Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

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Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

A woman on our local FB page posted a video on Christmas Day. Her and her child handing a paper plate of Christmas dinner to a homeless man sitting in the street. It was so degrading, the plate was wet and floppy from gravy and the man looked so embarrassed. The majority of posters were scathing of her but she kept saying she did it to “raise awareness”. Are some people really not aware of homelessness?

@anon12345678901

I hate this. In our group I went mental on them once. A friend of mine took his own life at home, and was found by friends. Obviously police and ambulance come out and the friends were then asked to stand outside. Cue the group taking pictures of the emergency vehicles along with a question of 'what's going on? There's people outside crying, I hope no one's hurt'. Who the fuck asks these sort of questions?! And for gods sake whose that thick to think with the emergency services and people crying, it's going to be happy news.

Our neighbours opposite - their son tragically took his own life by hanging. The "friends" who found his body posted pictures on social media before they even rang the police. They didn't find out that dreadful news vis FB, but they easily could have.

@samyeagar

always love the ones that go...

Having a horrible time, so down, feel I've been gutted. Need prayers and good vibes only.

Oh no, what's wrong?

I just can't talk about it, it's too painful and personal.

Oh god this is my sister in law. She puts on the local face group once a week or so, "feeling sad ".All her friends do the same thing . On the day she does it its obviously her turn for a bit of attention seeking They all duly pile on with "oh hun what's wrong " blah blah. Get up and go for a brisk walk instead.

One of the posts recently was asking if anyone could remember what shop was where the coop is now. FORTY SIX people answered Presto FORTY SIX!!!!

After say 2/3 folk have replied wtf would you keep replying

Some did have the addition of my next door neighbours aunties sisters best friends daughter had a Saturday job there

I hate when someone wants to “gift” something to someone in need and let’s everyone plea their case.

Three words. White van paedos. Just fuck right off with your racist subtext eh?

…she kept saying she did it to “raise awareness”

Ah, I love it when people get caught out and they try to pull “raising awareness” as a way of glossing it all over and regaining the moral high ground.

See also: “It was bantz” and “Duh, it was satire”

@ShaneTheThird

Oh there was murder on my local lost and found page and people went mad at me but praised the woman in question.

Basically she found a mobile/wallet in the supermarket and instead of taking it to customer service or security she decided to take it home. She then looked up the name on Facebook. Guy didn't have Facebook eventually he managed to make contact via the phone and he was really angry that she had taken it from the shop as he must have called the shop to be told it hadn't been handed in. He then had to make a trip out of his way to collect it from her.

Everyone was calling him selfish and disgusting and telling the woman to damage his phone etc. I told her she was wrong for stealing someone's property from shop premises when customer service is literally right by the door and she made him go to her for it. Apparently I'm also a selfish cunt and everyone hoped I lost my stuff and had it never returned to me

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck… this planet is insane

Hate attention seeking twits! Do it without wanting the praise just ugh!!

@CharlotteGoldenblattYork We have the same on ours only it’s cake makers. All these wonderful, successful cake makers get tagged the second someone wants a cheap, copyright infringing HANDMADE cake for the next day. What on earth is wrong with Colin the Caterpillar or Spider-Man from Asda?

But how can society improve, if people don't engage with their perspectives ?

@SchadenfreudePersonified not sure of the relevance of his method of suicide?

anon12345678901

I hate this. In our group I went mental on them once. A friend of mine took his own life at home, and was found by friends. Obviously police and ambulance come out and the friends were then asked to stand outside. Cue the group taking pictures of the emergency vehicles along with a question of 'what's going on? There's people outside crying, I hope no one's hurt'. Who the fuck asks these sort of questions?! And for gods sake whose that thick to think with the emergency services and people crying, it's going to be happy news.

Our neighbours opposite - their son tragically took his own life by hanging. The "friends" who found his body posted pictures on social media before they even rang the police. They didn't find out that dreadful news vis FB, but they easily could have

Bloody hell! Both situations are awful!

A few years ago, I tried to take my life in a very public way.... so it made its way to the FB groups.
There were people saying they stood chatting with me "for hours", and lots of descriptors of how I looked and what I was wearing.
I was sectioned as an inpatient and reading all their posts. All bollocks. No one talked to me... I was on the phone the to Samaritans at the time. No one came up and spoke to me. Just cops. and they don't then to brag about it on social media.

@samyeagar

always love the ones that go...

Having a horrible time, so down, feel I've been gutted. Need prayers and good vibes only.

Oh no, what's wrong?

I just can't talk about it, it's too painful and personal.

Surely the next stage is PM me hun…

🤮

@NeedAHoliday2021

Oh and the helicopter ones! We live in a town that has an airfield in the middle where they manufacture helicopters! They do night flights twice a fucking year and post info on their fb page.

Yeovil?

@XenoBitch

anon12345678901

I hate this. In our group I went mental on them once. A friend of mine took his own life at home, and was found by friends. Obviously police and ambulance come out and the friends were then asked to stand outside. Cue the group taking pictures of the emergency vehicles along with a question of 'what's going on? There's people outside crying, I hope no one's hurt'. Who the fuck asks these sort of questions?! And for gods sake whose that thick to think with the emergency services and people crying, it's going to be happy news.

Our neighbours opposite - their son tragically took his own life by hanging. The "friends" who found his body posted pictures on social media before they even rang the police. They didn't find out that dreadful news vis FB, but they easily could have

Bloody hell! Both situations are awful!

A few years ago, I tried to take my life in a very public way.... so it made its way to the FB groups.
There were people saying they stood chatting with me "for hours", and lots of descriptors of how I looked and what I was wearing.
I was sectioned as an inpatient and reading all their posts. All bollocks. No one talked to me... I was on the phone the to Samaritans at the time. No one came up and spoke to me. Just cops. and they don't then to brag about it on social media.

I'll tell you the story of how I got kicked out of one group 😂

Round here there is a dual carriageway with several bridges. These attract a lot of suicidal people and over the years sadly a couple have taken their lives on the bridges.
One particular evening a woman had sadly jumped and the road was closed. The Police re routed the traffic through the local housing estate. One of those where the locals feel they are better than the rest of the city, you know the type.

About six months later the minutes of the residents association meeting were released. It had been well attended with local Police there as well. One of the 'delightful' residents had asked that Police stop routing traffic through their precious estate when they closed the road as they didn't like seeing lorries go past their window.

I'm afraid I wasn't polite. I don't know who the coward was that complained as they didn't put a name to their question, but to complain about traffic routing past your window whilst they recover a young woman was probably one of the most despicable things I've read on there.

'Anybody know any women and childrens hostels? I have clothes and I'd rather they go there than in the bin. x'

Though my favourite one was a woman posting to say she NEEDED a pram. Lots of people offered prams but she refused them all as she WANTED a specific pram!

Best one recently someone posted a warning how they'd woken up and heard footsteps outside. They checked their Ring doorbell and it shows a guy walking up to their front door turning round and running back down the drive.

The poster said he was with another dodgy looking character in a white van who drove slowly down the street then drove off when the 2nd guy got in the van. Clearly up to no.good and scared off by the Ring doorbell

Cue about a dozen posts:

OMG hun so scary
So.glad your doorbell scared them off

Then cane the OMG they were in our street about 0400
Phone the police

Then finally the voice of reason posts 'it was the milkman'

Bloody idiots didn't think the carton of milk in his hand was a clue 🙄 Worked all the dafties into a frenzy

@PearlyShamps

A "friend" of mine on Facebook, posted pictures of herself with a homeless man she had delivered a food parcel to - he was holding a tin of tomato soup in each hand and had a slightly bewildered look on his face whilst she had a broad smile. I didn't think "isn't that kind if her?"... all I thought was "how on Earth will he open those tins; heat the soup; serve it & eat it??"

Oh god this reminds me of an ex colleague of my husband, who while on holiday in NY had a picture taken giving a few cents to a homeless man. I was cringing inside.

[quote DifferentHair]@Flyingbymypants the problem with this, and so much of the other Facebook posturing, is the complete lack of respect for the privacy or dignity of the person you're saying you are 'helping'.

I absolutely hate it. It's dehumanising IMO.

People in poverty deserve respect and privacy the same as anyone else. They're not in a zoo for people to visit when they need to feel good about themselves.

Also - Having managed charities in my time - PSA- swanning in at Christmas for one day of volunteering is very rarely helpful. By the time you've been given equipment, told where things are, what the rules are, where the loo is- you've wasted otherwise productive time for the organisation and you won't be qualified to do anything critical anyway.

Regular volunteers are the lifeblood, people who come regularly over long periods of time. People who are worth training because that experience stays with the organisation. People who will take time to respect and understand the culture and ethos of the organisation, and the bigger purpose.

Rolling up on 25 December to hand out bread rolls while taking photos of yourself before swanning off to post about it on Facebook is not helpful. When I see it on Facebook I always want to click the angry face reaction and ask where they plan to be the other 364 days of the year. [/quote]
This. Most people in real life are caring and reasonable, social media is good for reuniting lost cats, keys...

Then there is a vocal minority who virtue signal with no real empathy for others who get shitty with homeless shelter staff when they are politely told that their services are not required on Christmas day. Their regular volunteers and staff will have spent time planning Christmas at the shelter, they've worked out the quantities, put in appeals for what specific things they need in good time, collected the food, worked out the rotas. How they manage to keep their cool with such people I have no idea.

The homeless shelter near me also had CF food businesses who don't help at any other time of year trying to dump their leftover cooked food on them last thing on Christmas eve. The coordinator said that they won't take food that has been on a buffet table in a warm room for hours, and that unsolicited donations will probably get wasted. But there seems to be an attitude that shelters should take this crap that no one else would eat to make the food donors feel better and that rough sleepers should be grateful.

@Kinneddar

Best one recently someone posted a warning how they'd woken up and heard footsteps outside. They checked their Ring doorbell and it shows a guy walking up to their front door turning round and running back down the drive.

The poster said he was with another dodgy looking character in a white van who drove slowly down the street then drove off when the 2nd guy got in the van. Clearly up to no.good and scared off by the Ring doorbell

Cue about a dozen posts:

OMG hun so scary
So.glad your doorbell scared them off

Then cane the OMG they were in our street about 0400
Phone the police

Then finally the voice of reason posts 'it was the milkman'

Bloody idiots didn't think the carton of milk in his hand was a clue 🙄 Worked all the dafties into a frenzy

They reported the Milkman on ours as a potential burglar. The funny part was someone said they had seen the milkman at the time and thought that he 'must have seen the dodgy character'. It didn't occur to them that the milkman was the person they had seen, their paranoia was too much for that.

In a similar story Ring footage was posted of a woman walking to the door then walking away at 7am. She was in every group by 10am as dodgy and warning people to watch out for her.
When the poor cow got home from work at 4pm and saw herself plastered all over FB she had to post and explain she was a carer going to a new client and had got the wrong address.

Madness.

A couple of years ago there was a big Facebook rant about giving food to a homeless man.

A couple and their young daughters (about 8 years old) gave a homeless man some food and a Christmas present, and the daughters were trying to have their pictures taken doing this, the homeless man who is a well known alcoholic went mad and stomped on the food, threw the present away and swore at the kids.

They put all this on Facebook and it was a mix of “poor huns, you were only being nice” and “ you were only doing it for Facebook likes and maybe he didn’t want his picture taken”

He shouldn’t have swore at the kids but he had been plastered all over Facebook twice before with people giving him food and photographing it for the likes.

Never saw him on Facebook again after that.

@StarfishDish

'Anybody know any women and childrens hostels? I have clothes and I'd rather they go there than in the bin. x'

Though my favourite one was a woman posting to say she NEEDED a pram. Lots of people offered prams but she refused them all as she WANTED a specific pram!

I think you live in my city

I saw the first post and thought “I know exactly where the women’s hostel is but the point of it not being public is to protect the women and children.”

There was also one asking how much longer the local panto is on for. Fucking Google it!!

About a year ago, a woman posted on ND worried as her son (Early 20s) hadn't been seen or heard from for a couple of days and this was out of character.

A few days later, she posted again. I can't remember the exact wording, but people could stop keeping an eye out, they'd had a visit from the police, it was bad news, but search was off. While she didn't say it directly, the message was clear. His body was found and it was either murder or more likely from what she said suicide. Peopkevwere obviously shocked and offering condolences. Then someone said "but what happened?" Obviously wanting all the gory details, I gave her short shrift (in a polite way in case mum was reading) that it was clear what had happened and it was too sensitive and painful for the family to tell us everything.

Not in local fb pages but it drives me nuts some of the posts on the Police appeals.i work for the police & obviously very often an appeal is only part of the story but folk seem to think we have an obligation to tell every aspect of an enquiry to the armchair detectives

I have to sit on my hands when a missing person appeal has comments like 'there's cctv in the area has that been checked' 'has find my phone been tried' Cheers Sherlock. Damn it wed never have thought of checking for cctv if you hadn't suggested it 🙄

And don't get me started on people or dogs who go missing in Glasgow & you get Shared Newcastle on the post when there's nothing to suggest the person has ever been to Newcastle in their life & its probably not very likely a dog will turn up 200 miles from home