Only Pandora

[thetagrunburg]

Just after some opinions here as I don't know if IABU or DH is

Been with DH around 5 years, during that time whenever he's bought me any jewellery (which is not that often) it's always been from Pandora.
He's mentioned a few times he's only ever bought jewellery from there for gifts as he thinks it's decent quality so never goes anywhere else
He's bought me a few Pandora charms over the time we've been together. I have a silver charm bracelet which was bought for me ages ago which I never wear but despite me politely mentioning that I don't really wear it he still seems to buy me charms for it for Xmas and birthdays. The charms are usually thoughtful and have some kind of meaning so that in itself is a sweet gesture I suppose.

In general I prefer to wear gold jewellery (not necessarily real gold, I'm not fussy!) and I have told him this a few times.
He asked me a few weeks before Xmas what I wanted for Xmas and I mentioned a gold chain I'd seen which I really liked (not Pandora!) - nothing super fancy, under £75 so not overly pricey. I showed him the website and the chain and he said he'd 'see what he could do'
Xmas day comes and I open my gift.... a silver Pandora necklace

It's a nice necklace, but just not what I wanted. Am I being a diva here?

I reacted with a 'oh it's lovely thank you' as I didn't want to sound like a bitch but at the same time I'm kind of pissed off that he won't stray from frickin Pandora and doesn't listen to me!

I know I can go out and buy my own gold chain and I probably will but then I think he'll be hurt if I wear that instead of the one he's bought me! What do I do?!

YABU = shut up and wear the silver Pandora
YANBU = go get the gold one and tell him straight

The issue is he didn’t listen and the second issue is you didn’t tell the truth at the time and said it was lovely.

My sister DH knew she had always wanted an emerald ring. When they married young she had an engagement ring she had never really liked. He bought her one for a birthday gift many decades later, she didn’t like it and told him she would swap it. The jeweller said it had taken her DH a long time to pick it. She did feel a teeny bit guilty but why wear something you don’t like. Marriage survived the jewellery return and they were happily married for 43 years till he died. Mainly because they did listen to each other.

I have a simple charm bracelet it only has two charms on both are very significant. One is my initial and my DD who died bought it for me. The other is a scallop shell bought in a gift shop in Mont Saint Michael. My school had a trip there when I was 13 but my parents were far too poor to send me so all my friends went without me.

I have a DH who has bought me some rather beautiful jewellery over the years, mainly from overseas. He received a hand written letter from Brazil once, it turned out it was from the jeweller hoping his wife had liked the purchase. That’s what I call great customer service.

YANBU
Can you return it? I would and buy something you're actually going to wear.