Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

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Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

@StrapOnSallyChasedMeDownTheAli

One of the reasons I deleted Face ache.

A couple of years ago a 'friend' gushed with pride all over Faceache that her 3yo DD wanted to donate all of her Christmas present money to charity, about £200 in total that were a collection of gifts from friends and family. The money was donated and the obligatory photos everywhere.

It just felt, off...I'm not really sure why, it seemed a bit exploitative of their child, and giving away something that was meant for her. £200 is a lot of money for a few likes and gushy replies, but I guess when the money wasn't yours in the first place...🤷‍♀️

A school mum once took a photo of her 5yo DD giving her birthday money to a homeless man - about £90 IIRC. I thought “Great, that will score him a decent amount of heroin” (which is what I’d buy if I had to sleep rough). They live in cloud cuckoo land if they think they are helping

Our FB group is dominated by praise for someone who appears to be the local vigilante. He patrols the streets each night reporting on the potential crimes he has prevented and the old folk he has assisted at 3am, all accompanied by photos of street signs to prove where he has been. It’s really disturbing but he gets plenty of “well done mate, you’re a hero”.

@Redglitter

Not in local fb pages but it drives me nuts some of the posts on the Police appeals.i work for the police & obviously very often an appeal is only part of the story but folk seem to think we have an obligation to tell every aspect of an enquiry to the armchair detectives

I have to sit on my hands when a missing person appeal has comments like 'there's cctv in the area has that been checked' 'has find my phone been tried' Cheers Sherlock. Damn it wed never have thought of checking for cctv if you hadn't suggested it 🙄

And don't get me started on people or dogs who go missing in Glasgow & you get Shared Newcastle on the post when there's nothing to suggest the person has ever been to Newcastle in their life & its probably not very likely a dog will turn up 200 miles from home

It drives me nuts too when people share missing persons posts not from the police. There’s good reasons not to do this and I always politely point out that they should only get shared from the police and get called all sorts 🙄

Right now on my community FB page, someone's sisters cat has been run over, and the driver didn't stop. Does anyone know anything about it, or did anyone see it.

Now I love cats so much, I really do. My life isn't complete without a cat to serve and obey... BUT...

1. The person who hit it probably never knew they hit it... its a cat, not a stag.
2. The person who hit it isn't going to come forward
3. There is no law requiring a person to stop after hitting a cat. Its shitty if you knowingly drove on... but it's not against the law..

There has now been a collective outpouring of grief and sympathy on the comment... for a cat no one knew....

@AsYouWishButtercup I don't actually live there but I like the page as I visit friends who do. Is there a post on there at the minute about somebody losing a scrabble piece?

These posts boil my pee too! Cannot fathom why you can't do something kind for someone without posting about it on Facebook or other social media. During the first lockdown there was a lot of kindness in my small town, luckily only around 30% of the posts about these things were done by the givers with the other 70% being done by the receiver which is how it should be. I personally did quite a few good deeds purely to make people smile. That's what good deeds should be about, not clout.

We had a post this week about someone's recycling box blowing over in the wind. Apparently the entire council are incompetent because of this. Approximately 5000 people work for the council here and this person has just put their name to offending every single last one of them. We're not allowed to reply, so yes, we do hold a grudge you utter tosser.

I bet if I said 'Tony the homeless man who lives on a bench' other people on here would know who was talking about from a certain Facebook group. He's very dividing

My OH once helped a family at a petrol station who were on their way to a funeral, but they weren’t local and couldn’t find the crematorium- it was starting in 15 mins. It was miles away and too complicated to explain directions so he drove there with them following him and ensured they got there in the nick of time!

I told him it didn’t count unless he posted it on social media

(He didn’t post on social media BTW because he’s not an attention seeking twat)

@AsYouWishButtercup Is a good deed even a good deed unless you post it on social media?

I replied to someone on our Nextdoor site, oh, about 12.15am. The next morning she told me off for posting after midnight! Didn't I know how scared it made her feel, what with her being a pensioner and being disabled, AND living on her own? How cruel I was?
Have to say, I knew nothing about this fragile woman before, nor did I think the very bland topic exercising the forumistas was threatening or scary in any way

My two local FB groups (I'm on the edge of both of them) are about 90% planning applications and land sales. There's a bit of a building boom going on here. The rest is usually missing cats or dogs. What I wouldn't give for the excitement of an unknown man in a white van.

@Notinhampshirenow

Yes. 1000 x yes. I send cards every year as I’ve not got a huge family and love sending good wishes. The old ‘will be donating to charity’ post is pants. A) I believe it when I see the receipt and b) the whole thing just tells me you think cards are a hassle and cant be bothered. Actually if I was I was running a charity I would set up a website where you could send a virtual Christmas card in return for the donation……

I think the Salvation Army do this ..e cards in return for a donation. X

Totally agree about the virtue signalling. And I’m convinced there are people who prowl every post, everywhere, to see if they can post ‘ give it to the homeless’, ‘what about the homeless’ For everything everyone is doing or has. That way, THEY get the likes and congratulated, and they’ve had to do, er, zero. Genius really. I’m in some cookery groups on FB, and I see it on there…’ I've got some Bramley apples and the usual baking ingredients - what’s your best crumble recipe?’ Brings forth random’ give it to the homeless’ comments’. ND- I’m mind-boggled at posts such as ‘ Hi all, just joined. I’m linda, I’m 52, and live with my husband graham who is 53, at 64 New road, with our children Neil, Jake and Sarah, and our dog Sandy’… PASSWORD OVERLOAD

@DillonPanthersTexas

We just leave ours outside in our yard near the wall and it invariably goes

Straight away or after a few days? Weeks?

It really looks shit when walking down the street and you see junk on the pavement outside someone's house.

Pretty much straight away mostly, often at night but some stuff takes a couple of days. Yep, I live in a shitty, crappy area where flytipping abounds and is often moaned about on our Nextdoor.

To be fair, I found my phone this way once.
But on the whole, most of this stuff is unnecessary.

"To the owner of the car that hit my car in the retail park car park, we have CCTV of the event and would like to give you the opportunity to do the right thing and own up before we take the footage to the police".

Like fuck do they have CCTV!

It's the christmas card one that gets me-don't try to make excuses for being late or lazy or simply not doing them- not obligatory! You can send an e-card too if easier - no point in virtue signalling to 300 of your Facebook friends- most of whom probably wouldn't have gotten a real card anyway.. I'm not sure why but the christmas card one really annoys me - donate to any charity you like -no need to use it as an excuse for not sending /or being organised enough ..

Come to think about it, during the first lockdown I found someone's iPhone. When it started ringing, I risked my life by picking it up and answering it and then waiting with the phone until someone was able to come get it. They did thank me profusely in person but where was my FB thanks didnt post my good deed on SM but that's not the point is it. Ungrateful CF.

What a load of moaning Minnies on here….

@OMG13

What a load of moaning Minnies on here….

Oh come on now, we're British. Complaining is our constitutional right.

Oh this thread has made me laugh, just what I needed when I can’t sleep thanks to aching joints! My dad AND my ex both drove white vans, the neighbours must have been in pieces 😂 As for ‘persuading’ the offspring to ‘donate’ any of their toys, you’d have had to prize said items out of their cold, dead, hands.. Lots of virtue signalling on local Fb groups, and yes op, it is definitely arse-affectingly annoying!

Oh and I love dogs and children, and will always smile at both when out and about - I’m lucky not have ended up flagged on local Fb sites as some kind of dangerous, dog-napping, maniac!

@OMG13

What a load of moaning Minnies on here….

You make lots of virtue signalling contributions to the local FB site, don't you?