To be really disappointed with this present

[ToMeetOrNotToMeet]

I might sound like an ungrateful twat...

The gift is from my boyfriend (on/off - "on a break" at the moment, but he wants to get back together... and I wish we could as well... which is why I'm upset about this. We're just not the same.

We're at his mother's to celebrate my and her birthday. She puts on a big show, champagne, cake etc. There are six of us. We do gifts at the end. We're in a rented holiday cottage.
We swapped gifts. All very nice: ornaments, plants, choccies, jewelry, wine...

Then boyfriend pulls out a bag of apples and another bag of tomatoes and a piece of bamboo. He tells us to close our eyes and imagine being somewhere where these things are grown and being in a hotel and looking out of the window and it's raining.

Then there are three wrapped boxes. One for me. One for his mother. One for my daughter (aged 4) or his brother (aged 30). He still hasn't clarified. He says it doesn't matter who opens what, but if we get the wrong box, we won't like it.

It's three external hard drives.

We don't know whose is whose. We have no way of checking here.

He collects DVDs and Bluerays. He's obviously put a load of films on these hard drives.

I've told him in the past that I don't care about DVDs (his entire house is full of them - I mean so FULL that I can't visit. Hoarder full.). I have about 30 minutes a night to watch TV and I'm happy with Prime and Netflix).

So now, I've got to go home with a hard drive full of films that might be for his mother. She'll go home with one that could be meant for me or my kid.

I know he's probably spent time doing it (a lot of time) but I've already told him many many times that I have enough with what I have. I'm just not interested in all these fucking films.

And what the fuck are the fruit and vegetables all about?

Everything always has to be weird and cryptic and about him. If he'd asked me I'd have liked an Etsy voucher or a sodding candle.

Now he's really upset that nobody cares about his hard drives. But he hasn't even said what's on any of them.

It's mad. He's not talking to me for being so ungrateful and I just feel upset that he's given me something so weird.

AIBU?

Can I join the queue for a cat and melon please.
Ps I don't want a hard drive.

Keep the hard drive and LTB, he has no empathy for you and probably never will have. Chalk it up to experience,

Too tempting to shove the bamboo up where the sun don’t shine. I don’t think I could put up with that nonsense.

What kind of break is it, when you do a joint birthday celebration with his mother, staying in a rented cottage.

Not any kind I would be doing, I'm afraid.

It seems to me as if you are giving mixed messages here. I'd give him and all his family a very wide berth in future.

I think you two are quite incompatible. I wouldn't like the way he introduced his present either, but probably there are people out there, as quirky as him, who would get him and appreciate it.

Probably not helpful, but according to Sheldon Cooper, tomatoes are fruit. 😁

im so confused right now 😂😂😂 who does that??

I think he is taking you on holiday to Asda.
Enjoy!

Actually, take a look at the hard drive. There might be bitcoin.

Hey, just sayin'. buy us all drinks

The bag of fruit 😂😂 wow

Just ask him - wtf is this all about?

@LetterBug - the famous Tomacco episode. Nice one.

Does he think its like the 80's idea of making your amour a music mixtape, where the order of every track was considered significant?

Assuming he didn't just film it on his iPhone off the telly, he's keeping the vintage DVD's for himself, and you only get an illegally pirate copy.

A Prince.

This is a strange set-up indeed- I am just intrigued by the fruit and the hard drive. But to be honest OP from what you've written here this does not sound like true love to me- sounds like you've settled a bit maybe?

"Bamfuckingboo" 😂

Do you get to choose who gets which fruit? As an aside I would also maybe say autism, my son has it and collects the dvds and blu days of his favourite films. Even if he's got them and it's a different case of picture. He can access all his films on the telly but loves arranging his special shelf.

Throw this one back OP. Your DD and the cats are all you need to see in the new year.

Can you ask him to explain the veg and let us know what he says?!

He sounds awful. Really awful.

@treesandweeds

Can you ask him to explain the veg and let us know what he says?!

Yes fgs please ask him.
I haven't been this confused since Boswell went up the post office steps.

He sounds weird.
Run !
Fast !!!!!

He won't tell me what the fruit, veg and bamboo is about. His brother looked at the hard drive. It's a load of films. He's so pissed off that I don't like it that he's gone to bed. I'm playing ficking scrabble with his mum. I'm off in the morning.

@ToMeetOrNotToMeet

You're all right though. This is untenable.

I said it in my last post OP, mates not partners.

Sounds like his wider family are a big part of your fondness for him, rather than his personality.

It’s just so odd.

It’s some sort of in joke except that you’re not in on. So weird.

There’s something wrong with him.
Dunno him you don’t need this in your life.

*dump

What films?