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Original poster

To not test for pregnancy so I can have a few drinks on NYE?!

128 replies

twwindow · 31/12/2021 14:42

I don't intend on getting smashed but would like a few drinks tonight after whats been a shit hard year,

Issue is I have been having u protected sex with a view to get pregnant. My period due on today and no sign of anything.

Would it be really terrible to have 2-3 drinks max tonight and not test (I know if I test mentally I could not have a drink as I'd feel terrible).

I hope my post doesn't come across in the wrong way just looking for some reassurance I guess!

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ButtonMoonLoon · 31/12/2021 15:36

I think that deep down you know the answer to this.
Do the test now to be on the safe side.

HappyMeal564 · 31/12/2021 15:37

You're thinking about it so you should test, its not like it's a surprise, you know you might be pregnant you don't want to drink if you're pregnant so find out, might be negative and you can drink all you want!

Horst · 31/12/2021 15:43

I tested with my youngest half way though a glass of wine. Just had a feeling. Honestly op at this stage your not technically late as you could still come on today. Enjoy your night.

GatoradeMeBitch · 31/12/2021 15:52

Just pick up a test!

If it's negative you can get as pissed as you like.

If it's positive you can make an informed decision. Honestly if you really want a drink a couple will make no difference very early on, and science backs that up.

Siameasy · 31/12/2021 15:56

Go for it. I got drunk at wedding and also at a bbq around the same time.

blueberryporridge · 31/12/2021 15:59

Honestly if you really want a drink a couple will make no difference very early on, and science backs that up. Source please.

Here are some sources to the contrary. www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/drinking-alcohol-while-pregnant-first-3-weeks#research

Borderterrierpuppy · 31/12/2021 15:59

Yanbu, there is no implanted fertilised anything yet.

Lavender24 · 31/12/2021 15:59

I drank heavily over the Christmas period when I was first pregnant with my daughter as my period was due on boxing day and I didn't test until the 28th. I then finished off the leftover miniscule amount of Absolut on NYE and didn't drink at all for the rest of the pregnancy. I think you'll be fine to enjoy a few drinks tonight.

3mealsaday · 31/12/2021 16:03

@Bringonsummer19

I would test. When you become a mother you make a world of sacrifices…might as well start now
This is exactly the reason I wouldn't test. Live while you can. Like you said, going to be a long 9 months.

If you are pregnant, the pregnancy would be so early on that the likelihood of injury to the foetus would be minimal. I remember the midwife telling me that nothing I had done in the first 2 weeks would have any effect.

It's up to you but this is not one of the things I would stress over or feel guilty about (if you're likely to feel that way, then don't do it!).

CoalCraft · 31/12/2021 16:03

I wouldn't. Very small chance of harm, sure, but for no real gain.

cherrybonbons · 31/12/2021 16:04

Don't. Just bloody take the test. Because what if you are pregnant. You will spend 9 months worrying or feeling guilty. If it's negative and you have drinks and then rest positive in a few days then that's different but I think if you think you could be and still drink that's a bit silly.

GatoradeMeBitch · 31/12/2021 16:04

Well this thread is pretty useless really Grin

I hope you are able to relax and have a good time tonight OP, in whatever way you wish to x

Olliesocks · 31/12/2021 16:04

Is this your first? You don’t sound mature enough to be even trying for a baby yet.
Just do the test and even if positive, have a small glass of champagne to celebrate new years eve. Why do you need to have 2-3 drinks of alcohol?

CactusLemonSpice · 31/12/2021 16:04

If it was me I'd test first so I wouldn't feel bad drinking if I found out I was pregnant later. Saying that as you said you'd feel bad if you found out after. And it might be at the back of your mind.

cherrybonbons · 31/12/2021 16:05

Ps I still drank when trying to conceive but on the day my period was due, I bought wine and a test. The test was positive and the wine remained unopened for a few months 😆

Redhotspicywine · 31/12/2021 16:05

Test today and put your mind at ease either way

Original poster
twwindow · 31/12/2021 16:12

I've just collected a test from chemist. DH surprisingly didn't think I was being ridiculous was quite sympathetic.

I figured testing was win win and not testing lose lose so is sensible to test. As if not pregnant I can relax and enjoy my night and if I am, even though rubbish not being able to drink but hopefully this pregnancy would work out ☺️

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twwindow · 31/12/2021 16:12

I'll let you know the outcome!

And even if positive may have one bubbly!!

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Christmas1988 · 31/12/2021 16:13

I’d test but still have a drink or two with water in between, I don’t drink but I wouldn’t mind having one in your shoes if I did, It would be lovely to tell your husband as the clock strikes 12. 😬

Livingthemagicyears · 31/12/2021 16:19

@AfterEightMintyCedric

This post has made me smile...

I went to a NYE party 18 years ago where I wasn't drinking due to having got shit-faced the night before and my friend wasn't drinking because she was on antibiotics.

Turns out we were both big fat liars...our daughters - born 11 days apart - will be celebrating NYE together this evening Grin.

And to answer your question...I found out I was pregnant on NYE morning so although I didn't drink on the night I had been drinking over Christmas and all was well.

this is lovely! How nice they are now both friends too 😍 op, I think you'll be okay to have a drink, you've said you were looking forward to it and it would stress you to know so enjoy nye and test tomorrow 😊
delilabell · 31/12/2021 16:22

You are thinking that if you did drink and you were pregnant you'd feel guilty about drinking so you obviously think it's wrong. If you are pregnant you're going to have another 38 weeks of not drinking.
Taking a pregnancy test out for an evening just so you can have a couple of drinks is ridiculous.
Whether the damage to the potential baby is minimal or not, whether it increases the chance of a miscarriage or not; if you think you're pregnant don't do it.
I'm talking as the adoptive mother of a child who's birth Mom drank before she knew she was pregnant and throughout the pregnancy so ues youve hit a nerve but I think yoire being incredibly immature with this way of thinking

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delilabell · 31/12/2021 16:24

@twwindow

I've just collected a test from chemist. DH surprisingly didn't think I was being ridiculous was quite sympathetic.

I figured testing was win win and not testing lose lose so is sensible to test. As if not pregnant I can relax and enjoy my night and if I am, even though rubbish not being able to drink but hopefully this pregnancy would work out ☺️

Apologies op I didn't see you're update.
1forAll74 · 31/12/2021 16:28

I used to drink some alcohol in early pregnancy many years ago, maybe martini's and gin and tonics etc, no problem. But it was in the days before all the panic stuff about drinking whilst pregnant, I was just talking about drinking for some occasions, not drinking all the time.

delilabell · 31/12/2021 16:31

It's not "panic stuff "it's scientifically proven!!

katkitty · 31/12/2021 16:33

I would think that given there are rules that tell you not to drink whilst pregnant there are very good reasons for that.

You could do a test now and if negative drink worry free.

Or you could fill up a planner with endless weeks worth of self care activities to enjoy your life that will let you feel good as well