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To hate NYE

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Fritilleries · 31/12/2021 08:04

A feeling of doom has settled into my body. Chest feels heavy. Anybody else feel this way? I know it's just a xhange of date but it feels like the end. Not helped by ongoing uncertainty.

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Excitedforthefuture · 31/12/2021 08:33

@ohfook

Dh loves NYE and because of this there's always so much pressure to have the best night. Every nye he's messaging around trying to get enough people to go out, trying to decide which club will be the best etc. Meanwhile I'm trying to find someone willing to look after our kids for the night and looking forward to spending new year day with a hungover husband.

Last year we were in tier 4 and it was absolute bliss. We had a takeaway and some wine and went to bed. It was so nice not to even try to have the best night ever.

You go clubbing?!

I can’t imagine anything less appealing for the last 15 years (40 now!)

mogsrus · 31/12/2021 08:34

Have not bothered with it for years now, go to bed when I’ve had enough, nothing special about it & to be fair 2022 for thousands doesn’t look very happy

MarshmallowFondant · 31/12/2021 08:35

Don't like it much but definitely prefer it to the christmas tat-fest.

Excitedforthefuture · 31/12/2021 08:35

@ohfook

Dh loves NYE and because of this there's always so much pressure to have the best night. Every nye he's messaging around trying to get enough people to go out, trying to decide which club will be the best etc. Meanwhile I'm trying to find someone willing to look after our kids for the night and looking forward to spending new year day with a hungover husband.

Last year we were in tier 4 and it was absolute bliss. We had a takeaway and some wine and went to bed. It was so nice not to even try to have the best night ever.

Just opt out of finding a sitter I bet he doesn’t bother So then you offer to stay In He can go out clubbing You can get a take away and kick back and enjoy your first choice film
lollipoprainbow · 31/12/2021 08:35

I hate it too always feel anxious wondering what the year will bring !! Bit like the beginning of a new week.

lollipoprainbow · 31/12/2021 08:37

My lovely mum used to always call me on the stroke of midnight. She is very poorly now and can't so I feel sad about that.

45redballoons · 31/12/2021 08:37

@MrsAliceRichards

Was never really a fan but never really too bothered by it but this year I'm feeling very sad. My dad died suddenly last month and I feel like I'm leaving him behind or something moving into 2022 without him....silly really....
Not silly at all.

I love Hogmanay, because I love saying good bye to the last year for good or bad and hoping for a good year coming. It's the last hurrah of the season and I think about it all as I get through the next couple months waiting for spring. I make resolutions and generally have a really good bash at keeping them! I know it's not cool to have them these days, but it works for me. I have gone out or to a party probably only a couple of times, I certainly feel no pressure for it to be some amazing night, maybe that's why I don't feel let down by it?

All that being said, Alice, I can imagine feeling exactly as you in your position. I think it's why 1 year anniversaries are so hard too, it feels symbolic. Let yourself be upset.

grafittiartist · 31/12/2021 08:38

Love it- it's better than Christmas! Not that anyone in my house agrees, which makes it tricky to celebrate properly.

pilates · 31/12/2021 08:39

I loved it when I was young, not so appealing now I’m older

NoraLuka · 31/12/2021 08:44

I get this, hate NYE but like 1st January especially if we can go out for a nice long walk or something.

Last NYE, like every year we had a couple of friends round and they plus DP got horribly drunk (with particular emphasis on the word «horribly») and I ended up going to bed at around 3 AM to get away from them. I told DP I didn’t want to invite anyone this year, and now he’s all sad because we’re staying in on our own and I feel guilty :(

EmmaWoodhousestreehouse · 31/12/2021 08:44

@GoodnightGrandma
I hate new year. I always have. We do exactly the same as you.

Warblerinwinter · 31/12/2021 08:45

I felt that way for years and years. Then one year I hosted a belated extended family gathering in lieu of being to meet on Xmas day. We had nice eats and played all the party games we normally did at Xmas. Because we weren’t so bloated form Xmas day dinner, or distracted kids form presents, or over tired form being up early it was lovely. It became a new family tradition. New year suddenly became a lovely evening. Not about the new year really, but a lovely end to the festive period with our nearest and dearest.
Now the kids are grown up we still mostly all try to meet up in someone’s home and still do all the party games. New partners of the kids have arrived and left over the years, and maybe sometime soon they’ll be new little ones to join us.
I hate all the new year traditions- so I don’t make it about that . It’s the last Xmas gathering .

godmum56 · 31/12/2021 08:48

@MrsAliceRichards

Was never really a fan but never really too bothered by it but this year I'm feeling very sad. My dad died suddenly last month and I feel like I'm leaving him behind or something moving into 2022 without him....silly really....
That is absolutely not silly. I felt the same when my husband died. Its like you are moving on through time and its taking you further away from them and you are helpless to stop it happening. New Year has never bothered me per se except the telly is so lousy
godmum56 · 31/12/2021 08:49

@NoraLuka

I get this, hate NYE but like 1st January especially if we can go out for a nice long walk or something.

Last NYE, like every year we had a couple of friends round and they plus DP got horribly drunk (with particular emphasis on the word «horribly») and I ended up going to bed at around 3 AM to get away from them. I told DP I didn’t want to invite anyone this year, and now he’s all sad because we’re staying in on our own and I feel guilty :(

have you told him why you don't want to do it again?
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Fritilleries · 31/12/2021 08:54

Think I'll open all the windows to dispel the year and its vibes. Yes, it's woo but hey, whatever works. I should have added that I read an article about Don't Look Up, and it was by a scientist who explained we have 5 years until irreversible damage to many ecosystems and that, with my toddler has made me feel so sad. That we shall witness the end of it all.

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Greyrootszerohoots · 31/12/2021 08:55

I feel the same and always have. I put no pressure on tonight - takeaway and tv, early night.

Today I take down decorations and deep clean the house.

Tomorrow is my day to start the year as I mean to go on, good breakfast, fresh air and so on.

The next few months look like they’ll be pretty awful for me, but I’m thinking positively that by the end of 2022 I’ll be another year older and wiser and lots of good things are bound to have happened within the bad.

CornishTiger · 31/12/2021 08:58

I lost a close friend to suicide years ago on New Year’s Day so always find it hard.

This year I’m struggling as my best friend died earlier in year. I don’t want to go into 2022 without her.

Isitsixoclockalready · 31/12/2021 08:58

It's just a date - nothing remarkable will happen as a result of the bell chiming midnight. At least however we can look forward to spring so that's a massive positive.

Babdoc · 31/12/2021 08:58

I think NY is always a bit of a damp squib after all the Christmas celebration. It has no religious significance, there are no presents or family feasts, it is just a meh observation of the clock change and a chance to get drunk.
The only one I did actually enjoy was the millennium. Here in Scotland we had a thousand pipers marching through our town centre, and a massive firework display set to music from each of the last ten centuries. It was very impressive.

SickAndTiredAgain · 31/12/2021 08:59

New Year has never bothered me per se except the telly is so lousy

I agree, the tv is always awful on NYE.

DH and I are deciding what film to watch instead. Possibly Don’t Look Up but I’m not sure it’s the most festive option.

twominutesmore · 31/12/2021 09:05

I don't like it either. So much pressure to have a fabulous celebratory time, only to end up disappointed.

The onus seems to be on parties and drunkenness rather than on family time, which is what I love about Christmas.

And it also signals the end of the festive period - now it's back to work and dreary January.

I do quite like the 'fresh start' element of it all, though it is offset by the sense that that's another one of my years behind me.

senorafridgidaire · 31/12/2021 09:07

It's always made me feel quite melancholy for some reason, even before the pandemic. Auld Lang Syne makes me cry. I think it's something about the collective hope that the coming year will be better, and the knowledge that it very rarely is, the years just go by as they do for most people, some good, some bad, most indifferent.

We tend not to go out, but we always try to do something 'nice' like get a takeaway or cook something special, play some games or watch films, but I have no interest in watching Jools Holland or anything like that. I've plans to cook a taco feast and make margaritas later, but I'm in work atm and right now I'm not in the mood for any kind of frivolity.

We usually just wait for all the fireworks to die off around us just after midnight, and go to bed. Pointless going to bed earlier as on the years we have we always get woken up by fireworks, or neighbours making a racket.

Is there an equivalent of Bah Humbug for NYE?

NoraLuka · 31/12/2021 09:09

@godmum56 yes I’ve been quite clear Grin To be fair I think he understands as he didn’t even try to change my mind, and the friend who behaved the worst spontaneously said that he was going to stay in on his own and watch a film Grin Maybe a quiet NYE will do us all good.

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 31/12/2021 09:10

@MrsAliceRichards

Was never really a fan but never really too bothered by it but this year I'm feeling very sad. My dad died suddenly last month and I feel like I'm leaving him behind or something moving into 2022 without him....silly really....

That's not silly...totally understandable.
Sorry about your dad x

LibbyL92 · 31/12/2021 09:11

I’m petrified of NYE.
Really scared of what the new year will bring ect. Always have been.

I don’t celebrate it as a result. I try to treat it like any other normal day.

I’ve got the theartre in London tonight. I’ll be home around 9/10 I’ll have a tea then bed.

Pretend it never happened..