Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

No bathroom bin

828 replies

Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 19:54

If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 17:04

And why all the shouting? Confused

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:13

@Sparklingbrook

And why all the shouting? Confused
To try to get my point across that no one is wandering around the house with used san pro!

And no @mathanxiety, I haven't missed the point of anything. I have a kitchen bin. I have no bin in the bathroom. If my hypothetical visitor wants do dispose of her used san pro they have to leave the bathroom with it and might be seen by other people which some posters seem to have a problem with.

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 17:18

There's no need to shout though. We get your set up. It is different to other people's set ups. Your guests need to wander out of the bathroom and into the kitchen with their sanpro, but you don't have any visitors so none of this matters? Confused

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:18

Not having a bathroom bin sends the message that period are somehow disgusting!! Neer read such rot. I started my periods 60 years ago, we never had a bathroom or kitchen bin for that matter. They were wrapped in newspaper and taken outsde to be burnt. At school you had to walk from the toilets to the end of the building, and put them in an incinerator, and they were huge in thoses days, Dr Whites, didn't even come with loops, you had to form your own.My youngest DS came to me with a tampon age 2, asked what it was, I told him, no fuss, no embarassment. Am assuming these folk who keep them on hand in a nice basket, out on the bathroom supply every size and thickness then!

@nannybeach, my mum went to a boarding school in the 1940s where the girls had to wash their own cloth napkins in a cold washhouse. They were forbidden from talking to each other about periods. She most definitely got the message that periods were disgusting. For that reason there was never a bathroom bin in my home growing up, and because of that I decided I would always have one and would also keep a supply of tampons and pads in a handy spot in the bathroom, and tell all female guests to help themselves. I keep tampons in a selection of sizes, a box of panty liners, and a bag of pads in size regular. I have four DDs and their friends were always in and out of the house. I have friends coming and going too.

In secondary school (Ireland in the late 70s/early 80s) we had little bins in each stall in the girls bathrooms, just as in any public loo. This saved time of course, and also saved all that TP advised for wrapping. It also meant that girls could get on with their lives and not lose instruction time traipsing around the school to dispose of sanpro, something the boys obv didn't have to do. There were also pad and tampon dispensers in the girls loo. In my primary school the nuns didn't provide bins until some parents raised a stink. It hadn't occurred to them that girls aged up to 12 might need to dispose of sanpro.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:23

And no @mathanxiety, I haven't missed the point of anything. I have a kitchen bin. I have no bin in the bathroom. If my hypothetical visitor wants do dispose of her used san pro they have to leave the bathroom with it and might be seen by other people which some posters seem to have a problem with.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat
1 - You have what amounts to a bathroom bin. In which case you've missed the point.

2 - Or you have no female visitors, in which case, why are you even posting here?

3 - Or you know your visitors might need to dispose of sanpro and you have decided they are ok with advertising the fact that they are on their period. This is only ok if your friends are in the habit of informing you monthly of their period status. You shouldn't assume that they are happy to do this just because they don't comment on having to use the bin in a public room.

Cherrytart23 · 28/12/2021 17:23

@Sparklingbrook

I assume people that don't have a bathroom bin flush their cotton buds/ make up pads and dental floss etc Plus they're quite happy to let visitors carry used tampons etc around in their handbag til they get home. Nice.
This

I would rather there tampons went in the bathroom bin than them having to carry it all round my house to put in the kitchen bin.

Some1 above said they sort there bathroom bin out for recycling how big is you bin? I could literally fit 2 shampoo bottles in mine and few empty loo rolls would rather carry them down and leave the bin for tampons instead.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:24

To try to get my point across that no one is wandering around the house with used san pro!

Yet you continue to split hairs about kitchen vs bathroom bin...

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:26

@Sparklingbrook

There's no need to shout though. We get your set up. It is different to other people's set ups. Your guests need to wander out of the bathroom and into the kitchen with their sanpro, but you don't have any visitors so none of this matters? Confused
The problem with some posters (and despite the fact you clearly have an issue with me I'm not including you in this) is they refuse to believe that someone else's set up can be different to theirs. As I said before I've been told in the past it's impossible for my garden to be as narrow as it is, that my living room has to be big enough for a desk when it isn't. Everyone's situation is different but a lot of posters can't see it.
mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:27

Some1 above said they sort there bathroom bin out for recycling how big is you bin? I could literally fit 2 shampoo bottles in mine and few empty loo rolls would rather carry them down and leave the bin for tampons instead.

I have had this discussion before on MN with someone who stated that they did that. Possibly the same poster. I'll never get that hour of my life back.

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 17:28

@PinkSparklyPussyCat I definitely do not have an issue with you, I merely questioned why all the shouting.

You are taking this thread very personally and there's no need to, honestly.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:31

The problem with some posters (and despite the fact you clearly have an issue with me I'm not including you in this) is they refuse to believe that someone else's set up can be different to theirs. As I said before I've been told in the past it's impossible for my garden to be as narrow as it is, that my living room has to be big enough for a desk when it isn't. Everyone's situation is different but a lot of posters can't see it.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat
I think you can be pretty certain if nobody else has mentioned a setup where the kitchen bin is right outside the bathroom door, that this isn't the case for posters who think it's ok to require female guests to carry used sanpro in their pockets of bags to a kitchen bin, and the fact is that most of the anti-bin people here expect their guests to walk through their houses carrying used sanpro.

IncompleteSenten · 28/12/2021 17:32

I have bathroom bins with liners.

I would hate to risk embarrassed guests walking through the house trying to find a bin for a wrapped pad or tampon. It feels thoughtless.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:32

@mathanxiety

And no *@mathanxiety*, I haven't missed the point of anything. I have a kitchen bin. I have no bin in the bathroom. If my hypothetical visitor wants do dispose of her used san pro they have to leave the bathroom with it and might be seen by other people which some posters seem to have a problem with.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat
1 - You have what amounts to a bathroom bin. In which case you've missed the point.

2 - Or you have no female visitors, in which case, why are you even posting here?

3 - Or you know your visitors might need to dispose of sanpro and you have decided they are ok with advertising the fact that they are on their period. This is only ok if your friends are in the habit of informing you monthly of their period status. You shouldn't assume that they are happy to do this just because they don't comment on having to use the bin in a public room.

Fucking hell, do you ever give up?
  1. I'll explain this very carefully. The bathroom is the room with the toilet and shower. It has no bin. The kitchen is the room with the oven, hob and fridge freezer. It has a bin. Therefore it's a kitchen bin as you have to step out of the bathroom to use it.
  1. I have no idea why you think I have no female visitors and as you're not the thread police I will post where I like. Even if I didn't have female visitors I can still have an opinion.
  1. What the fuck are you talking about? What public room?
mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:35

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

No, I never give up. I see you are still here too.

Your use of the word hypothetical made me wonder if you had no female visitors. Your lack of a bathroom bin confirmed to me that this was the case. This is me being charitable.

The alternative is that you insist on your female visitors disposing of sanpro in a public room. Why would you think that is ok?

Do you use public loos where there is one communal bin for sanpro?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:36

[quote Sparklingbrook]@PinkSparklyPussyCat I definitely do not have an issue with you, I merely questioned why all the shouting.

You are taking this thread very personally and there's no need to, honestly.[/quote]
I apologise Sparkling, I didn't mean to be rude to you 💐

I don't usually take things personally but some posters seem to insinuate you're lying if you try and explain something is different to how they think it should be! One particular poster is getting right on my nerves at the moment!

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:38

A public room being the opposite of a private room where you can shut the door behind you and do whatever private business people normally do without exposing their bums or revealing their menstrual status to people who may be sitting in the kitchen or cooking there or making a cup of tea, etc.

Think kitchen vs bathroom.

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 17:39

There's no need to apologise, I genuinely haven't got a problem with you or anyone else on this thread @PinkSparklyPussyCat. It's just an AIBU on MN about bathroom bins.

nomoneytreehere · 28/12/2021 17:42

I've got a bathroom bin but oh my god I would never leave used san pro in someone else's bathroom bin or even worse kitchen bin. That's totally grim.

LoveGrooveDanceParty · 28/12/2021 17:49

@nomoneytreehere

I've got a bathroom bin but oh my god I would never leave used san pro in someone else's bathroom bin or even worse kitchen bin. That's totally grim.
I think this is what it comes down to actually, isn’t it?

The world - or perhaps just MN - is divided between people who would leave used sanpro behind in someone else’s bin and people who wouldn’t.

So actually, bathroom bin or no bathroom bin is a bit of a red herring.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:51

@mathanxiety you're mad! How have we gone from not having a bathroom bin to people exposing their bums?! Do you think I don't have a bathroom door?? My flat may be small but it has doors on all the rooms! Fucking hell!

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:53

The overarching issue is privacy, @PinkSparklyPussyCat.

LoveGrooveDanceParty · 28/12/2021 17:53

mathanxiety does seem oddly fixated with people exposing their bums, and fishing tampons out in the kitchen.

Not quite sure of the point being made, but there clearly is one in there somewhere.

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:54

That goes for you too, @LoveGrooveDanceParty

mathanxiety · 28/12/2021 17:55

I'm trying to figure out the point at which those insisting it's ok to require guests or family members carry sanpro to a kitchen bin believe privacy becomes a consideration for them.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 17:56

The overarching issue now is why you think my guests would be flashing their bums @mathanxiety. It might be something that you and your friends do but it's not something we do...

Swipe left for the next trending thread