Page 3 | To hate NYE

Fritilleries · 2021-12-31T08:04:47+00:00

A feeling of doom has settled into my body. Chest feels heavy. Anybody else feel this way? I know it's just a xhange of date but it feels like the end. Not helped by ongoing uncertainty.

Lemonyfuckit · 31/12/2021 09:15

@MrsAliceRichards I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad died earlier this year and I feel very similar, I don't like the thought of 'leaving him behind'.

crimsonlake · 31/12/2021 09:18

For some strange reason I much prefer years with even numbers.
Usually party quite hard on NYE but since covid find I am not bothered either way, but will stay up to see NYE in.
I find Jan and Feb really gloomy and will be sad to see all decs down.

Skyeheather · 31/12/2021 09:19

It's very depressing compared to the excitement of Christmas Eve, not helped by the fact they put the biggest load of drivel on TV. Considering a lot more people than usual will be staying in this year you'd think they'd make an effort and put something decent on. There have been years when I've gone to bed at 10 pm and missed the New Year. Tonight I'm making a buffet tea and we'll find the longest film we can to take us to the bells. Straight to bed after for me!

Womencanlift · 31/12/2021 09:21

NYE night out hasn’t been a thing for me for about 15 years so definitely don’t miss the overpriced (and hard to get) taxi’s, having to pay to get into a pub you usually just walk into for free, the pressure to have the best night….

I loved the family parties we had as a kid and had the best time staying up late. Didn’t find out until years later that my mum absolutely hated them and still hates new year now. But she made it great for us kids

I do, however, love my New Years Day dinner. It’s tradition where I am from to have a huge steak pie dinner and I am just about to leave now to go to the butchers to pick mine up. Can’t wait to get stuck into it tomorrow

HideousKinky · 31/12/2021 09:34

I also can't wait for it to be over. The entire Christmas/NY period always unsettles me and I long for the day after the NY bank holiday (4th Jan this year) for everything to get back to normal

WhyDoesItAlways · 31/12/2021 09:36

I hate new years eve too. Why anyone would want to celebrate entering the bleak and depressing month of January I've no idea. I think the Chinese have it right TBH.

MiniCooperLover · 31/12/2021 09:56

We are going out for dinner with friends at 5pm rather than later so that we can have a nice evening together and be home and relaxed early. Then tomorrow I'll book us a holiday to look forward to and take down the Xmas lights.

derxa · 31/12/2021 10:00

Nicola's cancelled Hogmanay this year again. I wouldn't be surprised if she was on this thread

EarthStoodHardAsPrion · 31/12/2021 10:07

@Excitedforthefuture

* But an impending sense of doom is perfectly normal right now because so many unpleasant things going down.*

I really don’t have that in the slightest. Nor do close friends and family.

Well my comment was slightly tongue in cheek, but I live outside the UK and haven’t managed to visit my elderly parents in over two years. Brexit has also fucked a lot of things up and made life more complicated. The world seems very unstable in comparison to how it was ten years ago and I wish there was more prospect of a quick return to normality, but there isn’t. I know many other people in similar situations, so perhaps it’s a perspective thing.

MintyGreenDream · 31/12/2021 10:08

Hated it when used to go out and feel pressured to have the best night ever.We going for a meal and having drinks in the house this year.

Bollocks2Covid · 31/12/2021 10:14

I’ve never liked it. Even as a child. It’s just so sad and I don’t really know why?

MadisonAvenue · 31/12/2021 10:15

@lollipoprainbow

I hate it too always feel anxious wondering what the year will bring !! Bit like the beginning of a new week.

I feel that too, I know it’s just a different number on the calendar but I have a feeling of anxiety about what the new year will bring.

I don’t like NYE, and I can’t go to bed because our dog is horrendously scared of fireworks (they were already being let off at 4.30pm here yesterday) so we need to be with him at Midnight to try and comfort him.

SweetPotatoDumpling · 31/12/2021 10:23

@ohfook

Dh loves NYE and because of this there's always so much pressure to have the best night. Every nye he's messaging around trying to get enough people to go out, trying to decide which club will be the best etc. Meanwhile I'm trying to find someone willing to look after our kids for the night and looking forward to spending new year day with a hungover husband.

Last year we were in tier 4 and it was absolute bliss. We had a takeaway and some wine and went to bed. It was so nice not to even try to have the best night ever.

Oh wow! I'd have to swap my husband for one with less NYE enthusiasm 🤣 Not a chance in hell I'd be faffing with sitters, or clubbing 😱

Order your take away and leave him to it (and leave him to deal with his own hangover!! 🤦‍♀️)

Summerof74 · 31/12/2021 10:32

It's just another day! I try to ignore the fact that it's a new year and that it's just another day in the calendar! However we do have friends round for dinner but that's fairly normal for a Frida night. Nothing will have changed tomorrow when it's January the 1st! X

Kshhuxnxk · 31/12/2021 10:33

I detest it. So much assumed pressure that the following year will be "the year" when in reality its the same day after day unless generally you are financially able to make big changes. We are having friends over purely because this means I'll stay up for the bells with DP instead of just sitting there waiting to say happy new year then go to my bed.

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 31/12/2021 10:40

I have never liked NYE. I loved Christmas and NYE signalled the end of Christmas to me when I was a child. Then, when I was 14, my beloved grandmother (with whom we lived) died at 8am in the morning. We were all heartbroken.

When my daughters got to early teens we had a few nice years of having friends over (we became good friends with some of the parents of their friends) and when they were at that age when they want to celebrate but are too young to go out, we had a few nice years where we had a good time at home with champagne and party food for about 20 people. That was fun and low key. And I enjoyed that.

But my darling mum died in July this year and I’m dreading tonight. I have bought some party food and some drink (just got back from the shop). There will be 12 of us and the reason I’m doing it is so my daughters can have a couple of friends over and my DF and DMiL are not on their own. But all I can think about is my DM (and DGM; losing my DM has reopened some of that grief too, even though it was so many years ago now).

It sounds odd, but I don’t want to leave 2021 behind. I don’t want my mum to have died “last year” as that sounds too long ago and the loss is still so raw. I feel I am leaving her behind and I don’t want that. I’m not sure if that makes sense at all.

So to all those who hate NYE, for whatever reason, I feel your pain.

(Just to add, no-one is forcing me to do anything tonight and I’m not being a martyr. Whatever I did I’d still feel utterly wretched and it’s lovely my daughters, who are now 20 and 17, want to be with me). I will put a smile on and make the best of it as that is what my mum would want me to do. And I am fortunate to have my family around me.

Best wishes to all.

Munchies123 · 31/12/2021 10:40

@mrsalicerichards
@Lemonyfuckit
I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my mum this year and already commented on another thread about not wanting to leave her behind. Seems its a more common feeling than I realised. Lots of love

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 31/12/2021 10:45

I couldn't care less. Its a meaningless calendar change date that doesnt change anything whatsoever and is just another day in winter. I prefer to go by the seasons than calendar dates. I'll be at home doing my hobbies.

KupoNutCoffee · 31/12/2021 10:45

I wonder if, thinking about the other thread, if your feelings relate to how you perceive the months. I wonder if you think of them in a line or list, its much more like an end, whereas if it's circular you can see the beginning better.

I don't really do anything aside stay up,.watch a film and put on crap TV close to midnight. Insist on getting some sort of bubbly and have a glass (wasting the rest of the bottle), and trotting off to bed. Debating going to bed at reasonable hour this year and starting the year with a fresh face, rather than tired at midnight.

I like the blank slate element of new year, starting clean, and don't mind the countdown itself but new years eve always feels a bit like a deadline, like I have to get everything done and ready.

I do a lot of my bullet journal and reflection at this time of year which I enjoy but doesn't necessarily help the deadline feeling

LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 31/12/2021 10:47

I have just read more and see that others don’t like the idea of leaving lost loved ones behind either. Good to know I’m not so odd! Though it’s a horrid feeling I would not wish on anyone.

Special heartfelt sympathy to all who have long st people dear to them.

Coasterfan · 31/12/2021 10:51

I hate it this year, we normally go away for three nights, did it for ten years until we couldn’t last year. I cancelled it when it looked like we were going to have restrictions as I thought it would be easier to get a refund when there weren’t loads of others trying at the same time. I made the wrong call and now I m miserable at home 😞

Lulu1919 · 31/12/2021 10:51

Not overly fond of it myself either
We don't go out or socialise - going to get a few nice nibbles from Waitrose and watch tv in Pjs
Probably won't stay up ..I'll see how tired I feel ha ha
It's the feeling of having a new fresh start tomorrow- all very well but worries pressures etc don't disappear overnight lol

tothesea · 31/12/2021 11:11

I’m so sorry for everyone’s losses this year. I lost my oldest friend to suicide in the summer. I really don’t feel there is anything to celebrate.
Our DC are used to NYE being a bit of a party, music, dancing round the living room, party food.. in our house or close friends. I’ve explained to them it’s going to be a quiet one this year.
For me it’s just another hurdle in grief to get over.

Excitedforthefuture · 31/12/2021 11:17

@tothesea

I’m so sorry for everyone’s losses this year. I lost my oldest friend to suicide in the summer. I really don’t feel there is anything to celebrate. Our DC are used to NYE being a bit of a party, music, dancing round the living room, party food.. in our house or close friends. I’ve explained to them it’s going to be a quiet one this year. For me it’s just another hurdle in grief to get over.

So sorry for your loss Obviously you know your children best But I would urge you to reconsider changing what your DC love about new year.

APJ1 · 31/12/2021 11:22

@Bollocks2Covid

I’ve never liked it. Even as a child. It’s just so sad and I don’t really know why?

I'm the same.

The whole countdown with Big Ben also makes me cringe. I like to sleep/nap so that I hopefully miss all that on he TV!