to wonder why he is saying he does not remember me?

StFrancisdeCompostela · 27/12/2021 22:01

He must just have a very poor memory for names and faces

HailAdrian · 27/12/2021 22:01

Maybe it's his doppelganger.

ItsAllAboutTheLighting · 27/12/2021 22:03

Doppelgänger or memory issues.

BorisBooster · 27/12/2021 22:04

Twin ?

CatherinedeBourgh · 27/12/2021 22:04

I have face blindness. I don’t recognise people unless I know them really well.

I sometimes get a bit freaked out when people approach me in random places saying they know me, and I have no clue who they are.

Winniewonka · 27/12/2021 22:06

Where did you bump into him? If was in the workplace then he is acting weird. If it was in a pub or club unless you heard him answer to his name, are you sure that you didn't mistake him for someone else?

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Marble2021 · 27/12/2021 22:09

@Winniewonka

Where did you bump into him? If was in the workplace then he is acting weird. If it was in a pub or club unless you heard him answer to his name, are you sure that you didn't mistake him for someone else?

I bumped into him at uni.

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Lockheart · 27/12/2021 22:10

He is presumably saying it because he does not, in fact, remember you.

WheelOnTheBus · 27/12/2021 22:11

He might genuinely not remember. The only other explanation is that something happened that you’re not telling us and there’s a reason for him to pretend he doesn’t know you.

girlmom21 · 27/12/2021 22:12

Yeah I would assume you either got it wrong or he genuinely doesn't remember you.

NoTelly · 27/12/2021 22:12

Was he with a girl?

NeedAHoliday2021 · 27/12/2021 22:12

Maybe it’s not him. Our local furniture store has a guy who welcomes dh with open arms saying “Adam! Great to see you!” Dh’s name is Adam so he was so confused as he had no idea who he was. After a bit of a chat dh admitted he didn’t recognise this guy and the guy looks gutted and started talking about how they’d gone to school together. He absolutely refused to accept dh went to school 4 hours away and actually implied dh had lied to me about his past… I knew dh’s past as he was at school with my brother. Eventually the guy believed dh…. We think. (Dh not actually called Adam but name did match guy’s school friend’s name).

AngelinaFibres · 27/12/2021 22:12

@Marble2021

Last year, I was in a couple of classes with a guy from uni. Him and I worked together on a project for a couple of months in a team. I also chatted with him over whatsapp and in person quite often. I bumped into him a few weeks ago and I asked him how he was. He looked at me blankly. He really did not seem to even know who I was. I tried reminding him about when we worked together on that project, but he said I must have confused him with someone else. I have definitely not confused him with someone else. Anyone got a clue as to why he said he does not remember me?

You met his identical twin not him

BonnyEm · 27/12/2021 22:13

I had this with a friend I met in a chat forum online. We live fairly local to each other (half hour drive away). Chatted online daily/most days. Added each other on fb. Met up twice for lunch out. After a while she left the forum we were on but we were still fb friends but didn't really interact with each other, no further meet ups. Then a year or so later I bumped into her (definitely her!). I started chatting, asking how she was etc. And I could tell by the look on her face that she had absolutely no idea who I was. I started to make references to the online group to try to jog her memory. Still nothing. I think for some reason her memory had just totally erased me.

NeedAHoliday2021 · 27/12/2021 22:13

Or he has a twin? Dtds have had this before with other dc at school.

Dozer · 27/12/2021 22:15

Did you work with him in real life or (due to covid) online? If the latter perhaps you look different in real life!

If the former, perhaps ‘face blindness’.

AngelinaFibres · 27/12/2021 22:15

@CatherinedeBourgh

I have face blindness. I don’t recognise people unless I know them really well.

I sometimes get a bit freaked out when people approach me in random places saying they know me, and I have no clue who they are.

You are my husband's twin.If someone is where he usually sees them and is wearing the type of clothes they usually wear he is mostly okay. If not he has literally no idea who they are. Its fascinating

FazedNotPhased · 27/12/2021 22:16

Surely if he had a twin he'd say something like 'oh my brother was the one on that course, I'm doing engineering' or whatever.

I can only think that he has serious memory issues (concerningly so) or he perhaps felt you came on too strong and fancied him or something and it freaked him out. So be panicked and pretended not to know you.

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Marble2021 · 27/12/2021 22:16

@Dozer

Did you work with him in real life or (due to covid) online? If the latter perhaps you look different in real life!

If the former, perhaps ‘face blindness’.

In real life

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MarshmallowFondant · 27/12/2021 22:17

I was admitted to hospital before having DS and was on a ward with a woman who recognised me and said "Hello Marshmallow!" while I looked at her blankly. I'd temped in the organisation she worked for a few years previously and she clearly remembered me as an oddity - a Scottish person in the home counties, who had a very unusual name. To me, she was just one of more than 2 dozen Emma/Anna/Louise/Sarah people I had worked with across several companies and even after her prompting I didn't remember her. Of course I said I did, but I hadn't a clue.

GiveMeMyKeys · 27/12/2021 22:22

A similar thing happened to me the other way round, a women started chatting to me in a market, I didn't recognise her at all and I have a good memory for faces. She was quite persistant in explaining how we knew each other and eventually it clicked and I realised I did know her.

It was nothing personal, I genuinely couldn't place her.

steff13 · 27/12/2021 22:23

It sounds like he genuinely didn't remember you. Maybe he has a bad memory, maybe you've confused him with someone else. I was once waiting to be seated at a restaurant with my mother and grandmother, and a woman I didn't know came up and started talking to me. I was rather bewildered, but it transpired that she thought I was her niece. I definitely was not. We just looked alike, apparently. I've actually been mistaken for the same girl quite a few times throughout my life by different people so she must really look like me.

Mummadeze · 27/12/2021 22:26

I bumped into a guy I knew when I was younger. He said he didn’t know me. We knew each other well. We had spent hours together, in school and out of school. It was so weird, but he was insistent he didn’t remember me. I found out later he had taken loads of drugs since then and it had really taken its toll on his memory. It was quite shocking though.

2319inprogress · 27/12/2021 22:32

I have face blindness - about a month into the summer holidays 3rd yr at uni we bumped into my lab partner who I had spent 2 afternoons a week with every week of the academic year. I had no idea who she was AT ALL (lack of lab coat probably ) & had to fake the chat. My now DH who had met her twice before as we left labs knew exactly who she was & didn't realise I had no idea who she was - I actually assumed she was a Uni friend of his!

So he may really not remember you & it's not personal!

Poetrypatty · 27/12/2021 22:35

Have you had a drastic hair change - cut/colour?