To want to knock her lights out?

[AngryMumOfTwo]

Hi,

I've nc'ed to be anon with this.

I'm quite upset because this note was stuck to our door overnight.

A bit of background. We've moved into this privately rented flat about 4 years ago, when our daughter was only 1. She is now 5. We have just had our second (and last) over Christmas. Like all newborns, she cries at night sometimes. She isn't too bad to be honest, at least we didn't think she was. Our oldest did cry a lot.

We get along with most people who live here. We're generally quiet and private as is all the other residents. Over 50% of them are elderly, though this isn't a retirement block of flats. We're the youngest, but there are others not much older then us.

We don't know who left the note. It is obviously unsigned. We have our suspicions but that's all. If they had knocked on the door and spoken to us, that wouldn't be a problem.

For their own sake, they better hope I don't find out who it is. I'm furious. It's horrid. The residents we've spoken to over the last few days have said how lovely she is but no noise complaints. Our immediate neighbours and the lady directly below are nice people so I don't think it's them.

I'm not sure what else I can really do about this. I had to vent my anger somewhere, sorry. My partner is angry but also found it amusing.

That is a vile note and whoever wrote it is being a coward not speaking to you directly. However, I have lived in a semi where the neighbour kept a baby right next to the thin party wall and which they left to cry for hours on end. It was horrendous as we couldn’t sleep and we did in the end have ask them nicely to at least move the baby away from the wall.

@JustUseTheDoorSanta

I'd put a copy in each door with a note "We try to comfort the baby to minimise crying, but we were all babies once and it is both natural and normal that babies cry from time to time. It is less usual for anonymous rude letters to be put in hallways, don't do that again. #16"

yes this is a response that wouldn't make the OP look insane.

Any talk of ear defenders or smothering, omg, that would be insanity.

Given the phrasing I'd say they are trolling and want to upset you, so giving them a reaction is exactly what they want. I'd just carry on as normal and not react to it.

It’s so nasty it’s actually comical. The person who left it obviously wanted to cause some upset so ignoring it and not being upset about it is probably the best thing to do. I wouldn’t do anything else though, short of knocking on everyone’s door you’re not going to find out who it was. Is there a way to make the baby cry more? Could you organised a baby group in your home full of newborn babies? Just thinking of ways to fully piss this person off

Just one though, stuck to the MAIN entrance door. Not stuck to every apartment door.

Awful!

But definitely not an old person's handwriting. That's how people are taught to write in modern times.

One post OP hey 🤔

I’d just leave it on the door if I was you …. Perhaps write ‘fuck off’ on it …

My advice would be to keep the note. This might escalate, in which case you could involve the police.

I’d put it in the lobby - with a response.

“Given this is anonymous and I cannot personally respond, I am making this public.

Thank you for your feedback which has been noted.”

I would shame them by making it public but I wouldn’t signify anything other than a polite response acknowledging you have seen it. You don’t need to respond to such bile with a conciliatory response.

Another vote to say it's a young person's handwriting.

If I knew who it was I'd be so tempted to write a note saying 'I don't appreciate you living here just to die soon'
But I'm petty. That note is vile.

@JackTheHack

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What a horribly ageist post. ALL ages of people can be vile st times, all ages can be lovely.

For what it’s worth, I think in this case you have a teenager trolling you, OP. I teach teens and it reads exactly as a teenager has written it, and it looks like a teen’s handwriting. It doesn’t have that shakiness to the writing characteristic of older people. The moving in to breed gives it away too.

I’d add a comment to it and stick it in a communal area. Say something like thank you to all you lovely neighbours who have welcomed us to this community but unfortunately some are not so welcome. Shame them

We're the youngest, but there are others not much older then us.

I'd put good money on it being one of those people. Not an older person's handwriting, and also the couching of the line about the place being home to older residents - it's a them, not us phrasing.

It's a horrible, snippy little note. Fuck them.

Please tell us you've found out who it is! I'm so angry on your behalf - pure cowardice to not even sign it.
I'd be knocking every single door to find out who it was.
Or (and this probably a better idea for the safety of the note author) I'd photocopy the note, and put a copy inviting the author to come discuss it through the each door so EVERYONE (thinking particularly now of the people who don't have an issue) can see what a spineless cuntweasel you have in your midst.
Yes, I get it may have been written after (perhaps yet another) broken night's sleep-but that doesn't excuse the nastiness of it.
Breed, indeed.

That note is disgusting.

I'd turn up the volume in response to such a vile message.

Leave the note up. Let them neighbours gossip about what vile person wrote it.

That's not an elderly persons writing.
But, its nasty and cowardly, I would hold on to it, tbh, just in case things progress.

I'd be furiously knocking on doors showing everyone the note and asking if they had a problem with baby crying.
Prob not the best way to go, but I'd be so upset. What an absolute arsehole.

Ignore the horrible horrible lowlife who wrote that. Let's hope you're newborn doesn't bother them anymore with her crying wink wink after all she is a baby I would be tempted to buy a machine with an adult voice crying all night and leave it on just to piss them off.

@JustUseTheDoorSanta

I'd put a copy in each door with a note "We try to comfort the baby to minimise crying, but we were all babies once and it is both natural and normal that babies cry from time to time. It is less usual for anonymous rude letters to be put in hallways, don't do that again. #16"

I think this sounds the best approach or, if there is a communal notice board, post a copy of horrid note up there with your response next door. Maybe add something along the lines of 'I'd be very happy to discuss this in person'. The 'Ring' doorbell sounds an excellent idea.

So sorry you received such a horrible note, OP.

Do you have a common area with notice board? If so pin it up there for all to see, with a response from yourselves. Shame the bugger who wrote it. What a dick.

Incredibly rude. As one who has been kept awake so many nights over the last couple years by noisy neighbours I can only assume they were at the end of their tether. I wouldn't have done that personally even so.

Out of curiosity, even if they had knocked on your door politely what would you have said?

I'd be knocking on doors to find out who wrote it... not to knock their lights out of course. "Just to breed" makes it sound like a young person.

Whoever it is at least you're getting on their tits.