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Original poster

Just tell them to go fuck themselves

117 replies

ImperfectTents · 20/12/2021 17:10

So many threads about horrible partners, siblings, parents and friends.

Life Is too short. Full disclosure my relationship of 25 years has crashed to earth and after years of playing nice I’ve had enough. Believe me they should all go fuck themselves. ESP the paedo granddad and the man who gave his partner Covid and now is keeping her prisoner in the spare room.

For the love of god tell them to get to fuck

Thank you

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Shiningpath · 20/12/2021 17:13

Oh that life were that simple.

Original poster
ImperfectTents · 20/12/2021 17:13

I know be great if it was

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RaisedByPangolins · 20/12/2021 17:18

I’m with you. So many of us put up with too much shit from people who are supposed to love us. But it’s the old boiled frog thing isn’t it. When the shitty behaviour ramps up gradually you don’t see it happening and it becomes normalised by increments. I’d love to see a lot more people - myself included - being strong enough to say no. YANBU

Parsley1234 · 20/12/2021 17:23

I completely agree at the age of 54 I realise I have put up with crap for most of my life from substandard men. Thank fuck I’m single most of my friends are with complete tools just move on and meet someone ok or be single

ChangeChingyChange · 20/12/2021 17:23

I agree. People are so weird about this, just go NC and tell them to fuck off. You can't choose your family but it is a choice to still be familiar with them!

blinder · 20/12/2021 17:28

Agree so much. That’s what I feel like responding on multiple threads. People will treat you the way they’ve always treated you. Just GTFO.

Natty13 · 20/12/2021 17:55

I have had this attitude since I was about 24 (now mid 30s) and I can tell you that I am 1000% happier in myself, my relationships with family and friends are stronger and I'm much more confident and content at work.

Life is indeed too short to martyr yourself.

Original poster
ImperfectTents · 20/12/2021 18:06

Team ‘go fuck yourself’ is gathering momentum

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TerraNovaTwo · 20/12/2021 18:18

Completely agree. I often think along the same lines when I read some of the threads about the amount of sheer bullshit people put up with from other people. Life is too short and precious.

NorthSouthcatlady · 20/12/2021 18:19

I’m another member of go fuck your self! Life is too short and people too ungrateful.

@Natty13 good on you for starting young, l only started in my 30’s and have never looked back. My mum thinks lm terrible but then moans when she lets family members “come for Christmas”. AKA eat her out of home, contribute nothing, expected to be waited on and entertained every day

EndoplasmicReticulum · 20/12/2021 18:21

I think sometimes it's easier to tell other people's awful family / relatives to fuck off than it would be your own.

Perhaps we could do swaps?

IcedAbstinente · 20/12/2021 18:21

My FIl says 'I am too old to do things I don;t want to and be with people I don't like'.

I liked that. I am still trying to work up to that in my life... .

Greenfields124 · 20/12/2021 18:25

YANBU

RedCandyApple · 20/12/2021 18:26

I’ve just done it today. Finally, can’t take my useless family anymore.

LlamaParma · 20/12/2021 18:26

As much as it would be great to do that, practically most people can’t, won’t or would look absolutely demented IRL if they did.

It’s like with the “just go home OP” answers when an OP has traveled hours to be at someone’s house and has come up against a slight convenience. Who actually does that?!

Vallmo47 · 20/12/2021 18:27

Here bloody here

GoodnightGrandma · 20/12/2021 18:29

I agree. Just need DH to agree to move out and I’d be happy. You

MeltedWax · 20/12/2021 18:30

Merry Christmas to that! Xmas Smile

bluelemming · 20/12/2021 18:31

It's taken me 60 years but I now only have people in my life who value me. It is so empowering. And peaceful!

Diditopknot · 20/12/2021 18:33

Oh.
So, I’m not the only bad bitch then?
Well that’s just fabulous!

My mantra:
Go to the furthest corner of fuck off and then go another mile.
and Chuck it in the fuck it bucket.

Nope. I am surrounded by people who I want to be surrounded by.
I have little tolerance and just love the word “NO”.

Just “NO”.

Moonface123 · 20/12/2021 18:34

l agree, " Use your voice even if it shakes, "
We owe it to the next generation of young women.

happychristmasbum · 20/12/2021 18:36

YANBU. I am also of an age where my boundaries are cast iron.

I get really frustrated reading posts where people say "Oh I couldn't say no, DP/MIL/DSis would be really upset."

But it's OK for you to be upset, yes?

The shit relationships people stay in, because they think it's better than being alone make me so sad.

Wishineverchangedmyname · 20/12/2021 18:38

Totally agree OP. It's my year anniversary of deciding to separate from my 'D'H. This time last year he was giving me the silent treatment (again) and it was definitely my go fuck your self moment. 1 year in January since he moved out and I've never been happier!

Wishineverchangedmyname · 20/12/2021 18:39

" Use your voice even if it shakes, "
We owe it to the next generation of young women.

Love this!!

WonderfulYou · 20/12/2021 18:40

YANBU I never understand people who put up with crap relationships.
Either your partner should make your life better or stay single.

It’s so much worse when kids are involved too.