent all day with people...both my family and some friends.

So I just said to DH (it's evening here) I'd like to be alone for a bit....because he kept coming into the bar and just faffing about.

He wasn't DOING anything...just sitting down for a bit then getting up and messing with the dog's bed or with his books stored here

I'd only been down here for ten minutes and he followed me. When I asked to be alone, he went into an immediate strop.

He said he has as much right as I do to the space...and of course he does...but if someone wants to be alone and everyone else is upstairs, why would you get annoyed because you'd asked them to leave? He didn't need to be down here at all...I've spent time with him tonight.

I do spend quality time with him. AIBU to be blunt and tell him "I need to be alone for a while"??

I had this problem too!

DH used to get quite upset but we had a chat in a less heated moment about how I am extremely introverted and can’t deal with noise and people all the time. Now, instead of telling him to go away because I want to be alone, I will say that I need ‘some quiet time’ which is recognised as ‘leave me alone until I come out of whichever room I am hiding in.’

Having ‘some quiet time’ is essential for me. I love my husband but I am an introverted loner by nature. I can happily spend more time with him than anyone on the planet but I still need ‘some quiet time’ which he now understands. In fact, he is beginning to recognise it before I do which is wonderful.

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Yabu

If you want to be alone you pick up and move

Kicking someone out is not acceptable, especially in their own home

His needs don't trump yours, but you're the one who wants alone time so you need to be the one to carve this out for yourself

Ummm... did you actually read the OP's posts?

She did leave and moved to the bar.
He followed her
To do nothing other than disturb her
Despite having the rest of the house to himself.