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No bathroom bin

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 19:54

If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

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mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:58

You are still missing the point, I see.

I'll try again.

You seem to have no regard for your guests' right to privacy.

LoveGrooveDanceParty · 28/12/2021 18:00

@mathanxiety

I'm trying to figure out the point at which those insisting it's ok to require guests or family members carry sanpro to a kitchen bin believe privacy becomes a consideration for them.
Well, for starters, there isn’t a ticker-tape parade with banners and air horns (and certainly no ‘exposed bums’).

So for the most part, other people don’t have the first clue (not, crucially, care) what’s going on.

People putting things in bins is, perhaps weirdly, a low drama, discreet activity in most houses, that other people don’t give a hoot about.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 18:01

I've got guests coming at the weekend, I'll mention to them that they might like to shut the door rather than flash their bums at the rest of us! At 86 and 92 it wouldn't be a pretty sight!

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:14

People putting things in bins is, perhaps weirdly, a low drama, discreet activity in most houses, that other people don’t give a hoot about.

Yes, especially if the bin is in the bathroom.

If it's in the kitchen, it may well be that the women and girls carrying sanpro there and putting it in it feel less than ok with that.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:15

Why would you ask them to shut the bathroom door, @PinkSparklyPussyCat?

(I can do 'hilariously obtuse' too).

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 18:31

@mathanxiety

People putting things in bins is, perhaps weirdly, a low drama, discreet activity in most houses, that other people don’t give a hoot about.

Yes, especially if the bin is in the bathroom.

If it's in the kitchen, it may well be that the women and girls carrying sanpro there and putting it in it feel less than ok with that.

If there isn't a bin in the bathroom what would you do?

Have you asked to ensure the host is ok with used sanpro going in it? Or wet wipes etc. a few posters who have said they have bathroom bins have also said they don't want sanpro in it. Why is it ok to leave it there for someone else to sort out?

My house is predominantly for the comfort of my family, and as a bathroom bin wouldn't be used and the floor space is much better served with a laundry bag, then that's what's there. There isn't space for anything else. I'm the only female in the house and am more than capable of dealing with used sanpro without the aid of a bathroom bin. Have been doing it for a number of years now.

I'm perfectly happy if people want a bathroom bin. Zero skin off my nose. I'm also perfectly happy not having a bathroom bin as I have 1) no space for it and 2) no need for it. There really isn't a right or wrong answer. It is wholly personal preference.

Snog · 28/12/2021 18:38

Putting bathroom waste into a kitchen bin really doesn't sound very hygienic to me.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:45

What you're saying is you suit yourself and see no reason to give any thought to the needs of your female guests, @tigger1001.

There is no law against being inconsiderate.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:50

Have you asked to ensure the host is ok with used sanpro going in it? Or wet wipes etc. a few posters who have said they have bathroom bins have also said they don't want sanpro in it. Why is it ok to leave it there for someone else to sort out?

Are the posters who object to sanpro in their bathroom bin also going to tell guests to make sure their poo doesn't smell, or to clench really hard and not take a dump in their precious bathrooms?

Have you ever warned a hostess that you may well be about to befoul her bathroom air before doing your business there?

Leaving sanpro in a kitchen bin also means you are leaving it there for someone else to sort out, you do realise?

limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2021 18:54

Putting out a buffet of tampons and panty liners, fretting about women and girls scurrying through the house in shame and tidying up after them like a maid is not a feminist statement. It is Wifework.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:58

It is called consideration for other women in a world which generally doesn't give two hoots about women.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 18:59

You might as well call making a cup of tea for your friends wifework, or making sure there's enough TP in your bathroom.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 19:02

@mathanxiety

What you're saying is you suit yourself and see no reason to give any thought to the needs of your female guests, *@tigger1001*.

There is no law against being inconsiderate.

So I should inconvenience my household just incase a visitor needs to change their sanpro and can't put it in another bin? Yes, you are right, no law on being inconsiderate...... I mean it's downright selfish to have your own home organised to suit your own needs......

Do you seriously expect others to be inconvenienced in their own home just to make your life a tiny bit easier?

And as I've have said lots of times, I don't have room for a bin. Should I build an extension for the convenience of any guests so they can dispose of any sanpro without using another bin?

What would you do if you went to someone's house and they didn't have a bin? Does the world end? Or do you find another way to dispose of any sanpro?

It's just such a non issue.

limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2021 19:05

We have different opinions. Neither of us is wrong. What is TP? I need to know so I can file it under Wifework or general hospitality offered by both sexes.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 19:11

@limitedperiodonly

We have different opinions. Neither of us is wrong. What is TP? I need to know so I can file it under Wifework or general hospitality offered by both sexes.
I'm assuming toilet paper?
PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 19:11

I'm presuming it's toilet paper @limitedperiodonly. Maybe you don't speak about it in certain circles and it's just referred to in hushed tones as TP, just in case you embarrass guests. I would personally count it as general hospitality but I could be wrong. I'm sure Math will enlighten us...

Arubaa · 28/12/2021 19:17

We have a bathroom bin but it's not got a liner and I would be a little ugged out if guests left sanpro in it! I do have a drawer in the bathroom with nappy sacks that could be used and then put in the kitchen bin ( which doesn't need sorted out for recycling like the bathroom one does) I use a moon cup now but when I used tampons there is no way I would have ever left them in someone else's bathroom bin!

TheWeeDonkey · 28/12/2021 19:32

There are aspects of MN that really blow my mind.

Bayliss &Harding
Toilet Brushes
In Laws

And now bathroom bins are verboten, so bizarre. I mean we do some really grubby things in bathrooms, thats what they're for. Although I'm pretty impressed by all these families who create no waste during their ablutions.

User754390 · 28/12/2021 19:37

Who knew that you could have so much conversation about a bathroom bin.

limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2021 19:40

Toilet Paper! Of course @tigger1001 and @PinkSparklyPussyCat. Silly me. But how coy to refer to it by initials.

We have plenty of it and it is currently on naked display but only because there was another panic buy and the only thing I could get was a 24-pack and it wouldn't all fit in the cupboards. Normally it's under one of those crocheted crinoline ladies so as not to alarm anyone.

It's the normal stuff - not impregnated with aloe vera or laminated - so can be flushed. I wouldn't like anyone to place their used TP, sanpro or condoms in my bathroom bin no matter how shy they were.

I have fond memories of Greek holidays in the 1980s and 1990s but never liked to put shitty TP or bloody tampons in the bin even though I knew the hotel management didn't want me to flush. I did but felt bad for the maids having to take it away. Silly, really. They were women and used to it.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 19:46

It's on display in our bathroom as well - I have a very expensive toilet roll holder (DH still doesn't know how much I spent on it!) but like you @limitedperiodonly I have a 24 pack and so the whole pack is on display as I have nowhere else to put it.

I really am lowering the tone aren't I? No bathroom bin, TP on display for all to see.

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 19:53

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

It's on display in our bathroom as well - I have a very expensive toilet roll holder (DH still doesn't know how much I spent on it!) but like you *@limitedperiodonly* I have a 24 pack and so the whole pack is on display as I have nowhere else to put it.

I really am lowering the tone aren't I? No bathroom bin, TP on display for all to see.

Mine is in the cupboard under the sink - which is why I've no room for a bin in that cupboard!

Might redeem myself after all! But then, surely you don't want visitors having to rake around to find it if it happens to run out so maybe it is best to have it out for their convenience....

cantare · 28/12/2021 19:58

It is bad enough to sneak sanitary products in, when at my bathroom-bin-less DSis, but is worse still to walk through the house to put everything into a kitchen bin! Just- why can you not have a bin in your bathroom?

limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2021 20:02

You have an expensive toilet roll holder but no bathroom bin @PinkSparklyPussyCat? Not even one of those really weeny ones with a flip top lid that could fit in even the most inconveniently-sized conveniences? Do you live in a terraced house with an extension? I wouldn't normally ask that but an overwhelming wave of shock crashed over me. I only hope your TP is white. No other colour is acceptable.

Horst · 28/12/2021 20:02

Wonder if the people who would just leave stuff laying in others bins are the same who would use random peoples bins for their dog poo since that come up on here often Grin