To ask what does your partner do that drives you absolutely bonkers?

[AnotherSillawithanS]

Mine starts jobs all over the house and never finishes them.
Tiled my kitchen floor, still not finished, started doing up daughters bedroom, he decided to take over and it's now gone on months.
Started working on the sitting, still not finished. Can't use the room.
Been like this since the summer or longer!!
I'm driven mad with it, fucking mad I tell you!

In the last few days he's started working on the bumper of his work van. Sanding, painting, priming, still not finished. He didn't have to do this!!!!!!!!

I just can't take anymore.

My house is in bits!

He also building shit when I got to work and by the time I'm home it's too late to turn back. For example, he built a porch on the inside of my hallway inside the house and it's still not finished. I cried my eyes out that day.

At the end of the garden I have a beautiful brick she'd, it's like a little house. Double glazed, central heating. He stuck wood to the front of it so you can longer see the building. I went mad that day. I spend ten grand on it only for him to cover it up with cheap wood.

I'm at the end of my tether!!!!!

@AnotherSillawithanS

Mine starts jobs all over the house and never finishes them. Tiled my kitchen floor, still not finished, started doing up daughters bedroom, he decided to take over and it's now gone on months. Started working on the sitting, still not finished. Can't use the room. Been like this since the summer or longer!! I'm driven mad with it, fucking mad I tell you!

In the last few days he's started working on the bumper of his work van. Sanding, painting, priming, still not finished. He didn't have to do this!!!!!!!!

I just can't take anymore.

Sounds like adult ADHD. If he were doing these things in a professional capacity he would be classed as an initiating personality and would be advised by a job coach to embrace it but to do a job where he was the thinker/idea generator and someone else took on the idea and project managed it to completion. Sadly this is your domestic life and unless you are the 'closer' of each task he has begun you will live with this forever . Perhaps you need to sign up for painting, tiling, carpentry evening classes. I am only half joking

Yes to the starting jobs but no finishing them-In every room of the house I bet I could find several unfinished jobs!!
It seriously fucks me off and when I question it?-He says he doesn't have time......yet will find time to start another fecking job!!

Exists.

Leaves shoes at the door rather than in the shoe cupboard.

Loads the dishwasher at the front and with everything in the most ridiculous place meaning you can’t get everything in.

@Adm1010

Opens the bread by ripping it in the middle !!!

Who the fuck does that?

That's divorce territory

Stacks the dishes like we’re having a game of Jenga…I’m tired of replacing crockery!
(Linked to above) Breaks things but doesn’t say so I can’t replace in time for needing them.
Babies our children when we’re with our parents (can’t think how to explain it🤷🏻‍♀️), in that sticks up for them unnecessarily and basically implies their behaviour is ok when its not and if we were alone he’d call them out on it. He just doesn’t like anyone else ‘disciplining’ our girls even though they 100% deserve to be called out on their behaviour.
Leaves his dirty clothes/underwear all over the bloody house.
His driving, he’s rubbish and I hate being a passenger with him.
He also has no idea how to hang washing or clean the house properly So it’s not a biohazard.

Clamps his armpit over the top of the duvet so when he rolls over it drags it off me.
Ugh, DP does this but his WORSE habit is rolling to the centre, say, tucking the duvet under him, then back again. So to the untrained eye it’ll look like he’s on his side, facing out of the bed, as it should be, but the duvet is tucked firmly under him at the CENTRE of the bed. Absolutely no give at all, just a sad duvet flap on my side. Bastard.

Also: opens post and puts the envelope on the nearest surface, a mantelpiece or sofa, then just fucking leaves it there FOREVER. Our house is not large. The recycling or the wheelie bin out front is never far away. And yet!!!

Starts a new box of cereal /loo roll/ shampoo / toothpaste/ whatever before the old ones run out so you have two open and on the go. Gives me such rage.

@monsterflake

Over explains everything to my 6 year old DD who has the attention span of a flea. Gets irritated at her when she stops listening after three seconds and then at me when I say "DD, brush your teeth" and she gets on with it whilst he's halfway through waffling some story about how he has 615 fillings when he was 4 or some nonsense.

It's not that I'm not interested in his life experiences, just he isn't her dad and I wish he would just accept that I know my child and what she responds to.

Mine also does this, spoiler alert-its worse when they are teens.

Leaving the toilet seat up Ugh! Irrationally gives me the rage. 🤣

• puts things in the sink which he has no intention of washing (we have a dishwasher)
• reloads said dishwasher after I’ve loaded it
• doesn’t clean as he goes when making and serving dinner, meaning the mess if left to clear up after the meal when you just want to relax
• leaves the lids off jars of mayonnaise, pesto etc on the kitchen side overnight if I don’t manage to notice
• micromanages me when I’m doing the most mundane tasks, e.g. hanging out the washing

Luckily he is an excellent husband so I’ll keep him 🤣

Hoards shit we don't need;that 20 year old CD player that he's not used in 17 years,stuff from a hobby he quit 8/9 years ago,a computer tower that's not been used in at least 6 years etc all in boxes and taking up space and don't get me started on the bikes in the shed he's not ridden in at least 15 years.

Leaves his empty plates etc on the worktop instead of putting them in the dishwasher. Empties said dishwasher and kits away clean stuff but doesn't refill it if there's stuff waiting to go in.

He’s a spoonyfucker

Opens the bread by ripping it in the middle !!!

That's making me feel all twitchy. I couldn't be doing with that!

I think the worst habit mine has (this is gross) is instead of wiping his willy with tissue paper or just leaving it to drip after peeing kind of "flicks" the end of his Willy which makes a snapping noise and I always imagine that drops of pee are being sprayed on the toilet and wall.

He also just waves his hands under the tap afterwards and doesn't use the hand soap 🤢. He is very hygienic and clean in every other way so I can't get my head around why he does this. It drives me mad and makes me feel really anxious sometimes as I'm a bit of a germaphobe!

• Leaving doors open when he gets something
• He is very good at putting towels etc. To wash but never gets a new clean one
• taking care of things to 90%. I.e. Emptying/filling the dishwasher but always leaves few items on the table

When he's lying on the sofa he pulls his socks half way off his feet and leaves them there so his feet are wearing little hats like members of East17.

He will march laps around the house or go out for a walk at random times to get his step count up but won't walk 10 steps from the kitchen to the recycling box outside preferring to leave recycling in the fruit bowl.

Also if there's a bag somewhere say with an item that needs returning in it he will put rubbish in the bag instead of in the bin.

He will say "Do you fancy fish and chips/going for a walk/visiting my sister or......"
then he stops talking and I want to yell OR WHAT?!

Never answers his bloody phone

If we’re putting up flat pack furniture,he will study the instructions like he’s taking it as major exam

He’ll then lay everything out,taking up the whole room and slowly start putting bits together-I could have made 3 of whatever he’s building in this time

He’s really tidy,which sounds fab but I’m sick of playing ‘hunt my shoe’

We can’t just pop to tesco-he has to write a list,he’ll then forget something major and it blows his brain that he’s forgotten it and he seems to think the world will blow up if the forgotten item hits the trolley

If I dare to go near the ‘finest’ range he will suck air in so hard I’m amazed he doesn’t burst a lung-half our shopping is me putting it in the trolley as years ago I couldn’t afford them and now I can

I refuse to decorate with him-I’m happy to sling newspaper down and crack on with it-I redecorated our lounge in just under two hours

He can’t bear this so spends hours laying sheets down and slowly paints an inch at a time,so all jobs take at least 5 times what they should

He’s more than happy to have one bottle of shower gel or tube of toothpaste and when it runs out he’ll just go out and buy more-I can’t bear this-I have to have at least 6 months of shampoo,shower gel,toothpaste etc or I get stressed out

He does this weird snoring-it’s not snoring but a wet breathing-my brain latches onto this noise and it drives me mad

He hates opening his wallet

He’s a good egg really and I adore him-he’s always got my back,is always there for me and I’m sure I drive him batty with my slap-dash attitude to life

He’s my best friend

i feel so much better reading these!!

mine narrates what he's doing. "i've just fed the animals" or "i've taken the washing up stairs"

when he cooks it's as though he's on masterchef. all the knives laid out. a bloody tea towel under the chopping board. frozen peas defrosting in a glass (WHY?????????????????????) and no-one's allowed in the kitchen as his cooking is Very Important. (whereas i rustle up dinner every night and couldn't give two hoots about how it's done tbh)

if he narrates it then it means he is the best and because i don't narrate it means i'm not busy. sigh.

Has a pathological aversion to spending money on our house, even though he was the one who insisted on buying one that was 200 years old - and would (obvs) need regular maintenance.

It's not that we can't afford it. We can. It's not that he's tight with money. He's very open handed. It's like he simply cannot see the flaky plasterwork or that the woodwork desperately needs repainting (Him: "But we had the while house decorated when we moved in" Me: "Yes, but that was 13 fucking years ago.")

Several of the tiles on the floor of the DDs bathroom are badly cracked and look unsightly. But it genuinely doesn't bother him, he just sees it as a total waste of money. However he's more than happy to blow money on expensive holidays and eating out etc.

His parents rarely, if ever, spent a penny on their home despite my FIL having a well paid, professional job. FIL owned 2 race horses and yet their kitchen units were 35 years old and falling apart.

Drives. Me. Insane.

Where do I start…
If you say we are going out at 5:30, he will be at the door with his shoes and coat on at 5pm and hurrying me up
Shaves his beard and leaves the hairs everywhere
If it’s not on the end of his nose he cannot find it and therefore I have thrown it away
Never ever puts his own washing away so he literally re wears everything that’s been washed… then has the audacity to say ‘I didn’t know I had this in my wardrobe’
Makes out he is mr clean and tidy when I’m forever tidying up after him
Picks his fingers when we are watching tv
Chews loudly
Doesn’t give me a chance to put something back whilst in the middle of still doing it and makes out he’s having to tidy up after me
Never replaces the toilet roll even though there are replacements on the holder
When he’s on a work call he HAS to walk around the house so everyone hears it but god forbid I put the kettle on if he’s working in the kitchen

Oh and I can’t even blink without waking him up….

He has many good qualities and I’m very lucky to have him but my god there is nobody on this earth that can infuriate me as much as him…..

@dementedma

Sniffing!! I swear it will be cited as grounds for divorce soon.

Or and excuse for murder! My dh does this and always refuses a tissue saying its just allergy sniffing! Also like someone posted the long exhale of breath or the choo choo sounds he makes running up the stairs! Just does my head in 🤣

Puts his dirty cutlery and cups on the side instead of in the sink or the dishwasher. And worst of all...lines them up neatly as if that makes it ok.

Watches me carry heavy shopping bags in from the car but only rushes to assist if male members of my family are present. Will usually wait until I've lugged them all in and then offers assistance.

If I ask for help with heavy lifting or fetching things from the lift is never available straight away. So I invariably end up doing these jobs alone and when I'm done he will then tell me he's available to help.

The only thing that makes him get his arse I to hear is if I loudly say I'd better call (male member of the family) to help me with this as O can't do it alone.

• move his arse into gear.