To ask what does your partner do that drives you absolutely bonkers?

[AnotherSillawithanS]

Mine starts jobs all over the house and never finishes them.
Tiled my kitchen floor, still not finished, started doing up daughters bedroom, he decided to take over and it's now gone on months.
Started working on the sitting, still not finished. Can't use the room.
Been like this since the summer or longer!!
I'm driven mad with it, fucking mad I tell you!

In the last few days he's started working on the bumper of his work van. Sanding, painting, priming, still not finished. He didn't have to do this!!!!!!!!

I just can't take anymore.

He gets toothache,for days on end, but won't see a dentist,ever. Seriously needs to. Teeth are now brittle.
Says Dentists are a rip off,but it seems other things that he buy's aren't.

Leaves crisp packets, usually Pringles, in living room overnight.

Buys me chocolate or desserts even when I've spelt it out that I don't want any more due, to humongous weight gain.

My DP does a sort of roving reporter voiceover of everything. So he'll say 'I can't get this box open ... nope, it won't open ... I'll need a pair of scissors ... I saw a pair in DS1's room ... wonder if they're still there ... no, no sign of them ... I'll get a knife etc etc. Thing is, he says it all loud enough for everyone to think they're supposed to do something or react in some way, when really it's just his internal monologue on speaker mode. Drives me crackers - especially if I'm in the middle of something and think he's trying to get my attention. Nine times out of ten, it's something completely irrelevant. I do switch off from it as best I can, but some day he'll be trying to tell me his arm's hanging off and I'll just keep hanging up the washing.

Mine also loves to talk about things he’s going to do. For example this morning’s conversation -

Him - I’m going to get the extractor fan fixed
Me - Okay
Him - Would you prefer it to come on automatically with the light or when you switch it on?
Me - I don’t really care either way
Him - Right well do you think I can find someone on TaskRabbit to do it?
Me - Maybe
Him - Or maybe that electrician, I’ll speak to him

I can guarantee that he will not call the electrician and instead will try to discuss the extractor fan with me for at least the next 6 months until I do it myself.
He talked about getting the garden done for almost 2 years and had even made a PowerPoint presentation on how he wanted it to look but never even spoke to a builder. Eventually I was sick of talking about it, so made some enquiries and the garden was done within a couple of weeks. Obviously it’s now his pride and joy and shown off to anyone he speaks to despite it being absolutely nothing to do with him.

Mine clears his throat of phlegm REALLY loudly and it makes me literally want to punch him square in the face!
And he does it so often aswell, it kills me 😫🤬

Performance sneezing.

Exactly what I came on to say about my DH @Okbye!!! It drives me mad. He sounds like a demented pigeon.

Sits too closely too me 😂🙈there is plenty of room on the sofa!! Fuck off a few inches!!

My DH does the exact same thing as yours. He decided he wanted to change the light switches in our house despite not being an electrician so he blew the fuse three times leaving us without lights upstairs. There’s no switch in our bedroom and the wires are still exposed. Three weeks and counting…

Same with the downstairs loo. The toilet broke and was leaking everywhere so he switched the water in there promising to fix it up. I think we’re on month four or five without it now. He’s ripped all of the tiles out and is going to plaster the walls… The door is just closed and I don’t look.

He also doesn’t see mess in the same way I do so steps around or over it. I once left his dirty undies and towels on the bathroom floor to see how long they would accumulate before he noticed. It was about a week and I think he only noticed because I hadn’t washed his undies and he’d run out.

See mine is the opposite of all of these people that never finish things or it takes them ages. DH will decide he's doing something and it will be done in record speed. Sounds amazing doesn't it...😂

But, pre kids when we moved in to our new house, he would be up all hours finishing stuff off. He dripped paint on me whilst painting our bedroom ceiling at 11pm. I was asleep!!!!! He thought he'd just do the cutting in and then roller it in the morning.

Or the garden, he was out there painting the fences in the pitch black. They turned out fine but I don't know how, he couldn't have seen what he was painting properly.

And housework, he has to hoover the house, every day, no exceptions. Downstairs gets done between the kids eating and making a mess, it's more upstairs he does. But even if he's late in from work and I'm getting the kids to sleep, (or on one occasion they were asleep) he's hoovering around them.

This is my favourite thread 🤣

I'm guilty of some of the above. But as for DH, if I start I don't think I'll be able to stop... This is going to be so cathartic:
Starts ordering food before he knows what he/everyone wants, and just generally orders in a slow and awkward way.
Insists on paying in cash for most things.
Leaves the front/back door open when messing with the car/garden and let's all the cold air in.
Opens a high window in the house I can't reach and promises to close it again before he goes to work but never does.
Never takes his shoes off, and even puts them on after a late evening bath/shower.
Puts the intonation on certain words in the wrong place and can't hear the difference.
Makes up abbreviations for already short words.
When we've been on a camping trip and had a long drive home and the car is full he insists we empty the car immediately, instead of resting/eating/putting the kids to bed and I find it very stressful and would rather wait.
He mixes colours in the washing machine and tumble dries things that shouldn't but heaven forbid anyone ever put anything of his in the tumble dryer.
He panics if we are low on bread/milk/gravy/cooking oil/cereal and will walk or drive and pay way over supermarket prices for them rather than heaven forbid, wait until we've run out or go without. He will often come back with two of the item (for eg, TWO boxes of Rice Crispies at double supermarket price).
Buys those really expensive pre-prepared fruit salads and let's them rot.
Leaves things to soak in the sink that doesn't need soaking
Empties certain items from the dishwasher onto the draining board instead of away.
Puts the kids clothes away in all the wrong places, hanging pyjamas up in the wardrobe for eg

But, pre kids when we moved in to our new house, he would be up all hours finishing stuff off. He dripped paint on me whilst painting our bedroom ceiling at 11pm. I was asleep!!!!! He thought he'd just do the cutting in and then roller it in the morning.

OMFG, I'll never complain about mine again after this 😂

If I'm sitting next to DH and directly speak to him, he usually has a 10 second delay before replying (especially if he's on his laptop). So annoying.

But, if I'm two rooms away and mutter something quietly under my breath (that has nothing to do with him) he immediately shouts 'Sorry, sorry what was that?' Even more annoying.

After showering he always folds his towel into a very small square and carefully balances it on top of the heated towel rail. So it can't air and dry and invariably falls off onto the floor. He doesn't like using a damp towel off the floor, so he gets a fresh one - and the madness continues.

Looool great thread. Love my DP to death but mine would be:

• He never gets dressed straight away in the morning, so we can never quickly pop out without having to wait for him to get ready. He sits in his pants and then finally goes into the shower only when we're 15 mins from leaving the house;

• He does things that are not time-sensitive at annoying times - eg starts doing something he could easily do the next morning really late at night so I can't go to bed, or applying for jobs while I'm waiting for him to go out somewhere when he could just pick it up again when we get back afterwards;

• Always tries to change the time/nature of plans that have been arranged by others. Eg going to my parents for a BBQ, "why are we getting there at 1, why isn't it starting at 3?", "why are we going to X, why can't we go to Y?" when invited out by another couple.

• Moans all through anything I like on TV even though he monopolises it with stuff I hate 90% of the time. Constant "omg this is sooooo shit" all the way through.

• Never does jobs he say he will and then acts like I'm being passive aggressive when I start going them myself.

There are more but think that will do for now LOL

I don't know where to start but here's a few:

• when hanging washing on the line he hangs trousers from the bottom!
• glued to his phone, if I ask him to do something he goes in a strop yet expects me to drop/stop what I'm doing when he asks or wants something (including work when WFH)
• he's retired, I work FT, he does some housework but when he does.... I hear about it for the next 2 days!
• grabs the dishcloth for anything and everything, the other day he wiped a poufe where the cat sleeps with it! Thankfully I noticed or I would've been using it to wipe the worktops!
• swears ALL THE TIME even though I continuously ask him not to
• puts random canvas pictures on the walls.... everywhere, there's not a wall in our house that doesn't have something on it, I HATE it!
• driving... hates changing gear so he'll be going 20mph in 6th gear (thankfully I drive most of the time)

I could go on and on.......

Lol at those saying, "Aw, I love him to bits, but..."

Well, I can't bloody stand mine, but.....

He picks up the bottle of handwash, making a big dint in the side, rather than just leaving it where it is and pushing the pump like any normal person would. This is when he actually does wash his hands. More often than not he just turns the tap on for less than a second, as if he's pretending to wash them, like a kid. Weird.

Mine does the ultimate faff. When he starts a job he doesn't consider every tool/ implement he might need so there is endless toooing and froing for things like hammer ....... oooo need some nails(back to shed)......Oooo need a saw (back to shed) ...... teabreak time.......wood, I need wood (back to shed) ...... paint(BTS) .....paintbrush(BTS) .......teabreak........drill(BTS)..........

It drives me loopy

He also does the "man look" thing where he can't see things right in front of him. DD has inherited that one. My friend tells me her husband does it too........

@UnreasonabIe

He also does the "man look" thing where he can't see things right in front of him. DD has inherited that one. My friend tells me her husband does it too........

Another one for "man look" here. Infact this has recently become a "do we have any XYZ?" rather than taking the trouble to man look, to which I will silently open the cupboard where XYZ has been kept for the last 8 years and point to it. He will now also ask "Is there a ABC?" which is often something common like a spoon so I don't reply as he knows there is one and that he can bloody well get it himself. On rare occasions he will ask about something that I genuinely don't know anything about and then that's when all hell breaks loose. "Have you seen DEF?" to which I reply "No". He's flummoxed by this. "NO???!!!" so I say "No, I have never used a DEF in my life so I have never looked for one in this house so if you believe there is one then you have more idea than me where it might be".

Strangely he can then find it.

Drives me mad. Like I'm some kind of bring-it-to-me robot or something

Feeds the fish, then leaves the fish food pots out on display,in the living room,because they are such a lovely ornament???
Why can't he return things to the place he found them?

Got another one that's happening right this second....

He ALWAYS leaves it to the last minute to do things and then ends up pushing other stuff later and later because of this.

So all week he's said he'll be making dinner tonight, has a special recipe, will be getting ingredients etc. Asked what time I'd want it, I said about 7.30, he says he'll need to start prepping about 5.30 then...

Yet he's sat here ALL DAY and not gone to get those ingredients, despite knowing he needs them. He is currently still not even dressed and ready to go, at 20 past 5? But yet he still will go, probably won't be back until after 6, and we'll end up eating about 9.30, purely because he just procrastinates all day.

So frustrating.

Only getting cutlery for himself when I've made everyone dinner and only taking his plate to the table (we have 2 kids)

@converseandjeans

- Clamps his armpit over the top of the duvet so when he rolls over it drags it off me.

• Rustles packets of sweets while we're watching TV
• Makes roll up fags at various places round the house leaving a trail of tobacco - instead of making a batch for the rest of the day he just makes one each time
• Falls asleep watching some documentary then wakes up as soon as I want to change channels

I realise these seem really petty & I'm sure I also do annoying things.....

I don’t know how to just include one of the above but the clamping the arm pit over the covers is utterly irritating as I will wake up cold as he’s swiped the lot off me. Pisses me off no end. I’ve yelled at him a few times too!!!

I do have some other petty ones:

• takes forever to clear his throat
• decides to change where things go and gets annoyed at me for putting them in the usual place
• when I have a day off, he tries to make plans for me do for the day

Small and petty, but oh well. Been together 19 years this year, still love the bones of him

Loving all of these!

Omg yes add mansearching to my list. Also " daddying up" - it's like tidying up but a half arsed version where things are put away in random places instead of where they actually belong