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To ask what the hell to do about my leaking arse!

498 replies

alittlebitembarrassing · 03/01/2022 22:25

Exactly as the title says. Very crass but it is a literal pain in my arse and I’m starting to feel very unwell.

Backstory: I have inflammatory bowel disease and have had my large intestine removed. I had a stoma for 10 months and then a reversal surgery joining my small intestine to my rectum. I have mild proctitis left in my rectum.

A week ago, my anus started itching and leaking fluid. It has been getting worse and worse to the point I am leaking through my underwear to my clothes, I am uncomfortably wet all of the time and it is so painful to go to the toilet that I almost vomit from the pain and am just living by having cold baths.

The leaking is mucous, I’ve developed wounds on my bum cheeks from the dampness, and it is mixed with blood and green pus.

I developed abdominal pain with it two days ago so went to A&E who were useless, have referred me to gastro (no idea how long that will take), and told me my infection markers are raised so gave me antibiotics. Nothing else.

Today I have been on off sleeping and am feeling feverish and unwell in myself. When I was at A&E my heart rate was 120 and my blood pressure was high, but they said they weren’t concerned.

I am leaking massively to the point it’s not even just damp it is like water is pouring out of me.

I don’t want to waste another 8 hours in A&E to be sent home, but I’m feeling unwell in myself now, I can’t go to the toilet properly because it absolutely kills.

What do I do?!

OP posts:
Hawkins001 · 04/01/2022 01:16

All the best op

betwixtlives · 04/01/2022 01:23

@Unmerited

this. you ended up getting a lift because the ambulance couldn’t take you due to more severe emergencies which indicates you should have arranged a lift in the first place. Not being able to afford a taxi doesn’t warrant calling an ambulance

Sometimes being technically correct (and actually very potentially not as you don’t ‘call an ambulance’ like an Uber) doesn’t mean it needs to be said.

It absolutely needs to be said when stroke patients are waiting an hour for an ambulance and heart attack patients are literally dying because there wasn’t an ambulance available
Cissyandflora · 04/01/2022 01:30

I hope you’re ok op. Very good to read that someone has driven you to hospital. Best of luck.

Covidworries · 04/01/2022 01:31

@betwixtlives
Well tbh the stroke and heart attack patients would likely be higher on list to OP anyway.
But that doesnt mean the ambalance was the wrong call here as sepsis is suspected. In an ambalance they can do some things to help on journey and assess deteriation far better than a taxi driver or random person.
As it became apparent that an ambalance wouldnt be coming, they were fortunate that OP was able to source an alternative way to hospital.
Wake up to the fact the emergency services and hospitals are in crisis right now for everyone and the reality is people are going to die waiting on the ambalance.

StaplesCorner · 04/01/2022 01:32

Hope you feel good now @Unmerited you really told the OP eh? Hmm

Pieceofpurplesky · 04/01/2022 01:36

Good luck OP. I hope it goes well.

Perhaps not the place for 'an I told you so' lecture. Let's all just hope the OP gets sorted

betwixtlives · 04/01/2022 01:36

[quote Covidworries]@betwixtlives
Well tbh the stroke and heart attack patients would likely be higher on list to OP anyway.
But that doesnt mean the ambalance was the wrong call here as sepsis is suspected. In an ambalance they can do some things to help on journey and assess deteriation far better than a taxi driver or random person.
As it became apparent that an ambalance wouldnt be coming, they were fortunate that OP was able to source an alternative way to hospital.
Wake up to the fact the emergency services and hospitals are in crisis right now for everyone and the reality is people are going to die waiting on the ambalance.[/quote]
Correct. Sad times for the NHS

Clymene · 04/01/2022 01:36

I called an ambulance the tiger day for someone who did actually have sepsis. It took 11 minutes to arrive.

The triage system works. I hope the OP is ok but she should have e got a taxi or found another way to get to hospital. Ambulances aren't free taxis.

StaplesCorner · 04/01/2022 01:39

@Clymene

I called an ambulance the tiger day for someone who did actually have sepsis. It took 11 minutes to arrive.

The triage system works. I hope the OP is ok but she should have e got a taxi or found another way to get to hospital. Ambulances aren't free taxis.

So you took advantage then?
nanny2012nanny · 04/01/2022 01:45

Go back to a and e that is why it’s there xxx

Floralnomad · 04/01/2022 01:46

The issues with ambulances are not new , they’ve existed for many years pre covid .

Unmerited · 04/01/2022 01:48

@StaplesCorner

Hope you feel good now *@Unmerited* you really told the OP eh? Hmm
Told the OP what? I didn’t respond to the OP, it was to another poster sticking an unnecessary boot in. Which seems to be catching. The OP needs nothing but sympathy, obviously.
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alittlebitembarrassing · 04/01/2022 01:49

I got straight through and am being looked after with a cannula waiting on next steps. I was only waiting in the waiting area for five minutes. Bloods been taken too. Thanks everyone, and for those who are lecturing me, I don’t think ambulances are taxis. But as someone who has had a perforated bowel before and feels the worst I have in ages, I thought it was the right call. My partner ended up giving me a lift because we had no other option.

OP posts:
Clymene · 04/01/2022 01:50

Eh @StaplesCorner? I called an ambulance for someone who had sepsis and was unresponsive. Not typing on the internet Hmm

Unmerited · 04/01/2022 01:52

@StaplesCorner

Hope you feel good now *@Unmerited* you really told the OP eh? Hmm
I think you think I said what *@betwixtlives said, I was responding to that. @betwixtlives* thinks that patients with severe symptoms should not accept 999’s triage decisions incase they’re responsible for killing a stroke patient. Funnily enough, no ambulance was forthcoming. Anyway.
Clymene · 04/01/2022 01:52

I hope that you feel better very soon @alittlebitembarrassing

Unmerited · 04/01/2022 01:52

@alittlebitembarrassing

I got straight through and am being looked after with a cannula waiting on next steps. I was only waiting in the waiting area for five minutes. Bloods been taken too. Thanks everyone, and for those who are lecturing me, I don’t think ambulances are taxis. But as someone who has had a perforated bowel before and feels the worst I have in ages, I thought it was the right call. My partner ended up giving me a lift because we had no other option.
Good luck OP. Flowers
2018SoFarSoGreat · 04/01/2022 01:56

Good luck. You did the right thing and are in the right place now. Fingers crossed you get some good care and relief soon.

DamnFoolWhoShotHim · 04/01/2022 02:04

Good luck OP

DartmoorChef · 04/01/2022 02:06

Hope you feel much better soon. I've had an abscess in that region and never felt so ill so you have my utmost sympathy as the pain was horrific until it burst.

Andouillette · 04/01/2022 02:07

So glad you are now where you should be OP and that they are looking after you. Hopefully you will feel much better soon.

Mrmojorising71 · 04/01/2022 02:13

Go back to the hospital as soon as possible.

elliejjtiny · 04/01/2022 02:15

Glad you are being seen OP. I've had sepsis before and never felt so rough.

catwomandoo · 04/01/2022 02:33

@alittlebitembarrassing just popping in to say hello and to send healing vibes, with a handhold. You are in the right place now. X

HemanOrSheRa · 04/01/2022 02:34

@alittlebitembarrassing

I got straight through and am being looked after with a cannula waiting on next steps. I was only waiting in the waiting area for five minutes. Bloods been taken too. Thanks everyone, and for those who are lecturing me, I don’t think ambulances are taxis. But as someone who has had a perforated bowel before and feels the worst I have in ages, I thought it was the right call. My partner ended up giving me a lift because we had no other option.
Bless you, love. I hope you get appropriate treatment very soon and get some relief. You did absolutely the right thing calling for an ambulance even if you had to get to hospital under your own steam in the end. You know you're own body, after all the things you've been through. I hope everything is ok Smile.