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No bathroom bin

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Veeveeoxox · 25/12/2021 19:54

If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

OP posts:
limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2021 20:12

@cantare

It is bad enough to sneak sanitary products in, when at my bathroom-bin-less DSis, but is worse still to walk through the house to put everything into a kitchen bin! Just- why can you not have a bin in your bathroom?
Tampons are enormous aren't they? Still, imagine how bad it must have been sneaking chewing gum through airport security in the 1970s.
PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 20:22

@limitedperiodonly I do, there's no hope for me is there? Maybe I should do the old MN favourite and just move so I've got a big enough bathroom for a bin.

Maybe I can redeem myself a bit here as yes, the TP is white. Do I lose points for it being own brand and only two ply though?

Easterndream · 28/12/2021 21:29

The think is, if people don't have a bin in their bathroom, it's because they don't need or want one. To have one, for the sole purpose of disposing guests' sanitary products is really an ask too far if you ask me. Some people recycle most of their household waste and this means that non recyclable products spend months at a time in the general rubbish bin. Personally I wouldn't want other people's used sanitary products in there for months on end when avoidable.
I'm sorry if guests feel embarrassed by having to take their own waste away but, if they think about it, having a bin for that sole purpose is basically like handing over the waste directly to the people in the house and asking them to dispose of it.

Mofomo · 28/12/2021 21:40

Yes thats how bins work

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 21:46

@Easterndream

The think is, if people don't have a bin in their bathroom, it's because they don't need or want one. To have one, for the sole purpose of disposing guests' sanitary products is really an ask too far if you ask me. Some people recycle most of their household waste and this means that non recyclable products spend months at a time in the general rubbish bin. Personally I wouldn't want other people's used sanitary products in there for months on end when avoidable. I'm sorry if guests feel embarrassed by having to take their own waste away but, if they think about it, having a bin for that sole purpose is basically like handing over the waste directly to the people in the house and asking them to dispose of it.
Totally agree
deadlanguage · 28/12/2021 21:47

having a bin for that sole purpose is basically like handing over the waste directly to the people in the house and asking them to dispose of it.

That's exactly what bins are for. Do you stop guests from putting anything in your bins?

tigger1001 · 28/12/2021 21:56

@deadlanguage

having a bin for that sole purpose is basically like handing over the waste directly to the people in the house and asking them to dispose of it.

That's exactly what bins are for. Do you stop guests from putting anything in your bins?

Do you buy a bin specially for visitors, that you don't use yourself?
Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 22:17

Eww at keeping things in bins for months at a time. Why would you even do that? I know I might be OTT with my daily bin emptying but only emptying bins after months?

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 28/12/2021 22:33

We definitely agree on that Sparkling! The bedroom bin gets emptied weekly but that’s because it’s mainly old packaging. The kitchen bin is every few days depending what’s gone in it. Months, no way!

deadlanguage · 28/12/2021 22:34

@tigger1001 there's a bin in my spare bedroom so I guess so yes!

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2021 22:38

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

We definitely agree on that Sparkling! The bedroom bin gets emptied weekly but that’s because it’s mainly old packaging. The kitchen bin is every few days depending what’s gone in it. Months, no way!
Yes the wheelie bins get collected every other week. So even the landfill one would only have 2 week’s rubbish in maximum. And that lives outside.
CriminalOrator · 28/12/2021 22:43

My inlaws don’t even have a kitchen bin.

VanGoghsDog · 29/12/2021 01:23

@CriminalOrator

My inlaws don’t even have a kitchen bin.
My parents never used to, then when my dad died my mum got one. But not a recycling one.

They used to just pile rubbish up "on the side" and take it out when they went out. Which is fine if you're retired and have feck all else to do except wander in and out of the house all day. And also if, like my parents but unlike me, you just wear the same shoes up and down the street, over grass, mud, sand, and into the house and all-around including upstairs, into your bedroom and bathroom.

Personally, I have better things to do with my time than go out to the bins fifteen times a day, changing my shoes every time.

tigger1001 · 29/12/2021 05:44

[quote deadlanguage]@tigger1001 there's a bin in my spare bedroom so I guess so yes![/quote]
Fair enough. That's what works for you.

I don't have a spare room though and don't have a bin in my own bedroom. And that's what works for me. Visitors can use the bin if they want to, but I'm not buying one specially for them for a space I don't have on the off chance they don't want to use an existing bin in the house.

Chilllichutneyandcheese · 29/12/2021 05:52

Wow. You need bins in the bathroom. My periods are so heavy, I’d be mortified to have to put all my stuff in the kitchen bin et someone’s house. I do try and put it in a little bag and then in the outside bin but if no option then you need a lined bathroom bin. I have one in each bathroom which can be used by guests too. Especially for teenagers. Would be mortifying to have to use someone’s kitchen bin .

RedHot22 · 29/12/2021 06:19

I would expect anyone visiting my house to be equipped tbh. If your periods are heavy then you need to be prepared.

I will be honest, I don’t want anyone else’s san pro left in my bin for me to dispose of and would be mortified to leave mine for anyone else.

But then I’m a bit weird like that.
I would never have a cleaner unless I was physically unable to do it myself.

ChristmasyFairy · 29/12/2021 08:52

@tigger1001 You're up early to add to this thread - before 6am? Shock

Is it possible that you can fast forward and imagine that (if you have children) they may have female partners who, like the OP, find your lack of bin embarrassing? It's fully understandable that you have no need for one but the thread isn't about that.

It's about someone feeling uncomfortable as a guest because her in laws don't provide what she needs.

Because all of your posts talk about what suits you, and there is no empathy at all about how anyone in your house as a guest might feel.

If we were to extrapolate your stance on bins to other ways of behaving, I'd say it looks as if you don't consider your guests at all- like buying food or drink they might like because you don't eat/ drink it. I don't drink alcohol at all, but I do buy it for people coming for a meal.

If you put yourself in the position of the OP, who has heavy periods and is staying with in laws who don't have a bin, what is your advice to her or them?

ChristmasyFairy · 29/12/2021 08:53

Oh and you do have space for a pack of 24 loo rolls but no bin. I'm still trying to get my head around that!

ChristmasyFairy · 29/12/2021 08:57

I'm sorry if guests feel embarrassed by having to take their own waste away but, if they think about it, having a bin for that sole purpose is basically like handing over the waste directly to the people in the house and asking them to dispose of it.

So @Easterndream would you expect guests to bring their own sheets or towels if they stay as you don't want to deal with those and wash them? Do you ban them from putting their 'waste' in the loo or is that ok as it's flushed away?

How absolutely mean minded to 'forbid' a guest from using a rubbish bin in your home. Mumsnet is certainly an eye opener. You'd be happy to allow a menstruating woman to carry away maybe 20 used pads as you were too mean to empty a bin with them in?

ChristmasyFairy · 29/12/2021 09:03

@Easterndream where do you live if your recycling bin only gets emptied every few months?

You need to complain to your local council Grin

Most people up and down the UK have it emptied weekly or fortnightly.

Can you imagine a guest of yours having to lug 20+ used san pads on a train till they get home?

Truly shocking morals here, in terms of being kind and thoughtful to other people.

Katieandthekids · 29/12/2021 09:09

We don't have one coz my twin toddlers would just upend it. Feel bad for guests but it is what it is!

ChristmasyFairy · 29/12/2021 09:10

@Katieandthekids

We don't have one coz my twin toddlers would just upend it. Feel bad for guests but it is what it is!
Maybe you need to teach your children not to behave in a certain way?
PinkSparklyPussyCat · 29/12/2021 09:12

Oh and you do have space for a pack of 24 loo rolls but no bin. I'm still trying to get my head around that!

Obviously I don't know anyone else's circumstances but my 24 pack is balanced on top of the washing basket - it's a feature!

BTW @ChristmasyFairy, apologies for 'shouting' at you yesterday! Another poster is right, I did take some comments personally but I've had various posters in the past not believe the layout of my home and I thought 'here we go again'!

RedHot22 · 29/12/2021 09:14

Surely, if you know someone well enough to stay with them, you would say something or ask where they would like you to dispose of it.

tigger1001 · 29/12/2021 09:18

[quote ChristmasyFairy]@tigger1001 You're up early to add to this thread - before 6am? Shock

Is it possible that you can fast forward and imagine that (if you have children) they may have female partners who, like the OP, find your lack of bin embarrassing? It's fully understandable that you have no need for one but the thread isn't about that.

It's about someone feeling uncomfortable as a guest because her in laws don't provide what she needs.

Because all of your posts talk about what suits you, and there is no empathy at all about how anyone in your house as a guest might feel.

If we were to extrapolate your stance on bins to other ways of behaving, I'd say it looks as if you don't consider your guests at all- like buying food or drink they might like because you don't eat/ drink it. I don't drink alcohol at all, but I do buy it for people coming for a meal.

If you put yourself in the position of the OP, who has heavy periods and is staying with in laws who don't have a bin, what is your advice to her or them?[/quote]
Insomnia is a bugger. Was awake from 4..... certainly wasn't to reply to this thread 😂😂 wish I could sleep longer. Everyone else in my house is still asleep!

The toilet paper is in a cupboard. Don't see how a bin would fit in there. And if it did, where does the toilet paper go? And do visitors really open drawers to find a bin?

Unless I move house then I have no room for a bin in the bathroom and visitors will just need to deal with that. It's honestly no big deal. The outside bin, if they don't want to use the inside bin is literally 3 steps from the front door. And they would pass the front door going from the bathroom to the kitchen anyway.

No one I know in real life gets their knickers in a knot over the lack bathroom bin.