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Original poster

Permit me a litte rant please...

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chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 13:49

...so that I don't explode at home!! Two stepsons have been with us for less than 24 hours - arrived at 5pm last night. In that time they have managed to generate an entire basket full of washing (not a small one) and drank most of the milk that I have in the house. Husband is blind to it so I have to instruct him to put the washing machine on while I hide in my office quietly seething. I mean how the fuck is it even possible to dirty that many clothes in less than 24 hours? AIBU to think they are saving this shit up for when the come to stay with us?!

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Blueuggboots · 23/12/2021 13:50

How old are they? Do they not know how to use a washing machine?

Jacaranda75 · 23/12/2021 13:51

Does it really matter? Just wash them and don't worry about it. There are bigger problems. And you don't want the DSS's to feel unwelcome.

Original poster
chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 13:51

14 and 21 and no.....apparently not. Because we have a washing fairy didn't you know?

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Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 23/12/2021 13:52

Tell 1 to do the washing and send the other to the shop for milk.

Mrsjayy · 23/12/2021 13:54

Rant away but I think you need to let their dad sort them out does it matter of there is washing in the basket although I'd be sending a bloody adult man to the shop for milk 21 acting like a teenager feck that !

LostArcher · 23/12/2021 13:54

Well they can walk and get more milk. I think they should also learn how to use the washing machine but now is probs not the time for this.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/12/2021 13:56

With that amount of laundry send them over to MN, they’ll fit right in Wink

ElfCalavicci · 23/12/2021 13:56

There are two ways to approach thus , either get DH to do the washing , buy more milk tidy up after them or
Better still ( when you have calmed down ) us the 'oh i forgot to show you how to . . . Turn on the washing machine, dish washer , tell you where the shop is . Treat them a bit like small children and then in a firm I will take no shit voice tell them now they know how to do it they are expected to !

Howshouldibehave · 23/12/2021 13:56

@Thehogfatherstolemycurry

Tell 1 to do the washing and send the other to the shop for milk.
This.

There are three adults in the house, why is it your job to do all the washing/shopping?

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/12/2021 13:57

Forget about their laundry, they’re not your clothes. They’ll work out how to wash them or they’ll ask their dad to sort it. Tell him you need more milk.

If you’re going to get through this visit you’ll need to make an active effort to seriously chill a bit.

I hope he sorted the sleeping arrangements and ordered the food.

Just try and let go. You’ll drive yourself mad if you don’t.

Ponoka7 · 23/12/2021 13:57

The washing should be done by your DH, if he isn't going to make them do it. I've never understood why people get upset by the amount of easily bought stuff like milk, guests drink. Again your DH should have allowed for them. I know a lot of young men who go through pints. So what, why the anger?

Original poster
chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 13:58

@Howshouldibehave it's not. I also happen to be the only fucking adult in the household who is working today but apparently I still need to keep tabs on what needs doing.

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Original poster
chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 13:59

@AnneLovesGilbert sleeping arrangements were sorted approximately an hour before they arrived. Youngest complained that eldest kept him awake snoring all night last night. Am staying out of it.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 23/12/2021 13:59

But you don’t. What’s the worst that will happen if they run out of clean clothes or there’s no milk?

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chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 14:00

Oh...and I know I shouldn't get wound up by this but FFS he babies them both (husband). He's off to the supermarket for the eldest as he doesn't like the shampoo that we have in. If you want specific shampoo then fucking bring it yourself!!!!

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Mrsjayy · 23/12/2021 14:00

Well you are choosing to keep tabs on what needs doing let them get in with it.

HelenRose1111 · 23/12/2021 14:01

err just leave the washing and buy yourself some milk & hide it - they'll soon learn there isn't a washing or milk fairy?

Howshouldibehave · 23/12/2021 14:01

[quote chocolatesaltyballs22]@Howshouldibehave it's not. I also happen to be the only fucking adult in the household who is working today but apparently I still need to keep tabs on what needs doing.[/quote]
Why? You don’t have to.

Just don’t get involved.

Mrsjayy · 23/12/2021 14:01

Hopefully he gets milk whilst he's there Grin

arethereanyleftatall · 23/12/2021 14:01

Eh? 14 and 21, with no special needs? Show them, once, how to use your washing machine. No longer your problem. And milk? Standard rule in my house - you finish the milk? You walk to the shop and get more. I'm happy to pay. Since they were 10.

Mofomo · 23/12/2021 14:02

Can't they wash their own clothes

Original poster
chocolatesaltyballs22 · 23/12/2021 14:03

They have been shown how to use the washing machine. Several times. But they'd rather let the washing fairy do it.

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phishy · 23/12/2021 14:04

@Jacaranda75

Does it really matter? Just wash them and don't worry about it. There are bigger problems. And you don't want the DSS's to feel unwelcome.
Hmm
arethereanyleftatall · 23/12/2021 14:05

Well that's easy then. Don't do it any more. You are CHOOSING to get upset by this. Them not having clean clothes has no impact on your life, just theirs. So don't do it, don't think about it, don't let it upset you, don't rant on mn about it. It's literally nothing to do with you.

Mrsjayy · 23/12/2021 14:06

Well let dad be the washing fairy although it sounds like the eldest will want his hoodie or whatever tomorrow so dad better get on to if!

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