To hate NYE

[Fritilleries]

A feeling of doom has settled into my body. Chest feels heavy. Anybody else feel this way? I know it's just a xhange of date but it feels like the end. Not helped by ongoing uncertainty.

@WhyDoesItAlways

I hate new years eve too. Why anyone would want to celebrate entering the bleak and depressing month of January I've no idea. I think the Chinese have it right TBH.

My parents always have a bottle of champagne on the winter solistice - 21st Dec. They don’t care about new year, but the longest night, and therefore from now on days getting longer, nights getting shorter, the coming of spring etc is what they prefer to celebrate.

I feel like the years are going by a lot faster as I age, so NYE always feels sad to me. Like it’s another year I’ve wasted.

I’m glad I’m older and no longer have the pressure to go out. NYE was always a bit crap. Overpriced nightclub tickets, massive crowds, trying to get a cab home and spending a fortune.

Excitedforthefuture my DC are 14 and 11. They understand that life is not all fun and games and that their parents are human. I’m not able to pretend otherwise. We will still have a nice evening.

I feel the exact same way. I hate the pressure to have fun and the feeling that I'm failing if I don't have the perfect social plans. I hate the feeling of comparison about where I am compared to previous years. It all feels terribly heavy. Plus I struggle with Christmas being over, because I love it so much. But NYE will be over by this time tomorrow!

I used to love it. Had some amazing memorable nights in my 20s but not been out on NYE since 1994.

I've also had some grim ones.
1979 - had a tooth out and in pain
1995 - in labour with DC1
1999 - home alone with two DC under 4 as DH at work fighting millenium [grim]
2019 - chemotherapy.

Most years recently I act as taxi for adult DC.

Never was a fan but at 10pm on NYE 2016 we decided not to pursue further active treatment for DD1 and she died at 7.00am on NYD, so now it’s always a hard time of year and I feel guilty for my younger kids that they don’t have a fun New Year.

O can't see the point of all the fuss. Just seems to be another excuse for too much alcohol and bad behaviour. I also spent a few NYE working with abusive drunks in the ED. Only thing I liked was double pay after midnight!

I like NYD as it always feels like a recharge button. I am not bothered about NYE.

I HATE new years eve and have for years, normally just go to bed when the kids do but at 6 and 3 they're a bit more interested so we're having a pyjama party with party food, board games and the voice kids for a wee dance. Doubt they'll make it to the bells so dh and I will have a quiet time then.

I’m not a fan particularly but feel awful about it this year. I dislike the way any social engagements around if pale into insignificance if you don’t have amazing plans for the best night on NYE. We’re going to a friend’s annual party which will be fun. I’m not drinking as taxiing DD to and from a party. DS doesn’t have any plans, which is making me feel really sad . He’s had lots of things on this holiday but nothing for tonight. This’ll be the first NYE we’ve not spent with the four of us together (DC are invited to the party we’re going to but DS is at an age where he would feel awkward going when other DC won’t be there). So I’m just waiting for it to be tomorrow really.

I feel no better. Went to the playpark and it is so unnervingly mild.

I'm the same OP. I've never liked NYE, always found it overwhelming.

When I was younger I used to just drink myself into oblivion at house parties or whatever, now as an adult we usually watch the London fireworks on TV and there's something about it that makes me cry.

New years day is worse for me though, its the first day of a blank year and it makes me extremely anxious, its the worst day of the year for sure.

I'm not sure why I have these feelings though, I don't actually have any bad experiences associated with it or anything.

I've never liked it. 'Auld Lang syne ' makes me cry remembering all those that are no longer with us :(
I did read online ( the guardian ) that the linking arms thing you do is a throw back to the Freemasons! Didn't know this.
Had some lovely NYE in the 80s, good fun when your young and had a few drinks
Too old now !
Jools Holland is good though. Even if it was filmed weeks ago

I just ' see ' new year as a blank page ahead of me and I know it'll be full of disappointment and disasters and probably more covid shitty stuff and higher prices etc!
Always been a pessimist though !

@the80sweregreat

I just ' see ' new year as a blank page ahead of me and I know it'll be full of disappointment and disasters and probably more covid shitty stuff and higher prices etc! Always been a pessimist though !

Bloody hell… no!

A blank piece of paper…. A fresh start!

Do you have children?

Yep, going to have to drug the dog and take them up a hill away from the noise, miserable every year. Just want to be in my nice, comfortable bed.

Just another day and same problems as the day before

Yes. I've older grown up children !
I worry about them , but I just see the new year as a 'blank page ' to be filled in
I hope it'll be better than this year was.

Be excited for them!! No one wants to go in to the new year knowing there mum is in a pit of despair about 2022

Surely there must be exciting things relating to your children on the horizon?

Travel? Job? Learning to drive? Something!!

Yay 2022 , even higher energy bills!

Just had a few bad years, but I'm ok with the kids! Love them to pieces

I had three people I cared about die in 2021 and spent most of it alone. 2022 can't come fast enough for me.

I Don’t hate it, just never been a fan. Haven’t been out for years. Love being at home, bubbly, pj, fire. Cant beat it

@MrsAliceRichards

Was never really a fan but never really too bothered by it but this year I'm feeling very sad. My dad died suddenly last month and I feel like I'm leaving him behind or something moving into 2022 without him....silly really....

@MrsAliceRichards, I’m really sorry about your dad. Your feeling of moving into a new year is somehow leaving him behind is very common. I felt the same after DH died. You never leave them, they never leave you. You always carry their love with you.