Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

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Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

Hahaha yes we must be on the same Facebook page. Ours is constantly preening themselves with joy over how they are a glorious community of vegan social justice warriors with posts casually mentioning their $80 soy candle business and how important it is to keep things local or how they brought a coffee for the homeless “no, no, please, don’t thank me, I just think it’s the right thing to do” then five minutes later they’re having a complete meltdown because they overheard the council wants to put in a boarding house or some low income housing, “oh but we have such a close community here! That would destroy our village spirit!!”

we have a lot of aggro about dogs and walkers on a popular route.
i walk it regularly,
the other day i so wanted to post that i had had a dog aggro free walk!

then a post asking when time the co op shut, i so wanted to post the link

@anon12345678901

I hate this. In our group I went mental on them once. A friend of mine took his own life at home, and was found by friends. Obviously police and ambulance come out and the friends were then asked to stand outside. Cue the group taking pictures of the emergency vehicles along with a question of 'what's going on? There's people outside crying, I hope no one's hurt'. Who the fuck asks these sort of questions?! And for gods sake whose that thick to think with the emergency services and people crying, it's going to be happy news.

Yea that's very irritating. "There's been a four car crash in Porter Rd, s Ben ambulances there, hope everyone's ok"

Of course they're not bloody ok 😠

@PissedOffNeighbour22

We have loads recently on freecycle. Toys being given away 'only to those who cannot afford any Xmas gifts at all'. So how exactly is she going to police that? And of course no word on what tat she's actually giving away.

Not virtue signalling, but did make me laugh: someone wants a load of large sheds suitable for keeping animals in. But they don't drive so are expecting them delivering. They haven't offered to help with the dismantling or delivery costs either, surprisingly.

I fricking hate that. Just give it away and sshh.

There’s also the crazy cat ladies who try and catch cats they believe are strays. Then take them to the shelter who microchip search them let owners know and then charge owners £80 to get their pet back. Twice I’ve had to get catface. She doesn’t wear a collar. Because she slips them. She is chipped and doesn’t stray far from the garden usually.

She doesn’t look like a stay either. Fatty cat.

@emsmar

Is Tesco open today?

Is the tip open?

What time does the x19 bus come at?

Google it ffs!

The virtue signalling is desperate too.

And dare anyone answer with a link to the relevant opening hours. They will get completely ignored.

It has to be spoon fed. 9 a.m hun.

@Smokeahontas

‘Is there a charity I can volunteer with on Christmas Day?’

Because they don’t need them the other 364 days of the year.

There's a few people locally who slog on a voluntary basis, all year round, helping people, with food, clothes and other necessities. They start collecting stuff for Christmas, months beforehand.

A day or so before Christmas Eve, on a local Facebook page - 'I'm making some sandwiches today for the homeless. Can't deliver into town, small kids etc'

And she was most put out that the people who are slogging all year round, weren't falling at her feet in gratitude.

@Janeisalion

Ah I can go one better than that OP.

We have a Transwomen who uses our local Facebook page as a personal blog. They are autistic, tried killing himself last year by lying in the road and waiting to be run over - some poor soul spotted them just before the wheels went over them ( which would have been fucking traumatic for the driver)

They have learning disabilities and mental health issues, lives in a one bed flat and has SS help. I know all this as they posts about it frequently.I would say they are about 40 but some times filters the pictures to make themselves look like a 15 year old girl. They are clearly a very unwell person.

They wears their hair in pig tails and wears gaudy make up and posts pictures in skimpy outfits. There is always around 50 - 80 women saying.

'you go girl'
'what a babe'
'living your best life
'Gorgeous hun'
'all women xxx'
'fuck the haterzz'
ect ect.....

I know this person causes so much upset and trouble for their family behind the scenes because they are not well yet because people are so eager to be 'woke' or virtue signal' they continue this egg on this person and encourage them.

I absolutely HATE it when people use facebook groups as a captive audience for their creative writing attempts. These things should be confined to blogs, so people can choose to follow them or not.

And I hate it when people who do have blogs are constantly posting links to them all over fb groups.

Pisses me right off. It's so attention seeking. If you want to be a writer then get on a be one, but don't spam groups with massive long posts that are all about you and your ego, trying to drum up business and followers.

@CoffeeRunner

May I also add the "I haven't sent Christmas cards this year, I have donated the money to the local foodbank/cat rescue etc".

a) why tell anyone? Cards are not obligatory.
b) it's possible to send cards & also give to charity.

@CoffeeRunner

This is one of my pet hates, especially if they claim it's to protect the environment, but still have a real Christmas tree

I am on two groups one is for my town which is predominantly middle class and consists of lots of virtue signalling and moaning about rumours of shops that aren't seen as classy enough coming to the town (they never do).

Then there's my estates group which has lots of "to the bastard who stole my parcel I know where you live" and "can someone tell the person with the karaoke machine to stop strangling that cat!"

There's very little virtue signalling on the later group but during lockdown we had residents bringing milk around to everyone and helping the older people but you saw none of that on fb.

Ours is cats that are lost, but aren’t actually lost.

‘There’s a cat in my garden, does it belong to anyone?’

Cue lots of replies telling them to take it to the vets.

I’d be furious if someone took my cat who was just having a wander, to the vets. Cats walk around, doesn’t mean they are lost.

there is a local seamstress, gets tagged so many times, she has to come on and say she cannot take on any more projects

I was going to say the same!!

Oh that was meant to quote @ndujaWannaDance

We’ve a similar individual on my local FB group.

Not virtue signalling per se, but I really hate it when people post a blurry photo of a random bloke and say something like "this man is a paedophile/thief/dog napper because he looked at my daughter funny/was eyeing up my car/was eyeing up my dog. He lives on X Street. Watch out for your kids/cars and share far and wide! Let the power of Facebook do its thing!" And people share it without the slightest idea of who the guy is. He COULD be a thief or he could be the poster's next door neighbour they're pissed off with.

On my local FB page, it's full of "this cat's came into my garden twice this week, anyone know who he belongs to?" (Said cat looks perfectly healthy and is probably just having a roam, as cats do). Cue.lots of "I have a microchip reader, I can come down, or just take him down to the cats protection, poor thing!". How about just leave the poor thing alone?!

we did have an good positive one, people keep getting christmas cards addressed to a particular couple from a particular couple, for years, puts it on facebook and the address is found and they promised to contact the sender!

Ah, cross post with DukkaTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly

We dont really have any of that .
I've given away some kids clothes and some Xmas decs , I certainly wasn't looking for a pat on the back . Fb just seemed yhe quickest way to do this .

Totally agree, I volunteer at our local Food Bank and - I know this sounds ungracious - but so many people trying to out do each other with their donations at Christmas, usually of totally unsuitable items (50 Advent calendars - we - fortunately - support very few families), bottles of alcohol, random, clearly unwanted hamper gifts from Fortnum and Mason etc .

One local big wig just couldn't accept that we just don't need anything, we tried to refer him to FoodBanks in other parts of the country that clearly need supporting but he wanted to make a big thing about supporting local people & get publicity in the local paper... that's fine but we have a substantial bank account (which we can't give away to other FoodBanks ourselves due to charity commission rules) and genuinely don't need his money.
Or just as bad is people asking 'can their children come and help to observe how a FoodBank works' as if it's a spectator activity.

What about the other 51 weeks of the year, thank you to the people who give quietly and unobtrusively throughout year.

I have one on FB whose kids are constantly ill, she has 3 and almost daily it’s X is having a duvet day today high temperature, Y is at A&E waiting been here for 4 hours, Z is in bed hasn’t eaten for 3 days. Often describing sensitive inappropriate details about the symptoms to.

She’s also an MLM so the comments are always filled with a mix of up lines, down lines, sidelines, friends and family of ‘awww hugzxxxx’ ‘hope lil mans betta soon’

It intrigues me to the point that I can’t unfriend her because it’s a never ending saga, but still infuriating/ very weird.

@WorraLiberty

Someone offered a beautifully decorated Xmas tree in my local group yesterday, but said in uppercase letters "PLEASE NOTE DECORATIONS AND LIGHTS ARE NOT INCLUDED!"

First reply was, "So you want someone to take your old shit away for nothing?" 🤣🤣

I love it!

I'm laughing my head off here because so many of these are ones I have seen on local pages I'm on.

'I want this to go to someone who really needs it' I always wonder how are they going to decide.

Then there's the ones who grab everything that's going on a freecycle page. They can't possibly have use for everything, they are obviously selling it.

Oh and the 'I saw a ten car pile up, with twelve ambulances and three fire brigades, I hope everyone is okay' - unlikely, innit?

And lastly 'to the person who pushed me out of their way today/ ran over me with their bike/ bashed me with their wheelbarrow'... yup, I'm sure they are reading it, and feeling bad. Not.

I think it helps to view Facebook community pages as the digital equivalent of a pub car park at closing time - full of loud, rangy people making absolutely no sense.

@APerfectSky maybe we’re in the same group. 😂

• ranty - not rangy!

Same round here. Although there are some double standards.

There's a rough sleeper - an "old fashioned tramp" - who is a regular in the area and every winter there is someone planning to rescue him and have a rota for giving him a bed that he doesn't want. And yet when another homeless person set up a tent in our little shoppers car park they were all up I arms!!