To ask where you meet professional men?

[InsideMyBed]

To people that have professional dh with high earning careers (over 100k salary ).

Where did you meet them and how did you get together?

Wondering because apart from consultant doctors and dentists that I interact with in clinical settings only, I don’t think I ever come across men who earn over 100k salary.

I feel like most people I know earn £18,000 - £55,000 at the most. I’m sure a few might be on £60k but £100,000 a year . That seems like so much money to me. I’m a university graduate and most jobs in my industry pay between £25,000 - £35,000 a year.

Where do you meet men who earn over £100k a year? Apart from doctors, dentists and barristers. I’m a bit jealous I will admit because these are the kinds of men I don’t even have access to much less share my life with one!

I'd hang around coffee shops in the buildings that those companies have offices IN. Then start chatting

Difficult though these days with WFH

My husband doesn't earn £100k but he earns a good wage. And we got together when he was at the bottom of a company and he just worked his way up.

What do you have to offer a 'high earning man' though? They often look for someone with similar earnings or positions in life.

am high earning myself, but someone has to patent the kids unless you get a Nanny.

DH and I are both high earners. We don't have a nanny, and we manage to parent two under 5s pretty darn well.

I don't work long hours. I'm paid for my expertise, not how many hours I put in. I flex my hours so that I can pick eldest up from school 3 days a week.

I earn well over 100k and met my partner through plenty of fish. Nobody knew my income though I took the rough car out on dates and disguised my wealth. And did for years afterwards. Try earning your own money though it can be very rewarding.

You need to join a high end dating agency. I did before I met my husband. Basically, if you want a partner who earns a high salary, you have to be prepared to shell out £5-10k for a joining fee, and see what /and who comes up. Just like any other dating agency, except you know from the get go, that anyone you meet will be a high earner, irrespective of what else they are or are not. I’ve got a couple of recommendations for sites if you DM me :))

@Toplowlight

The best way to meet high-earning men is to be a high-earning woman.

This.

Me and DH met at university we've been together 12 years now. We've both grown our careers to be high earners.

@ChargingBuck

You could join a swanky health club and meet them there but be warned - lots of high class hookers do exactly the same and the men may well think you are one too.

Well ...

Sizing a man up purely for the contents of his wallet, for which you are prepared to grant a 'relationship' (ie sex) ...

OP you still haven't responded to the several PP's who are interested in why you are not chasing your own £100k career.

I belong to a gym ( l earn my own money and over £100k). I can honestly say that everyone looks like they are broke (and over 60). Membership last opened up 4 years ago I believe and is about £3000 a year in the North. You need to be referred in even then

So not sure you can just join the kind of gym the Op would need

HolidayTime2021
The spas near me have memberships that costs a few thousand a year and are full of rich men and women. I’m in the South East.

My dad is also a self made millionaire and you wouldn't have a clue. He drives a standard car, high street clothes, he's actually so careful with money, nothing flash about him!

I've been very happily married to my wonderful average earning husband for twenty years.
It's not all about money.. 😊

This is a wind up, surely.

DM fodder.

University. I earned more than him when we married, had the savings and salary to secure a mortgage on our large house etc.

Once we had children and I took maternity leave and couldn't put in the hours or effort because I wanted to be there for nativity and sports day and doctors appointments and sick days etc, his career overtook mine. Maybe it always would have done, but I think we'd have been equal earners if we hadn't had children.

I'm not sure starting a relationship off with a large discrepancy in earnings is very easy. The power imbalance would be too great for me.

I met by husband at work (financial institution) He earns over 100k and he was in a different department. Then there was Christmas party…. the rest is history. Nothing wrong in fact that you want to meet men that earn over 100k - it’s always good to aim high and aim for high quality of life. Worth at least trying.

Loads of jobs pay about that in the construction industry. I know quite a few higher management construction professionals and company owners who earn that sort of wage.
Doesn't seem unattainable to me, though if I'm working full time, my wage around £70k anyway...though I'll admit that I think I just live in a bubble now where money flies around at a shocking rate.

As you work upwards in your career you'll find yourself rubbing shoulders with people who earn more.
I'm not saying plan to end up with them, but you have access to different people at different stages in your life.

I’m getting the sense deep down that you don’t believe that you could do a proper career (that paid you well), OP yet you see yourself pitched at a certain level and need someone to pay for that lifestyle. Do you come from a traditional thinking background ? My mum always used to say don’t worry about money or house you’ll meet a nice man but fortunately my dad wanted us to be financially independent. I always thought in terms of financial independence anyway but there is traditionally a lot of older generation who think in terms of a partnership - they bring something else to the relationship whilst the man brings the money.

I would question why you haven’t asked any of the respondents here about legitimate ways to earn that kind of money. I suspect you think money will solve a lot of problems but ime, it can only help you save time/energy once you have found the solution to a problem. Your brain is as good as anyone else’s, OP. Why aren’t you using it?

My DH earns over 100k. Met him when we were 18 at our part time job. Obviously didn't earn that at 18! However, he works insane hours, is expected to at the beck and call of his boss, travels a lot and is always stressed.

@WorraLiberty

Because there’s so much more you can do with a higher salary!

I earn much, much less than £100k

But you don't have a higher salary to 'do so much more with'??

What makes you think you're entitled to ponce off of someone else?

So they put all the hard work and study etc in, and you think you can just stroll up and start living off their money?

Bloody hell.

Thanks for putting this so clearly. Surprisingly, a LOT of women think they are entitled to do this !

*are

Your question should be 'how do I earn over 100k salary.

Cos who wants to rely on someone else for their money? Doing that is what I'd call trapped

In the unlikely case of this being genuine I'm going to try to to balance on the fence and avoida splinterup my arse. It depends on what the expectation of the OP was growing up.
Financial security has a lot to be said for it, those saying go earn it yourself, it may not be realistic for the OP to do that. You generally need education, opportunities, confidence and ability.

I'm in my 50s, my DGM told me as a child to avoid poor men as not having money ruins your life. The expectation was to marry upwards. We lived in a council house on an estate. Very few had cars there in the 70s. Went to local comp with poor reputation.

I ignored the advice and married for love. I was no catch even if I had the opportunity to meet anyone!!! Not even attractive. I've been poor for all my adult life but the last 5 years. I only earn 25k now and DH has state pension. We are the most comfortable that we have ever been. Will never own my home and retirement won't be a option though.

My bil (dsis hubby) earns almost 150k. Did a mundane degree at Bradford uni and ended up by chance in an it related role. He now owns his own company freelancing for global industries on sophisticated software installations. 5 bed home in the north and a holiday home in Cyprus. Dsis is a SAHM. her hubby rarely goes out tho.

Dsis and hubby met at school and have been together forever!

My husband earns £300k, has an Oxford degree and is handsome AND extremely entertaining. I met him in a scuzzy pub recovering from a hard night on mdma. I’d also been up all night on the bong so we bonded instantly.

We both worked in the city and had both just been made redundant so neither of us were gold diggers. Plus we earned the same anyway at that time. Plus he was wearing a pair of clogs and some flares. He took me for chips and a slid on a dog turd on the way home. None of these things are very attractive points are they?

Life’s a gamble hun!
Hth.

It was probably easier pre-pandemic, but this will still work here in England. It is 100% certain to work:

• Sign up for an advanced software development course (example topics would be machine learning, computer vision, could security)

• Ensure the course had some physical attendance and spread over a few weeks, workshops, preferably with 2 or 3 days together thus it is likely an overnight stay

• Everyone will be interested to chat and make new contacts during breaks, and go for lunch/dinner. Figure out who is single, and shag them to ensure you are compatible. After a few nights/shags you'll quickly find a really nice guy (or woman) that is happy to be with you.

Note: This will 100% work!! The only part you need to figure out is how to explain why you attended the course...but that is for later down the road :)