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To hate NYE

101 replies

Fritilleries · 31/12/2021 08:04

A feeling of doom has settled into my body. Chest feels heavy. Anybody else feel this way? I know it's just a xhange of date but it feels like the end. Not helped by ongoing uncertainty.

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Darbs76 · 31/12/2021 08:06

Yes I’m no longer a fan of NYE and haven’t been for quite a few years. I find it very depressing and I hate hearing the bells on NYE of Big Ben (normally love them). So I sympathise with you

Dontforgetyourbrolly · 31/12/2021 08:09

I've always hated NYE but not with strong feelings like you. There sounds like there is more going on , like the effects of the pandemic etc
It's just another day for me and I can't wait to get the tree down !

UserError012345 · 31/12/2021 08:12

I don't hate it but I'm not overly enthused. So much pressure to end one year joyously.

RogueV · 31/12/2021 08:12

It’s just another day

Sleepyteach · 31/12/2021 08:13

Yes! This is exactly how I feel every year on NYE, even when I’ve been doing some lovely things or celebrated in amazing places it’s still there. I’m hoping this year won’t be quite so bad as we’ve had a really rubbish Christmas but we do have fun plans for tonight.

EarthStoodHardAsPrion · 31/12/2021 08:13

I came on to say YANBU because New Years parties and festivities can be crap, with high expectations, which often fail to be met. But an impending sense of doom is perfectly normal right now because so many unpleasant things going down. So if you are only feeling impending doom because of the date, then you are totally unreasonable!Grin

I hope next year is better. I have been hoping that for several years now. Surely sooner or later, it has to happen?

PatchworkElmer · 31/12/2021 08:14

I hate it. Makes me feel sad. Although I don’t feel as strongly as you.

parrotonmyshoulder · 31/12/2021 08:16

I haven’t considered NYE as anything other than another weekend evening since I was about 22. Very liberating not to feel any pressure at all. ‘Not a lot’ or ‘nothing much’ or ‘enjoying peace and quiet’ are perfectly reasonable responses if anyone asks. Which they don’t!

parrotonmyshoulder · 31/12/2021 08:18

Sense of doom at the end of the festive period though is probably common. My children certainly feel it. All that excitement and now, bleugh, winter!

Squirrelblanket · 31/12/2021 08:19

It's just a date. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Excitedforthefuture · 31/12/2021 08:19

I give it zero thought!
I love New Year’s Day
I get together with my two oldest friends and all our children and go for a long country walk with hot chocolate. Starts the new year off wonderful

MrsAliceRichards · 31/12/2021 08:22

Was never really a fan but never really too bothered by it but this year I'm feeling very sad. My dad died suddenly last month and I feel like I'm leaving him behind or something moving into 2022 without him....silly really....

Oatsamazing · 31/12/2021 08:22

I hate it too, I'll be in bed by 9. I do like New Years Day though. Love a new diary and a fresh start Grin

Excitedforthefuture · 31/12/2021 08:25

* But an impending sense of doom is perfectly normal right now because so many unpleasant things going down.*

I really don’t have that in the slightest. Nor do close friends and family.

suckingonchillidogs · 31/12/2021 08:26

@MrsAliceRichards - so sorry about your Dad Thanks

Itsnotdeep · 31/12/2021 08:27

It's a just a night, but I'm the opposite - I look forward to the start of a new year. Full of promise and new-ness.

OneOfTheGrundys · 31/12/2021 08:27

Close the door and tuck up. I know what you mean about the doom feeling and retreat into what I can control.

IpanemaPeaHen · 31/12/2021 08:28

MrsAlice I lost a close relative last December and I felt the same way, that I was leaving them behind in 2020. Sorry about your dad Flowers

I much prefer January 1st to NYE. New diary, new things to plan, spring ahead of us.

ohfook · 31/12/2021 08:29

Dh loves NYE and because of this there's always so much pressure to have the best night. Every nye he's messaging around trying to get enough people to go out, trying to decide which club will be the best etc. Meanwhile I'm trying to find someone willing to look after our kids for the night and looking forward to spending new year day with a hungover husband.

Last year we were in tier 4 and it was absolute bliss. We had a takeaway and some wine and went to bed. It was so nice not to even try to have the best night ever.

newyearBear · 31/12/2021 08:29

@MrsAliceRichards sorry for your loss Thanks
I don't think that sounds silly. I felt the same after the loss of my grandparents.

I'm usually in bed before midnight but on the years I have stayed up the bells and fireworks at midnight make me feel anxious. Possibly because I'm over tired by that point.

Quite like New Year's Day. It feels fresh.

SickAndTiredAgain · 31/12/2021 08:29

I don’t feel a sense of doom with it, it’s just not a celebration I’ve ever been interested in. DH and I always get in a nice buffet style dinner for us both, watch a film, then go to bed.

GoodnightGrandma · 31/12/2021 08:31

I’ve never seen the point of new year celebrations, I’ll be in bed at 10pm, no doubt being woken up at 12mn by fireworks 😡
I’ll be glad to get back to work and routine.

Lostinafield · 31/12/2021 08:32

I feel this every year. I go to bed early and wake 1st January with relief that it's over.

userisi2 · 31/12/2021 08:32

I can understand the emotion of the event. I quite like that sense of "new", fresh start, a chance to improve. I try to see the changing year as that rather than dwell on the fact another year is over. One reason I keep decorations up to the first is so by the end of the day when removed the house feels clean and rejuvenated. By January 2nd it usually just all feels the same again though!

FormerlySpeckledyHen · 31/12/2021 08:33

Yes wishing my life way.
The last time I saw my mum alive was the morning of Jan 1st
She died from a massive heart attack in the night of the 2nd , which the GP said was a virus when he did a home visit……