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AIBU to think if you are in a couple you always have a side of the bed?

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JustJam4Tea · 15/01/2022 06:03

Promoted by a twitter thread with some great responses

But seriously i feel a bit weird if I sleep on his side of the bed…and the bed side table….

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JustJam4Tea · 15/01/2022 06:04

Twitter line is ‘ Ready for the maddest news of the week?? Some friends of ours, a happily married couple, do not have ‘sides of the bed.’’

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Eileen101 · 15/01/2022 06:05

Always. Even if we go away it is the same, or even on the air bed when we're camping or its just weird.

Bunbunbunny · 15/01/2022 06:10

Same here, he's always on the left, me the right side. Every time we go hotel always same.

filka · 15/01/2022 06:21

We have two homes and sleep on different sides in each. Not quite sure of the rationale, it just happened naturally. May be coincidence but I'm on the same side as the car steering wheel in both.

BugsyDrakeTableScape · 15/01/2022 06:24

I have friends who don't. It's weird and creepy and wrong. They claim it stems from when the kids were younger and whoever's turn it was to deal with them slept closer to the door, but that feels like a poor excuse to me

SallyGoLucky · 15/01/2022 06:26

Always!!

I always have to be furthest away from the door, anywhere I sleep!

rrhuth · 15/01/2022 06:33

For a long time we didn't, because of night waking children. We do now, but will still swap occasionally for practical reasons. Wouldn't bother me to switch sides.

bedheadedzombie · 15/01/2022 06:33

I have my side if only because I want to sleep next to my night stand with my stuff on it. I did switch sides when pregnant, actually DP slept elsewhere because I was snoring, so it's not about the side of the bed itself for me.

Magenta82 · 15/01/2022 06:35

We have sides, sort of. We swapped when I was pregnant for easier spooning whilst I was lying on my left side and it stayed that way. We recently stayed in a hotel and the baby's cot was on the other side so we swapped back for that night, it felt really weird.

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JustJam4Tea · 15/01/2022 06:36

If there’s a zombie apocalypse he has to be nearest door so he gets eaten first.

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CoverYourselfInChocolateGlory · 15/01/2022 06:36

We do, but did swap over about two years ago. Agree with PP, it's more about which side of the bed my stuff is on.

twosticksandanapple · 15/01/2022 06:44

We always argue about it as we both want the 'best side' of the bed which is the side furthest from the door and closest to the window.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 15/01/2022 06:46

At home yes. (Well, during the week its ALL MINE but I often end up on my half anyway)

Hotels, camping etc? No rhyme or reason.

Daycup · 15/01/2022 06:52

No sides here, whoever goes to bed first chooses a side, I alternate which side I choose fairly regularly!

AngelicInnocent · 15/01/2022 06:54

I have to have the side closest to the door, the right in this house, but would actually prefer the left.

Zoeyclash · 15/01/2022 07:00

We definitely have our own sides and it would feel strange if we were to stitch. Plus I have my own books and other stuff on my bedside locker. I have noticed recently that in most male/female couples that the female seems to nearly always be the one who sleeps on the side closest to the door. Would love to know if that is really the case.....

Theforagingwombat · 15/01/2022 07:03

A while ago I finally agreed to swapped sides of the bed. My DH prefers the left side. The cat prefers my DHs new side of the bed too, he's slept there for years. I used to have to squeeze my body around him until I swapped. Now I can move my legs and get in and out of bed easily without having to do yoga moves. So DH is now sharing his side with a cat that likes to stretch himself out and can not be moved. My DH is putting up with having 25% less bed space because he thinks the cat is showing him he prefers him. Poor deluded fool.

FingChristmasFamily · 15/01/2022 07:03

There’s absolutely no way we’d not have a side. DH sweats a lot more than me and his side of the bed and pillow are pretty stinky even though we obviously change bedding regularly. He just smells. He’s not stinking up my pillow!

I find it odd that anyone would not have a specific side.

RowanAlong · 15/01/2022 07:09

We definitely have sides, with our own stuff on the bedside tables. It’s my only ‘me’ space in the house. I sleep furthest away from the door - he can be dealing with burglars while I sleep on...

ApolloandDaphne · 15/01/2022 07:13

We have always slept on the same sides of the bed since we married 36 years ago. Even in hotels or if we are on our own in a bed we choose our usual sides. It would seem weird to sleep on the other side.

Ahalam · 15/01/2022 07:24

We both have a preference for the same side. It has switched around due to circumstances like night waking with dc or needing to be closer to the toilet, but generally he gets the good side and I have the other one.

WorriedMillie · 15/01/2022 07:27

Oh yes, it’s an unspoken thing, we just claim our own side when stopping elsewhere m, without even mentioning it 😂

ReeseWitherfork · 15/01/2022 07:29

We have a side but swap every 6 months or so.

Broskerempter · 15/01/2022 07:30

I stumbled across this comedy sketch the other day on this very topic 😆

I'm closest to the door in case I needed to go to the kids... and also because dh is very unlikely to hear or respond quickly enough if anything was going down 🙄

ImaginaryCat · 15/01/2022 07:30

I started off always sleeping furthest from the door so he'd be murdered by the home invaders first. Then I was always closest to the door because my maternal radar would hear the disturbed baby sleep first. Now I'm always on the right because I sleep on my left and don't like facing into the middle of the bed.
People who don't have a side are anarchists who probably don't put the lid back on the butter.