Just tell them to go fuck themselves

[ImperfectTents]

So many threads about horrible partners, siblings, parents and friends.

Life Is too short. Full disclosure my relationship of 25 years has crashed to earth and after years of playing nice I’ve had enough. Believe me they should all go fuck themselves. ESP the paedo granddad and the man who gave his partner Covid and now is keeping her prisoner in the spare room.

For the love of god tell them to get to fuck

Thank you

@Shitsexsucks

All of my five sisters have been told to GTFOH.. Over various stages this year. And I'm the sort of person that once I'm done, I'm done. But prior to my Flip Mode, I'm a reusable doormat..

Am I lonely? Yes.

Do I deserve to be bullied and disrespected, like I have been all through life, by them? Nah!

Oh yes me too. Doormat until I flip. And once I flip I flip.

This has inspired me

Amen!

Yep totally agree.
My Dh is upset today as his birthday was ignored by his grown up children except for one text making fun of his age.
Had enough of it.
My family all sent lovely thoughtful messages/cards/ presents including his step daughters who think the world of him.
Spend time with people who care about you or what's the point?

When the penny finally drops it’s definitely them and not you… fabulous moment!

Yep!
Focus on what makes you and your loved ones happy.
Life is really far too short to spend on those who give you grief, make you anxious or who upset you.

I need a bit more of this in my life. Specifically, does anyone have any tips on how to get my downstairs neighbour to fuck off? Either literally (I will pack her boxes for her to get her out quicker if she does sell up) or figuratively as she slams the doors when my kids cry and it's really having an effect on me. I had my fuck off moment in August, when I told her to stop as we wouldn't respond to bullying and intimidation. She had a pathetic little hissy fit but the door slamming stopped until about a week ago. I can't complain to the council as it would be an issue when selling. Any tips?

Saw this thread and needed to chime in.

From abusive parents, abusive exH, psycho sibling, ignorant head in the sand type wider family members in denial that there was something so drastically wrong with living with an egg donor who was a fucking dementor (putting it mildly), sperm donor with handy fists and nasty taunts, exH - the gaslighting narcissitic psychopathic pathetic excuse for a human and all the other DNA entwined fucktards who claimed that family loyalty comes first so no matter what evil they inflict and that blood is thicker than water (so is dog shit mate)...

I often thought through the years there was something wrong with me, there was this constant little voice deep inside that wanted to say to people "Go fucking fuck yourself". Sadly, with low self esteem and being an utter doormat of a people pleaser I never said anything, just let it fester away eating my insides wondering why people were downright nasty and didn't respect me or love me like I did my own children...

Years of therapy has helped and by christ I am nearly fucking there. Just one more fucktard (line manager) to deal with and I will be free of any fucking cunt who thinks they can fucking fuck with me. The final push to be that person to say what I really feel and call out boundary busting behaviour, politely, but directly, was realising a) people who are abusive don't give a flying fuck about your feelings or respects you as a person and b) menopause. After some wonderful HRT to ease the peaks and troughs of the mood swings (More like demonic rage) I'm embracing who I really am - someone who does give a fuck to people who have earned the right to be near me, respect me and never intentionally hurt me - and a women with the absolute ability to say fuck off to those who don't. It's that fucking simple.

I went NC with the egg donor nearly a decade ago, LC with sperm donor, pretty much NC with the majority of the family and divorced the exH. Do I care? Do I fuck. My fuck giving bag is empty and life is very much infinitely better for it.

p.s. Hear you all when you say WTF when reading some threads, makes my blood boil.

@snackodactyl

Fuck yes to this thread, thank you for starting it OP.

You are v welcome

@redannie118 very similar scenario to me except mine happened about 3 years ago and I can honestly say it's been the most blissfully peaceful stress-free time of my life! Unfortunately took me til 60 as I was programmed from birth to be the best doormat but......... Better late than never🤗👏👏

Oh god yanbu.

My family are pretty awful. Recently freed myself from them and I am refusing to get dragged back into their mad drama. It's pretty great! I think you have to reach a point where you don't care what they think and I am happily there.

I agonised over going NC with my AWFUL AWFUL CREEPY dad for decades. I was very frightened of how it would feel. It felt bad being in intermittent contact with him, so surely it would feel worse to never see him again?

Weirdly, no! Who knew? It feels either fine or great!

Don’t blame yourself if you haven’t got to that point yet, but can see it coming. And don’t be afraid of it. It’s much better than it seems.

@Shallwegoforawalk

Menopausal rage is fantastic for turning former people pleasers into fuck off fabulous funsters.

Speaking from experience here!

Absofuckinglutely the change in attitude is quite astounding! Can't believe I was such a pushover. I really admire the younger ones here who are taking no shit in their 20s and 30s too.

@Notthissticky Don't let her intimidate you. Try some very loud star jumps to pumping music if she starts... Seriously though call her out on it every time.

So true. One of the things I'm thankful for is having embraced this by my early 20s. Too many women go through life as people pleasers and martyrs.

Over 30 years ago I told two toxic relatives they could go fuck themselves - no regrets
I had a serious go fuck yourself moment with an in law about 7 years ago roughly - zero regrets

In fact, my regrets revolve around the times that I've been too conciliatory or accommodating
People pleasing honestly gets you nowhere in the end

@Notthissticky - tell her to pack it in and point out that she's basically intimidating small kids. Ask her how good does that make her feel. Tell it like it is. Ignore her hissy fit

@ImperfectTents

I am worried I will become power crazed and just start roaring in the street

This is definitely a job for the back room girls on the Swap App.

With a few tweaks to the software, a crack team of geographically adjacent Go Fuckers can descend upon the Roaring One, & tell her to get the fuck over herself.

Of course, if she is roaring about a deserving Fuckee, the crack team can decide that mission creep is a good thing, & respond accordingly ...

@RantyAunty

It needs to be a service go fuck off Add in cocklodger removalist arsehole removalist

Cocklodger removal squad? I'm in!

All we need is a few black bin liners for his belongings, an address, & a powerful sense of sisterly vengeance.

@TellMeItsPossible

Agree OP.

I've spent the last 2.5 years of my life culling all the narcs, flying monkeys and emotional vampires out of my life and I'm almost done. It's the best feeling in the world.

@TellMeItsPossible, this is a mighty quest.

In my mind's eye, you are clad along the lines of Geralt of Rivia, complete with sharp weapons & glowing, Fuck Off eyes ...

Congratulations @Redannie118 :)

I will show my lilly white arse in M&S window before i let that poisonous bitch hurt me again.

Maybe this could become a Squad routine. Teams of MN Get To Fuckers, baring all for the cause.

@Notthissticky

I need a bit more of this in my life. Specifically, does anyone have any tips on how to get my downstairs neighbour to fuck off? Either literally (I will pack her boxes for her to get her out quicker if she does sell up) or figuratively as she slams the doors when my kids cry and it's really having an effect on me. I had my fuck off moment in August, when I told her to stop as we wouldn't respond to bullying and intimidation. She had a pathetic little hissy fit but the door slamming stopped until about a week ago. I can't complain to the council as it would be an issue when selling. Any tips?

Tips? Summon The Squad.

We will come at midnight, wearing ninja clothing, break in, & remove every single door from her house.

Oh, gosh. It's not very feminine to tell people to fuck off is it.

Fuck that. I've slipped into a good fuck off groove in the last few years. It's boggled the minds of many in my life. I think back to all the fuckers from my past who should have been told to fuck off, and wish I had had the confidence and clarity of mind to have done it back then. It makes my heart glad the next generation of women are better equipped to do so from an earlier age.

@Notthissticky I'll come. I'm handy with a screwdriver.

This post has been just what I needed to hear today as I sit here gritting teeth trying to get through Christmas cheerily for the kids whilst secretly building up my "go f@$& yourself" list to start 2022 with a bang and restart my life as I mean to go on!

Yanbu! Team G.F.Y 🙌

Oh yes.
I spent too may years people pleasing.
Thank feck for the menopause. I will never put up with controlling, draining shit again.