To not test for pregnancy so I can have a few drinks on NYE?!

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I don't intend on getting smashed but would like a few drinks tonight after whats been a shit hard year,

Issue is I have been having u protected sex with a view to get pregnant. My period due on today and no sign of anything.

Would it be really terrible to have 2-3 drinks max tonight and not test (I know if I test mentally I could not have a drink as I'd feel terrible).

I hope my post doesn't come across in the wrong way just looking for some reassurance I guess!

YANBU

It doesn't cross the placenta yet because there is no placenta yet. Have 2-3 drinks worry free and do the test in the morning. So many people don't find out they are pregnant for far longer and have drunk much more. You'll be grand

YADNBU nothing happens to the fetus before six weeks anyways!

On the flip side if you tested tomorrow after those drinks would you not feel guilty as you knew there was a chance?

You're fine x enjoy x

Thank you all! It's just troubling because you read so many articles and every single one of them says not to - so it just worries me.

But I also don't want to let this TTC control my life - and I've had losses so it adds an extra layer of anxiety to the whole thing.

How would you feel if you test tomorrow and are pregnant?

I felt really guilty getting a positive test two days after a big party. I hadn't been late then. The baby was fine (she's a crazy 8yo now)

Ultimately, its your decision.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves I would feel bad 😔

YANBU

Oh I had a weekend of drinking before found out I was pregnant. In hindsight I struggled to drink my usual amount and was absolutely knackered that whole weekend

Would the excitement of getting a positive test not outweigh any disappointment of missing out on drinks? If you test now, then either you can drink without guilt or you can celebrate the New Year with the good news

I got pregnant in the summer time … I had been to a couple of weddings, boozy bbqs and a holiday before I discovered I was pregnant. I was so worried as I had been drinking heavily … twin DDs arrived large and healthy.

Just test now. Then if neg, drink with no guilt

The question for me would be this - if you do have a few drinks tonight, and then find out that you were pregnant, would you regret having had those drinks, and would you worry about it for the rest of the pregnancy?

When I was pregnant (back in the last century) the guidance on alcohol during pregnancy was not as strict as it is now, and I know I did drink during each of them - and I have three healthy, happy adults now, with no hint of any problems.

I am sure that there will be people who have a few (or more than a few) tonight, who subsequently find out they are pregnant (but had no idea at the time) and chances are this will cause no problems - but if you do suspect you might be pregnant, you might want to be more cautious.

You could toast new year and pregnant with a glass of bubbly.

Agree with @Starcaller if you do test positive you’ll be so buzzing you not need a few drinks. And your staring the new year off with fantastic news. Please do let’s us know what you decide i have my fingers crossed for you. xx

@Starcaller seeing a positive would actually not make me happy, due to miscarriages I do not feel excited at the sight of a pregnancy test.

Until child is born, sadly it will be nine months of worry and anxiety for me. So it would (weirdly) upset my evening a little.

Might sound odd, sorry if it does but losses are a bit of a headfuck for me.

What difference does it make whether you know or not?

@HoseMeDownWithHollyWater I knn I'm ow it's silly but not knowing makes me feel less guilty?! Silly really I know

Before I found out I was pregnant with my DD I was back packing around Australia and drank (pretty excessively) for the 3 weeks prior to realising and I found out at 6 weeks pregnant.

My daughter is a perfect 11 year old… 2-3 drinks would be fine

If you tested positive now you say you'd feel bad drinking. If you test positive afterwards you say you'd feel bad. So, surely, the best thing and obvious thing to do here is take a test. If it's negative then drink and enjoy it freely. If it's positive, at least you'll know, and you can act without feeling bad afterwards.

I wouldn’t!

I got very drunk four days before finding out I was pregnant, and my son is fine.

I had similar and tested the following morning and found out I was pregnant. I’d had 3 pints and a glass of wine in the pub with a friend. I was only one day late for my period so I knew it wouldn’t have an effect. Conversely it was my first successful pregnancy, I’d had multiple miscarriages before and struggled to conceive (all whilst abstaining). That month I was on holiday when we conceived (not trying just relaxing and drinking and eating all the wrong things). Not saying alcohol helped me have a baby at all, quite the opposite - doesn’t make a difference (unless you’re over 6wks and getting wasted - no doctor would recommend that)! Have a great new year OP, enjoy your drinks and if you’re pregnant then great, if not then c’est la vie, and there is always next month. Good luck!

As silly as this may sound I possibly might test when I'm out tonight after I've had one lol.

I'm not even a massive drinker - appreciate I may be coming across an alcoholic but am far from lol. Typically I have 2-3 drinks per week!

It's just tonight has been planned so long and just don't want this stress 🤦‍♀️