Bridesmaid...

[Bee97]

I was supposed to be a bridesmaid for a close family member however now I've been given the ultimatum that if I don't dye my hair a natural colour then I can only be a guest.
I have received frequent digs about my hair and tattoos since the engagement which has become heated today. Tbh I don't want to go at all if I'm not good enough being who I am.
Should I be expected to change who I am just to suit a brides personal view of coloured hair and tattoos?

I’m afraid I would be busy on that day!

My best friend had bright pink hair for my wedding. She looked AMAZINNNNG! I looked better, because it was my wedding. Never crossed my mind to tell her to change it. Tell them to get stuffed!

If it was the same colour when she asked you as it is now, I reckon it's someone else who has kicked off about it. Her mum or MIL to be?

@katieg03

My sister has naturally black hair all her life, the night before my wedding she stripped her hair and dyed it bright pink. My other sister then had to leave the venue we were staying at the night before and had to get another bunch of boxes of dye to fix it. I was a bit miffed. The night before was all stressy sorting out said botch job. But honestly if she'd had pink hair before it wouldn't have stopped me asking her

I wouldn't bother going if I was you. You are who you are

Wow! Did she give a reason why she did this?

To be honest I don't like tattoos which is why I don't have any. But to ask someone to cover up or change something about their appearance is so degrading.
I hope you have some supportive family members if you still decide to attend...

Yeah, no. Bow out of that. Having a wedding doesn't mean you get to alter someone's personality or appearance for the day. Friends, support ... Not props.

I can't think of a single wedding I have been to, or set of wedding photos I have seen, where I thought the bride had been upstaged by someone with tattoos or brightly coloured hair. I mean, the bridal couple are literally the focus of the whole thing and most of the photos.