Visitors with sleeping children

[TheSpyWhoSleighedMe]

Family member will stay in the car for hours if their child or children are asleep! waiting for them to wake - and I do mean hours! This is their third baby, she’s nearly two. They’ve done this for every child, every time they visit. When it was just one baby both husband & wife will stay in the car. Recently one parent will remain with the sleeping child/ren and the other will come inside with whoever is awake.

Lunch is on the table getting cold. They arrived at 11:30, it’s now 13:43.

Aibu for thinking it’s odd (and giving my myself a headache with the amount of eye rolling).

Yeah that's mental

😂😂 that’s insane

It's their choice, I never understand why people can't just let others get on with what they are doing. No-one out of the teenage years should be using eye rolls.

I'd be eating. Take the person in the car a plate?!

Had a relative who'd sit inside watching them through the window 😳

Pick the small child up and carry them in.

Do they never move their children when they are sleeping?

@Ponoka7

It's their choice, I never understand why people can't just let others get on with what they are doing. No-one out of the teenage years should be using eye rolls.

Because they are visiting the OPs house and to make everyone wait ages for lunch after making plans is rude?

Just send them a plate out...

Bonkers! Just stop inviting them. They are clearly not ready to get on with life outside their bubble.

They know stuff you don't. They're trying to spare you the screams. Be grateful

Aye, that's bloody weird.

@Takemine

They know stuff you don't. They're trying to spare you the screams. Be grateful

What every single one of their children screams when moved in their sleep?

I strongly doubt it.

@Takemine

They know stuff you don't. They're trying to spare you the screams. Be grateful

This. I'd start eating when it's ready and take the person in the car a drink and some food.

Just eat lunch without them. I would.

If I’d moved one of mine when they were nearly 2 and sleeping in the car, they’d have woken up and screamed / thrashed about for at least an hour non stop. Think our record was 1 hour 50 minutes of thrashing and screaming before they eventually gave up. Under the OP’s circumstances it would’ve been painful for all present (and we’d have probably given up and gone home after half an hour).

They almost definitely DONT want to stop you all eating so stop being a martyr and just eat when it’s ready and they can warm up a plate or whatever. It doesn’t need to be a huge deal

So rude.

Eat your dinner.

They can forage for themselves later.

I wouldn’t be let them hold everyone else up. Eat at the planned time. I would take them out a plate and that would be it

@Lemons1571

If I’d moved one of mine when they were nearly 2 and sleeping in the car, they’d have woken up and screamed / thrashed about for at least an hour non stop. Think our record was 1 hour 50 minutes of thrashing and screaming before they eventually gave up. Under the OP’s circumstances it would’ve been painful for all present (and we’d have probably given up and gone home after half an hour).

I had one of these too. Every single nap, when she woke, at least 15 min of screaming and crying, but if she was actively woken up, it was more like an hour. Nightmare.

(But yes, eat at the planned time and take them a plate. Merry Christmas!)

Is this your house, OP?

Of course I get it’s their choice, child etc however it becomes such an issue if we carry on with lunch or dinner. Being told we’re disrespectful, rude and childish.

I have suggested a plate in the car before but was told I’m being ridiculous for making them eat in the car, in the cold

The children can be moody but I’ve not witnessed tantrums from them before. ’ve taken care of them in the past and have woken them up for various reasons. They’re grumpy for a bit but definitely no screaming so it’s not that.
I take full responsibility for the behaviour. I’ve enabled it. I’ve just said to everyone in the house let’s eat. The parent who is in the house has stomped off to the car (the 2 kids are staying to eat as they’re starving). Not sure when the others will appear.

You should just go about your day and ignore, if it's best for then/their child and they aren't making unreasonable demands of you what does it matter? A well rested child often makes for a much happier patent - if it's not an inconvenience to you leave them be, if it is let them know and make different plans in future.

Yeah that's madness and they can't even blame it on PFB fog anymore. You need to do what you've done today. Ignore their batshit craziness and carry on with the day. If they choose to continue this silliness that's their business, you don't have to pamper to it.

I'd just eat. They can have leftovers or a sandwich later.