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To think this card is grim and not appropriate in a shop where children can see it?

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Glassisalwaysgreener · 07/01/2022 18:08

Just that really.

Went into Scribbler to get a birthday card DS10 was with me and saw this. I thought it was grim and shouldn’t be on view in a high street shop where children can see it.

www.scribbler.com/Cards/Birthday-Bum-Sex-BC1331/

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eastegg · 09/01/2022 19:20

[quote MabelsApron]@Mumtumtastic Comparing a rude card to child sexual exploitation and gun violence is so far beyond offensive that I’m almost staggered that I have to actually point it out.[/quote]
Comparing isn’t the same as likening. And anyway mumtumtastic wasn’t really comparing, but using the more serious stuff to illustrate her point that something making money doesn’t justify it as a good thing.

Livpool · 09/01/2022 20:57

@Mumtumtastic sorry but what does child exploitation and gun crime have to do with 'offensive' cards and an apparently scary shop display?!

That is quite a jump!

My DS is quite sensitive and gets upsets by child and animal charity adverts on TV. Should they be banned or should DH and I help our son avoid or else not get upset by them?!

Snoozer11 · 10/01/2022 12:59

How many kids go to Scribblers anyway? It's hardly the Early Learning Centre.

My pearl clutching moment comes from adverts that were on the sides of bus stops in around 2003. I think they were for Trojan condoms and it was a photo of a woman's face whilst climaxing.

Completely inappropriate, and much larger than some words on an A5 card.

Hobbesmanc · 10/01/2022 14:41

Was the past really that neutral and tasteful. I'm a seventies child and certainly in the early eighties gift shops and book shops etc had rude and puerile stuff like Wicked Willy and topless post cards. Plus porn magazines of course and penis shaped sticks of rock were unfathomably popular at the seaside

I too remember the joys of finding porno playing cards and penis key rings in Spanish shops back then

Lifeisnteasy · 10/01/2022 14:42

Haha love it!

YABU Scribblr is notorious for stuff like that shouldn’t have taken your kid in

Tillsforthrills · 10/01/2022 14:47

I had no idea their cards were so vulgar Grin not everyone would know, there should be a sign on the shop door.

littlepeas · 10/01/2022 14:53

This reminded me of a card I saw as a child in a card shop that asked on the front ‘why is a turd tapered’ and when you opened it it said, ‘to stop your bum shutting with a bang’. I was a bit baffled by it and still remember it 30 years later Grin.

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 11/01/2022 09:11

[quote TheOriginalEmu]@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek that’s a weird analogy.[/quote]
@TheOriginalEmu
Please can you explain why you find my statement weird, and not just say here that it is weird?

@Flabbyflabberson
Please can you explain why you find my statement really weird, and not just say here that it is really weird?

@WorraLiberty
I am talking about the 1970's. These were on a high top shelf, behind the counter, that at 5ft 5" I couldn't reach, and they were inside a non see through plastic cover. They were more graphic than a woman showing off her breasts, which imo shouldn't be a problem for any age group, even the youngest of children have hopefully seen at least their own mothers breasts when breastfeeding - breasts don't have to be taken in a sexual context. However, if someone is committing sodomy it is nearly always in a sexual context (I can't think of any other context, but I sure that some of the clever mumsnetters will put me right on that!).

Unfortunately I can't comment on any other newsagents at that time because I would just go in for something like the NME, or sweets, I don't remember even noticing 'mens mags', and I certainly didn't scour every newsagents looking for them.

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 11/01/2022 09:50

@AlDanvers
Well you have really managed to confuse me with this one (although some may say that that is hardly difficult!)
You seem to be making a perfectly valid statment at 20:57 on 7/1/2022, I am just not sure about what point you are trying to make.
I had a Saturday job in a common or garden newsagent's, in a common or garden town. As far as I know that town did not have an adult book shop, but if it had, yes it would probably have had all of it's wears, displayed on all of it's shelves. It would also almost certainly have had to have a licence to run an adult book shop in that particular location, with quite strict rules, and a shop window blacked out, with just the words "Adult Book Store" written on it.
I am trying to anticipate the point you were trying to make, so in answer to another perceived question, I shall just point out the differences between:

an adult book store and a newsagents;

a 'normal' newsagents and a card shop;

an adult book store and a card shop (and in the case of "Scribblers" the apparent similaritaries as well).

Actually, sorry @Aldanvers, but I cannot be "asked" to do so (ref. different thread).
I am sure if anyone is reading this they can work out the differences for themselves, including, hopefully, you AlDanvers.

StarlightLady · 11/01/2022 11:45

Surely, if a child is old enough to go in a shop by themselves, a humorous card like the one depicted is not a problem.

If they go in accompanied, then maybe parental control is required. They sell vibraters in Boots but you don’t have to lead a child to that section.

TheOriginalEmu · 12/01/2022 22:52

@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek it’s weird because it doesn’t work. Newsagents sell all kinds of things and aren’t known as a smutty shop. This card shop is. That’s why.

TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek · 14/01/2022 09:41

[quote TheOriginalEmu]@TurkeyRoastvBubbleandSqueek it’s weird because it doesn’t work. Newsagents sell all kinds of things and aren’t known as a smutty shop. This card shop is. That’s why.[/quote]
Thank you for replying Emu, but my post about working in a newsagents was an explanation reply to @CinstonWhurchill

She accused the OP of being both unreasonable and ridiculous, and I didn't agree with her.
She told the OP

"Have an age appropriate conversation with your child, should they observe/question these things.

The world of retail and consumerism cannot solely revolve around your child"

I, obviously quite badly, was trying to point out to Cinston that for people like the OP and me, who were not aware of the existence of this "smutty shop" that we would not expect to find when we go in to an obvious child attracting card shop, with our (say) 7 year old child, such a card to be at a child height level. Therefore it doesn't seem fair to us innocent mums that we have to try to explain to our 7 year old child (who we hope will keep their innocence until at least after they have heard the full Santa story) that

"adult men put their penis into an adult woman's vagina and then spurt some tiny things that look a bit like tadpoles, but aren't, they are called sperm, into it. Those sperm then swim inside a part of the woman's body - called the womb (easier to spell than uterus) - and hopefully one of them will collide with a soft egg produced by the woman, which is much bigger than a single sperm (I can neither spell nor look up the name for a single sperm at the moment), but much smaller than the hen's egg you eat with soldiers, and, it doesn't have to remove a hard shell first because it hasn't been hard boiled - giggle... Anyway, if the egg and the sperm do meet, they often, very cleverly, make a baby together.

However my Darling, men and women don't always have the man put his penis into the woman to make babies, sometimes they do it because it feels fabulous to both of them (I certainly don't want to have to tell my 7 year old that), so they just do it for fun.

So you already know a bit about how babies are made, and that the act of a man putting his penis into a woman is often just called 'sex', but you have now just asked me what bum sex is, because you have read it on this card here, and you know my love that I am always honest with you, so I will explain this to you. You know that for 'sex' the man puts his penis into the woman's vagina, well for bum sex the man puts his penis into the hole that the brown and smelly poo (I am not going to call it faeces to a 7 year old child, you can to yours if you want to) comes out of. Now I know that that might sound DIS GUS TING to you my sweet, but some adults really like the feeling that gives them, and it also means that the man can shoot his sperm into the receivers bottom, and it won't make them have a baby if they don't want to as there are no eggs waiting inside a bum for them. Men like Uncle Jim and Uncle Dave also have sex like this, because they love each other but neither of them has a vagina to have such fun with. Apparently it is especially nice for the one who is putting his penis into the other one's bottom, because the bum's hole is a lot tighter than the the woman's vagina, and so their penis gets squeezed a lot tighter.

The card also mentions that it can hurt the next day (or even straight afterwards), this is because if the person having the penis put into their bum hasn't used lots and lots of lubrication - because remember it is a much tighter hole - it can stretch the skin around the hole so much that it tears, and bleeds a bit, and we all know that cuts can hurt. This also carries with it a danger of infection, because when the person poos later in the day, some of the poo can get into the cut, and that can make the man or woman whose bum it is, get an infection, which in itself can hurt, and might make them ill in a few days time.

Now, Cinston said to be age appropriate, so which bit do you leave out for a child between the ages of say 6 and 10, 11, 12? who can read well?

So I was pointing out that you can go safely into a newsagents without having to go through the story above, and you should also be able to go safely into a cardshop, that probably most people still haven't heard of, so have no idea that it stocks such risky material at a childs level. I don't think that my pointing that out was at all weird. However, I am willing to concede that talking an imaginary child through bum sex, might be!

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